Let's talk about the conclusion first: good love and marriage are two people who are happy, in love, and in love with each other.
Why do I put love and marriage together? Because in fact, the two are emotionally identical, and there are roughly three emotions involved: love, family affection, and friendship.
Love, that is, the feelings that arise between men and women of the opposite sex, may be because of hormones, or because of others, in short, it is limited to men and women, and other equal genders are not discussed.
Family affection, that is, the feelings generated between blood relatives day and night, although there is no blood relationship between husband and wife, but from the length of the whole life, it should be the closest relatives.
Friendship, that is, the feelings generated between friends, the good state between couples and marriages, in fact, like good friends, are communicating and communicating with an equal mentality.
Therefore, it should be said that good couples and couples are not only good lovers, but also good friends and relatives, and love and marriage are no different on the emotional level. Many people always say that love (love) is not the same as marriage, and aside from the legal level, it is nothing more than considering too many economic interests.
Objectively speaking, survival may have nothing to do with emotions, and you can live a life, but if you want a better life, a happier life, you have nothing without emotions.
So what's going on with each other and falling in love?
In fact, most of us love someone because we like it, and only a few people can love someone because we love. It may be difficult for many people to understand, after all, we always hear that there is no love for no reason, and there is no hate for no reason, and this sentence must be true. However, this is not necessarily because I like each other very much and love them, but because I love them because my heart is full of love.
Let's first discuss love because we like each other, what do we like each other for?
This question has been studied in evolutionary psychology, in fact, in my opinion, it is a statistical law:
For men, they like women to be young, beautiful, loyal, chaste, and so on;
For women, they like men who have an economic foundation, social status, age, diligence, reliable character, emotional stability, normal IQ, good image, good health, kindness, caring, etc.
In fact, in terms of quantity, women demand more from men than men from women. Of course, the above is only the common law of statistics, and for each specific person, it is necessary to analyze specific problems on a case-by-case basis.
The above law roughly explains what a person likes because of something, and this kind of liking is not static, but dynamically changing.
Because of this kind of like, we love each other, without this like, we don't love each other, the difference between liking and love, can be roughly understood here.
Now answer what is going on with each other and love, in fact, I like you, you just like me, I am willing to love you, you happen to be willing to love me, two people agree on an equal mentality emotionally, no one is high or low, and this state is not because of the transaction between the two parties, but more of a spiritual and psychological state.
In other words, two people are more complete in their hearts, rather than lacking in their hearts, so as to meet each other's emotional needs, that is, the real mutual happiness and love for each other.
In general, a good love and marriage is extremely difficult, because the state of being in love, in love, and in love with each other is extremely difficult in itself, which has high requirements for both people.
However, in any case, the yearning for a good love (love) love and marriage is essentially a yearning for happiness, happiness is the ultimate goal, and happiness is our pursuit. And happiness lies in the mutual pleasure of the two feelings, the love of each other, and the perfect harmony and unity of love, family affection, and friendship.
The strong, the lover] is the overall principle and framework of the theoretical system of love that I have constructed, and it can even be said that it is the framework of the whole life. Strong is the strength of self-improvement, not the strength of competitiveness. Next, I will put the whole shelf up, I just hope that everyone can really have the heart and ability to love others, and carry forward the good side of human nature. I just want to unravel all the emotions and life puzzles, so that there are no secrets to speak of, I don't like some people to say some messy emotional remarks on the Internet, it is extremely boring to see, and it hurts people. I want everyone to live their lives clearly, or at least less painfully, and if they are lucky, live a happy life.