The first time I found that it was so tiring to lift people, I still carried 5 people together.
When I was a child, I often woke up crying at night because I was afraid of the death of my family, my mother put her arms around me, comforted me, and said something I can't remember, maybe she didn't say anything, because life and death are also incomprehensible to her. I had difficulty finding my mother, and now that I think back on it, my mother was about the same age as I am now, and I realized that life and death are completely unbearable for a person in his 30s.
I think of the scene 18 years ago, that night, the two uncles accompanied my grandfather, facing the old father who had been bedridden for many years and had no consciousness, the second uncle drank some wine, pointed to the old man and said to the uncle: "There has to be this day!" Sooner or later, this day has to come! This thing! Ay! ”
The second uncle's voice has always been hoarse, he was just 50 years old at that time, and he was already a little hunchbacked, but he was very healthy. The second uncle's disdain for death just reflects his helplessness, life is just like this, there has to be this day! But who would have thought that the day of the second uncle would come so quickly.
During this year's Mid-Autumn Festival, the second uncle, who had greatly improved his health, personally cooked and made a sumptuous banquet. Everyone ate very well, but the second uncle couldn't eat anything, so he got off the table early and went back to the house to rest. Everyone thought that this was caused by the uncle's physical exhaustion after surgery, but in the evening, the second uncle suddenly fell in the kitchen, saying that it was okay and that his legs were no longer good.
My aunt decided to take my uncle to the hospital, I carried my second uncle downstairs, the car just arrived at the hospital, the second uncle just got out of the car and suddenly had convulsions, the scene was very scary, my brother hurried to hang up the emergency department, I and my aunt were at the door of the hospital to help my uncle. I have always advertised that I am very strong, but I found that I couldn't even support a thin patient, and finally I could only let my second uncle lie on the ground, I quickly rushed into the hospital and shouted to my brother: "Hurry up! No one is going to do it anymore! ”
I never shouted at my brother, and I didn't care so much at this time, so we pushed my second uncle to the emergency room, and the doctor said that it was most likely a tumor**. It was like a bolt from the blue for us. Fortunately, the second uncle returned to normal in a moment, and when we got home, my aunt discussed with me if I could stay for a few days before leaving, and I said no problem, needless to say, this is my uncle.
Two days later, the three of us went to the hospital and came to the conclusion that the cancer cells had metastasized to the head and needed a craniotomy. I didn't know anything about cancer, and I heard later that cancer could be declared a death sentence as soon as it reached the head. But at this time, the plan given is still positive**, take one step at a time.
Three years ago, my uncle was in very good health, although he was very thin, he was very energetic in his work, and he went upstairs with three cases of beer in one breath without breathing. Uncle is definitely a good worker, there is no job he can't do, he said that my brother once commented on him: "My dad just has no raw materials, otherwise my dad can make rockets"!
Maybe the men of that generation are very hands-on, but the second uncle is definitely the best among them. He is a quick temper, his hands are also anxious, his mouth is also anxious, in today's words, he has no emotional intelligence, but his IQ is definitely very high, otherwise it would be impossible to be admitted to college.
40 years ago, college students were not the same "species" as they are now, and his uncle and his hair were both graduated from the Department of Chinese Language of Liaoning University, and later founded a publishing house. The second uncle in my memory is always in good spirits, he walks like flying, he is definitely a man like the wind, and it is difficult for us to see him once, because he works in Beijing all the year round.
Working in Beijing 30 years ago was already an enviable thing for those of us in small cities. And the second uncle is an editor, and it is okay to say that he is a writer, because he has indeed published some books, which are very professional books in the ceramic industry, which are only understood by industry insiders, and are naturally not interesting to laymen, and can be checked on the Internet.
