Lin Chiling was scolded again.
Some time ago, the outflow of her shooting of a new magazine caused a wave of heated discussions.
Although most people just sigh that time never defeats beauty, only she can surpass Lin Chiling.
But there are still many voices that ridicule her and slap her face and question her money.
After all, it has been less than a year since Lin Chiling announced her retirement from the circle.
There is no shortage of malicious speculation among the do-gooders that she is back to work because she has had a bad time in her marriage?
Although Lin Chiling has been married for more than 4 years now.
However, she has never let go of her prejudice against her marriage.
Every once in a while, there is an endless stream of negative reports about it.
For example, there is ** has made a big publicity that Lin Chiling was abused after marriage.
And in order to prove that her marriage is not happy, the details of her married life also seem to be observed with a magnifying glass, and every bit is magnified.
Lin Chiling was photographed on the street wearing clothes that did not show her figure, and some people on the Internet immediately ridiculed her for being swollen and out of shape.
Lin Chiling posted a photo of herself with her lover and children, and the focus of netizens' discussion was also on how Lin Chiling looked old and ugly.
There are always people who try to strongly associate Lin Chiling's state with marriage.
But is she really having a bad time?
Soon after rumors of domestic violence and divorce came out, Lin Chiling took the initiative to clarify them.
As for the so-called "bad state", "comparable to plastic surgery" and other statements.
Please, Lin Chiling is 49 years old this year, and her state has declined, no matter how you look at it, it's a normal thing.
Besides, if a normal person is 49 years old and can be like her, I'm afraid it's too late to be happy, right?
Few people know that in this relationship, Lin Chiling is the one who takes the initiative.
If she really doesn't like it, how can she propose to her then-boyfriend and current husband?
If she is really dissatisfied, how can she often say that she likes her current family very much?
Although many people feel that no matter their appearance or fame, their husband is not as good as Lin Chiling.
But marriage is not vanity fair, and each other's conditions are not to be compared with each other.
For Lin Chiling herself, the elegant and generous "Sister Chiling" in the impression of others is just a burden that makes it gradually difficult for her to breathe.
It wasn't until she met her current lover that she gained complete freedom and ease.
In life, every couple or couple who appears in the public eye has the experience of being ended by bystanders.
These people always judge the good and bad of a relationship by their own standards, and sigh that "the authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear".
Isn't that how Zhou Yiwei and Zhu Dan are?
Once because Zhu Dan told about "Zhou Yiwei never cooks at home", "I had a lot of bleeding when I gave birth, but Zhou Yiwei was not there", "My husband can't look down on my filming" and other post-marital details, plus ** added fuel to the fire.
Zhou Yiwei was immediately labeled as a "machismo, a PUA master, and a top greasy man".
However, a few years later, as the whole picture of the marriage between the two was revealed, the audience suddenly discovered that everything was a misunderstanding accidentally created by Zhu Dan.
Ruby Lin and Huo Jianhua were also typical examples of "bad relationship between husband and wife" in the eyes of the public.
Especially at the beginning, after Huo Jianhua and Ruby Lin quarreled on the street and left each other alone on the street, rumors of an imminent marriage change spread with the wind in an instant.
However, after more than half a year, not only did he not see the slightest shadow of divorce, but Huo Jianhua was also photographed happily taking his daughter to celebrate his mother-in-law's birthday.
Marriage and family are visibly strong.
I've seen such a sentence:
People will only see what they want to see and hear what they want to hear.
When some people start to feel that the couple is not in a good relationship, then it will be evidence of a relationship breakdown as far as the eye can see.
It's like they can only see Huo Jianhua and Lin Xinru arguing, but they can't see the hands of the two before the quarrel interlocking their fingers.
In fact, every relationship is multifaceted.
There are beautiful and sweet parts, and there are also trivial and discordant scenes.
And the onlooker standing at a distance should understand,What you see is always just an angle, not the whole picture.
Therefore, whether you think the other party is happy or unhappy, you should not jump to conclusions.
When you are still struggling with why the couple has not divorced, maybe they live happily every day in private.
And when you applaud a love in the spotlight, it may have turned into a fragile piece wrapped in duct tape.
I remembered a movie I watched called "Love Before Midnight".
Because the male protagonist wrote the story of his and his wife's encounter on the train and their reunion after a long absence 9 years into the book.
His readers and friends have always felt that the relationship between the two lovers must always be perfect.
During the dinner, the friends expressed their envy for them and prepared a romantic honeymoon hotel for them.
However, in fact, after experiencing marriage and childbirth, and cheating in marriage, the relationship between this once loved couple has long been mixed with many other emotions.
For example, dissatisfaction, entanglement, and disgust.
And these are not known to others who have not experienced it firsthand.
In some people's worlds, the words that comment on other people's marital feelings can always be said easily and casually.
obviously didn't really see it with their own eyes, but it didn't prevent them from causing unrelieved harm to the parties under the banner of "for your good".
I remember a reader sent such a message to Mr.
She said that since she and her husband got married, they have been troubled.
Because her friends always label her marriage as "unhappy".
In the eyes of her friends, her husband has an impatient personality and looks like five big and three rough.
is lazy and even has a tendency to domestic violence, which is their unanimous impression of this man.
In fact, although the husband is indeed an acute child, he is very principled and reasonable, and never loses his temper for no reason.
Every time I make a mistake, I will take the initiative to admit it in time.
looks fierce on the outside, but on the inside is a simple and lovely person. not only spoils his wife and children, but also is extremely filial to the parents of both sides.
Now that they have been married for 4 years, their relationship is still happy and sweet.
However, no matter how much she explained to the people around her, her friends still felt that she was just covering up the unhappiness in her marriage.
This made her angry and helpless.
Whether his husband is good or not, can people who look at it from the outside know better than those who are wives?
There's an old saying:
Whether the shoes fit or not, the wearer knows. ”
Marital feelings are very personal after all.
A thousand kinds of marriages will have a thousand kinds of appearances.
Sometimes what seems to be evidence of a breakdown in a relationship is just a habit of getting along with couples. And all kinds of public displays of affection may also be just elaborate disguises.
Onlookers simply can't tell.
People who haven't experienced it firsthand will never be able to truly empathize.
Marriage is like drinking water, knowing its own warmth and coldness.
The only person who can know whether a relationship is good or not is always the person concerned.
Whether the person on the other side is good or not, and whether the soul is compatible or not.
These are only the parties who have experienced it for themselves and are qualified to make judgments.
As bystanders, we really just need to send our blessings.
Sometimes, not caring too much about others is a more appropriate courtesy.