Hello, I'm Xiyue In recent years, the three words "worthiness" have appeared more and more frequently in people's field of vision and have become a hot word on the Internet. When I carefully understood its meaning, I found that I had been deeply affected by these three words. In psychology, "worthiness" refers to the belief in what you deserve. Growing up, I was always a girl with a low sense of worthiness. When I was in middle school, I was embarrassed to write an essay that was praised by my teacher, and I felt that I could write nothing more than that. When I was in college, I won scholarships every year, and my classmates called me a top student, and I often felt that I was really bad. When I was at work, I was appointed by the leader to be the leader of the project team, and my first reaction was to refuse, because I felt that I was not capable enough to take on this important responsibility. People with a low sense of deserving, in the face of praise or appreciation, their first reaction is not to be happy, but to feel that they are not worthy of such praise. People with a low sense of worthiness often belittle themselves, often fall into self-denial and doubt, and often say to themselves: I am not worthy. In the long run, people with a low sense of deserving will miss out on many opportunities at work, the right person in their relationship, and the good things in life. 
1. Why do you feel unworthy? I asked myself why I always felt unworthy, and the answer that came to my heart was related to my family of origin. When I was a child, I saw other children with expensive toys and beautiful clothes, and when I came home, I pestered my parents to buy them for me. However, the most heard sentence is: our family is poor, we can't afford to buy such toys, and we can't afford to wear such clothes, which only the children of rich families deserve. When I grew up, I made money and could afford those beautiful and expensive clothes, but in the end, I didn't make it. Whenever I want to place an order, there is always a voice in my heart telling me that it is something that only rich people can have, and it is clothes that only good-looking people can wear. This feeling of unworthiness affects me deeply, not only materially, but also emotionally. likes someone who is better than himself, and only dares to like it silently in his heart, and never thinks of developing into a relationship. Because I feel unworthy, unworthy of being liked by others, and not worthy of having a good relationship. People who have a low sense of deserving not only do not believe in themselves, but also do not trust others. The feeling of unworthiness caused by the influence of the original family is a tight spell on the road to growth, and it is difficult to get rid of it when you grow up. 
2. How to improve the sense of worthinessCharlie Munger once said, "The surest way to get something you want is to make yourself worthy of it." "People who are worthy always have a sense of self-confidence that they are worthy of all the good. If an ordinary girl wants to turn the tables against the wind and completely change her fate, she must first develop a sense of high worthiness. Girls who accept their imperfections and have a low sense of deserving always feel that they are not good enough and dare not strive for what belongs to them. In fact, there are no perfect people in this world, and only by accepting our own shortcomings can we wholeheartedly pursue what we want. Dare to try and make mistakesWhen the opportunity comes, don't refuse for fear of making mistakes, but learn to correct while acting. Don't doubt yourself because you make the slightest mistake, and believe that everything happens in my favor. Don't ask why this is happening to you, but what is it trying to teach me? Benjamin Franklin once said, "The greatest reason why a man fails is that he never trusts his own abilities to the fullest, or even thinks that he will fail." "Fear of failure can only make you lose more opportunities, and only by daring to try and make mistakes can you continue to improve and grow. The sense of accomplishment of completing each small goal will bring people self-confidence, so you may wish to set small goals for yourself, and when you complete the small goals, you will also have a small sense of achievement. For example, exercise for 30 minutes a day, read a book every month, and write 500 words a day ......Don't ignore every small success, it is a manifestation of your own victory. If you want to **10 pounds, start by losing 1 pound, gain achievement and self-confidence from small goals, and eventually slowly complete the big goals. Girls must have a sense of high worthiness, because what you believe, you will get. Believe that your efforts are worthy of your luck, and your gains are worthy of your efforts. Replace "I don't deserve" with "I deserve it", I deserve all the good things in this world. End I am Xiyue, an ordinary post-90s rural girl in 2024, spend a year restarting her life and focusing on personal growth l Self-discipline l Reading sharing ps: Image source Xiyue.