I am 70, 54 years old this year, retired for more than three years, and my pension has increased three times, and it is less than 3,000 yuan.
I remember that when I graduated from a technical school and was assigned to a company, I felt that I had finally served an iron rice bowl and had a formal job, and I was very excited.
Years passed, time flies, I worked in the company for 32 years, followed the company's restructuring many times, and finally retired at the age of 50.
Looking at the small pension, and then looking at the savings in the bank, looking forward to the future, I am confused.
After being divorced for many years and raising her daughter alone, I thought that my daughter's participation in work would make me worry-free.
Who knows, after working for a few years, Yao Qiang's daughter went ashore for graduate school entrance examination and walked into the campus again.
And I can only give my full support, retire and continue to work hard in life.
1. The first half of my life was hard and unbearable.
Psychologist Adler said: "Happy people spend their childhood ** for a lifetime, while unhappy people spend a lifetime ** for ** childhood." ”
My childhood was unfortunate, with neither food nor the freedom to study.
As an adult, I vowed to fulfill my child's dream of studying, no matter how difficult it was.
My ex-husband and I were married for three years and gave birth to a daughter, but my in-laws disliked me and didn't go to the countryside to give birth to a son according to my in-laws' wishes.
After the divorce, I lived alone with my daughter, and in order to provide good conditions for my daughter, I lived a minimalist life by myself.
After work, I pedaled a tricycle, worked as a food stall, and mostly did it as long as I could earn money.
The daughter is also competitive, studying all the way to college, because of the obsession with the mentor in her heart, after joining the work, she has been going to graduate school.
Finally, in the fourth year of work, I was admitted to the school and tutor she liked, and I had to continue to work hard to earn money.
2. Be a live-in nanny for her daughter's retirement.
When I retired at the age of 50, my daughter was in her second year of graduate school, and she kept telling me that she was going to get a Ph.D. and get her dream degree.
Maybe it's because I haven't read enough, so I want to satisfy my daughter's desire to read.
When I was young, I wanted to go to college, but my parents insisted that I go to work early to earn money to support my family.
Not only did I not go to high school, college, but even the correspondence college I studied at work ended up being a piece of waste paper at the bottom of the box.
Reading is also an obsession in my heart, and I think that as long as my daughter is willing, I will fully support it at any stage of reading.
After I retired, I got a lot of work for myself, including a supermarket tally clerk, helping others look after the store, and also working as a courier.
Eventually, in order to earn more money to provide for my daughter's education, I entered the domestic service industry.
After some training, I worked as a live-in nanny, earning 6,000 a month, which seemed to be higher than the salary of young people, but in fact I worked hard to earn money.
The employer is a 76-year-old aunt with sequelae of cerebral infarction, she can't speak, and the right side of her body can't move, but it doesn't affect her torment at all.
During the day, my aunt was quiet and silent, and after eight o'clock in the evening, when I was busy with the day's work and ready to go to bed, she began to toss.
One moment to drink water, the next to the bathroom, and even, after I fell asleep, knocked on the head of the bed with the hand that could move, and when she saw that I was awake, she smiled.
3. My daughter is studying for a doctorate, so she can only continue to work to earn money.
In the face of such an employer, I can't tell you whether the elderly are selfish or human beings are selfish.
During the day, I talked to her well, and even told my aunt about the experience of the first half of my life, and she would cry silently, but she still tossed at night.
It is said that live-in nannies earn money, but this salary is really exchanged for life, but if there is a little savings, or some way, I really don't want to be a live-in nanny.
After graduating from graduate school, my daughter was admitted to a doctorate, but I didn't want her to continue to study for a doctorate, hoping that my daughter could see the reality.
Today's children only have themselves in their hearts, and I usually see that my daughter is not frugal in spending, and I am still a little angry in my heart.
The tuition fee of 10,000 yuan a year, as well as various expenses in ordinary times, although there are subsidies for studying for a doctorate, it can be a drop in the bucket, and the family needs to subsidize it.
My daughter didn't come home during the Chinese New Year, and told me that she applied for a PhD abroad, but I was 12 points unwilling, but I couldn't say it.
I struggled to support her education by myself, but I couldn't hold on, and I quit my job as a live-in nanny.
Although I earn money, it is really terrible, and now I work three part-time jobs in the community, and I can earn thousands of dollars a month.
At the very least, I can sleep quietly during the day, and I won't be like a live-in nanny, who can't sleep well at any time.
4. The mother of an only daughter can only wronged herself and fulfill her daughter.
The daughter also approached her ex-husband in the hope that the ex-husband could support her, but the ex-husband said that the daughter was over 18 years old and he was not obliged to pay for living expenses.
As the mother of an only daughter, I can only wronged myself and fulfill my daughter's dream of studying by shouldering such a heavy task alone.
Sometimes, I think that reading is also a very luxurious thing, and not everyone is qualified.
It is said that it is difficult to produce a noble son from a poor family, but in the face of reality, the most important thing is to live and earn money to support themselves.
My daughter went abroad to study for a PhD, not the kind of person who has a scholarship, I think she should give up, I don't have enough financial support for her.
After discussing with my daughter, she is unwilling to give up, and I really can't support her hundreds of thousands of expenses a year, do I want to sell the house to fulfill her?
Think about how terrible a person's obsession isWithout talent, relying only on hard work, often do not get the results you want.
How can I convince my daughter to give up studying abroad for a PhD? Or smash the pot and sell the iron land to fulfill her daughter's dream?
Write at the end:
I'm only 54 years old, and I'm at least five years older than my peers.
The decline of physical function, the reversal of menopause, the loneliness in life, and the economic pressure.
I reached an unbearable situation, why is my daughter so selfish, only thinking about herself, never thinking about her mother's ability.
I have a monthly pension of less than 3,000 to support myself and support my daughter, who is studying for a PhD.
In the face of life, I have to continue to work to earn money, if I don't work, I really can't live.
Now it's not so easy to work as a part-time worker, the pickiness of the employer, the skill of cooking, and the skill of getting along with people.
I really envy my sisters of the same age, who retire and lie flat and enjoy the rest of their lives.
And I will most likely be busy until the end of my life, for myself and for my daughter.
Perhaps, these are my debts in this life!
Author: Huagui Zen Heart.
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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