After retirement, no matter how high the pension is and how big the house is, the best way to live is these "four idioms", many people don't know!
Many people will think that they will retire and retire, but this is not always the case, even if they receive a certain pension every month and live a decent life, it is still difficult to have a high-quality old age.
Although pensions have been raised in recent years, the price level is also constantly rising, which is a drop in the bucket in comparison.
And with the continuous price level, those who do not have a pension will have a more difficult life.
We can't change the environment, we can't influence the laws of historical development, we can only change ourselves, adapt to the current environment, and try to make ourselves comfortable.
After retirement, no matter how high the pension is and how big the house is, the best way to live is these "four idioms".
01. "Flood furnace point snow": change your thinking in time, adjust your mentality, and enjoy yourself in hardship.
Snow Mountain Collection" said: "The abbot of Jinshan who stayed overnight was not allowed to sleep, and he took a few case documents in his hand, and he had to read it, and he went to the furnace to point snow, and it was suddenly not the usual situation." ”
When you encounter a predicament, don't be stubborn in the current situation and be trapped by the environment, but learn to change your thinking, open your mind, but suddenly wake up, and the problem will melt as quickly as snow falls on the fire.
Mo Yan once said: "Some people only do two things in their lives: disobey and strive for."So, it's getting better and better. There are also people who do only two things in their lives: wait, regret;So, the more mixed it is, the worse it gets. ”
In fact, whether people advance or retreat, they are not static, but must be constantly adjusted and changed according to different life stages and different life circumstances.
There is an old man in the countryside of his hometown, who is almost 90 years old, his eyes are narrowed into a slit, his teeth are gone, his mouth is sunken, and his face is full of wrinkles, but they are all folds of happiness and contentment.
He only received a pension of a few hundred yuan a month, but he was very content, according to his words: "It is really something I never dreamed of to receive a pension in this life." ”
He made coarse tea and light meals every day, cleaned the courtyard every day, made a mazha against the wall to bask in the sun, and took the mazar to the field in the afternoon, sat on the ground, looked at the crops, watched the sunset, kind and peaceful.
In fact, no matter what time in life, accepting everything that has happened is the hardest and the best.
You must know that when people are old and have no obstacles in their hearts, it is a good time in the world.
02, "Winter and Summer Clouds": Be a leisurely old man and become a treasure at home.
Cheng Bo Chunzan said: "This is the right body, but Dewenwen is like a winter day and a summer cloud." ”
What people look forward to most in winter is the warm sun, shining bright and warm on their bodies;In summer, people like the white clouds in the sky the most, and it makes people feel happy to see them.
When people are old, they are like the warm sun in winter, not dazzling but warm, just like the white clouds in summer, not blinking but quiet.
A friend has a grandmother in her 90s, who said, "No matter what uncomfortable things happen, as long as I stay with my grandmother, I feel very relaxed and relieved." ”
Grandma has always been an admirable old man in the village, because she takes good care of many left-behind children in the village, often making them new cotton jackets and pants, and cooking them hot meals.
Until now, there are many children who have grown up and go back to their hometown to visit their grandmother from time to time, although she is old, she does not forget to carry some candy in her pocket and give it to the children.
People, Mo Dao Sangyu night, for the sun is still full of sky. When a person is old, he has a good heart, even if he sits there and does nothing, the kindness and quietness of his face is enough to give people an infinite strength.
03. "Clouds are full of paper": live to learn and keep pace with the times.
Liu Xian, a writer of the Northern and Southern Dynasties, once said: "The clouds are carved in color, and there is more than the wonder of painting." ”
Aunt Wang in the community accidentally fell and broke her leg last year, so she could only barely move around a small area at home with crutches.
After she let her children take care of them for 2 weeks, she followed her daughter to learn how to place an order for groceries on major grocery apps.
Now, she has not only learned to buy groceries on the app, but also followed some free courses at home to learn calligraphy and painting, and her life is vibrant.
Last year, because her calligraphy works were valued by the community, she was specially invited to teach the elderly who love calligraphy in the community.
When people are old, don't mess around with their lives, but keep up with the times, cultivate and learn some new skills and hobbies, and enrich their later life.
04. "Falling joy can be picked up": treat your wife well and manage the relationship between husband and wife.
and Fu Danong and the wingmen farewell" poem: "Falling joy is more connected, and Caritas is hard to find." ”
In this life, Mu Ran looks back, no matter how good your friends are, no matter how good your parents are, they will leave, no matter how close your brothers and sisters are, you can't always take care of you, no matter how filial your children are, they can't always be by your side.
When people reach old age, it seems very naïve to care about those ethereal loves, and it is the truest love to accompany each other until they are old.
After retirement, no matter whether good or bad, you and your lover have walked through most of your life hand in hand, and you are the only person in this world who will never leave you.
When people reach old age, don't get angry and hurt with your wife because of trivial things in life, there is nothing that can't be honestly communicated and said.
The small things in life can be improved, and if they can be tolerated, they will be tolerated. If you do something wrong when you are young, you will make up for it when you have the opportunity to make up for it when you are old.
Life, except for life and death, is a trivial matter, especially in old age, it is the true meaning of life.
When people reach old age, two people in one house, three meals and four seasons, and stand together at dusk, this is a great happiness and should be cherished.
Mo Yan wrote in "The Late Bloomer": "True strength is not forgetting, but accepting." Accept parting ways, accept the impermanence of the world, accept loneliness and frustration, accept sudden powerlessness, accept your imperfections, accept confusion, insecurity, anxiety and regret, adjust your state, find the strength to move on, and become a better version of yourself. ”
After retirement, life does not mean to fade, but to learn to change the way of life in the existing conditions, live a richer life, more nourishing, more loving, warmer, and have a happy old age.