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There is such a consulting case: he said that he was 28 years old, but he felt that he was still very immature, and he always wanted to rely on others when he encountered things, and rarely solved them alone. In addition, I am more introverted, and I rarely communicate with colleagues at work, and the key is to grow so big or a maternal solo, and I am very anxious when I see that my friends around me are all married and have children.
But I don't know how to take the first step to mature and become independent quickly.
Here's how I replied to him, and in view of the universality and representativeness of this case, I am here for your reference:
1. Economic independence is the premise of personality independence. First of all, take the power of salary in your own hands, and establish a mature concept of consumption and financial management, especially when you have money and savings in your hands, your heart must be stable and stable.
2. Don't hand over your salary to your parents, at most give a little alimony every month. Otherwise, you will never be able to break away from your parents' control and become an independent, mature individual.
3. I feel that I am still immature at the age of 28, and there is a high probability that I am still living with my parents. It is advisable to move out and rent a house on your own, and you will be independent quickly. Even if you are not in the same city as your parents, the farther away from your parents the better.
4. Fall in love as soon as possible, don't have too high a vision, don't pick and choose, brush up on experience first, otherwise you will enter the marriage directly through a blind date, and your marriage will most likely have problems. Before the age of 30, love is the best school in life, even if you meet a scumbag and a scumbag, it doesn't matter, a scumbag and a scumbag can make you grow up faster.
5. When you no longer rely on your parents at home, go out with friends, and get rid of the weak psychology shaped by the weak culture of "waiting and relying on demand", you will be independent. Of course, in the process of getting rid of it, you will inevitably have to take detours, hit the south wall, and pay tuition, but these detours, south walls and tuition fees are just independent nourishment.
For people teach people, but they can't; Teach people once. This belongs to "grinding on things", only after experiencing some things, you will know and act together.
6. It may not be enough to "grind on things", you have to "learn from books". The former is passive, the latter is active. Relying on passive "grinding on things" is relatively slow, and it is also a lot of losses, when you combine "learning from books" and "grinding on things", you can truly achieve the unity of knowledge and action.
Above, for reference.