Every time my second uncle comes back, he will take a lot of ** books to us, at that time it was a high-cost book, but unfortunately I didn't understand it when I was a child, I only remember that the name of some books is "The Book of Mountains and Seas", which is a book specifically for children, I haven't read "The Book of Mountains and Seas", but I learned from this book that "The Book of Mountains and Seas" is probably a book of imagination, there seem to be a lot of monsters, this is my only memory.
Nowadays, with the development of transportation and the Internet, it is not uncommon to buy anything, but 30 years ago, material resources were relatively scarce. My dad would bring a few packets of instant noodles to the leader on a business trip, which is unimaginable now. So those preserved fruit candied fruits were also very high-end foods at that time, although they are not worth much now. Every time my second uncle came back, he would bring us a lot of Beijing specialties, which we really hadn't seen.
So when I was a child, the image of my second uncle in my heart was that of a high-end scholar who worked in Beijing all the year round, he was educated, the economic conditions were okay, and he could always bring us some new things and fresh ideas. Now I understand that the second uncle is actually the first group of people to go out to work, and he is the pioneer of all those who have dreams and go out to work hard, and the 1Version 0.
When I was a child, I didn't have many memories of my second uncle, and even many of the so-called memories came to Beijing in recent years to communicate with my second uncle. I remember that on May 4, 2013, I took the train to Beijing for work, it was a Saturday, I got in the car and called my aunt's house to say that I had arrived and had time to visit home. My aunt was very happy and thought I was sensible, so she exchanged a few words with me and told me to come home on a weekend.
I went to my uncle's house after a week, I was very unfamiliar with Beijing at that time, I had to ride an electric car to go over, my uncle and brother persuaded me to take the bus, I didn't listen, I forced to touch my uncle's house by navigation, this thing also became a good story at that time, I think I am very good. It was the first time in my life that I went to my uncle's house in Beijing, the house was very large, and my uncle sat down on a table to welcome me, including my favorite shrimp, clams, pork ribs, and some I don't remember, I ate a lot, I have always been very good at eating.
After lunch, I went to my uncle's master bedroom, who was wearing a white vest and half-lying on the bed, and said to me, "Did your grandmother tell you to come here less?" "I'm noncommittal, because it's obvious. He continued: "Don't listen to them, they are! This is your uncle's house! Come when it's time to come! Come over when you say it, this is your uncle's house! Don't be like them, it's okay not to recognize your relatives! "I was deeply touched and said I would come more.
That's what I said, and that's what I did, I should have been to my uncle's house 50 times in the past 10 years, and I can basically go once a month unless a special period of time doesn't pass. I must admit that because of the existence of my uncle, aunt and brother, I have a foundation in Beijing, and no matter what time it is, I know that I have a family in Beijing, which is very important for a North Drifter.
I often imitate my uncle, who has a very stubborn temper and is especially good at eating chili peppers. I used to give him the chili peppers from home, and I thought he would be satisfied, but who knows that he will always say lightly: "Not spicy, not spicy!" "I told my roommates about it, and they all thought it was funny. Later, I specially found someone to order 20 yuan of dried chili, which is very spicy! Since then, my uncle has never asked me for chili peppers again! Actually, my uncle didn't know about this, but it has always been a joke to me, and my uncle was scared of me!
But the explanation he gave was that my daughter-in-law was pregnant and couldn't eat spicy food, and my chili noodles were mixed with cumin noodles, so the fried taste was not pure, so I don't know if my uncle was spicy by me, or what.
Soon after, there was a new member of my uncle's family, my nephew was born, and my uncle began to enjoy family fun, he took the children with the nanny every day until the child went to kindergarten, and if it wasn't for this illness, he would have picked up the children with his aunt.
The memories of my uncle are not few, but they are all scattered. I always remember that in order to buy ** beer, he took my brother and me to buy a dozen cases of beer from the supermarket and carried them upstairs. His family lives on the fifth floor, there is no elevator, it is very hot, I move three boxes of beer together, I am so tired that I can't do it, the second uncle also moved three boxes of beer upstairs, I can't breathe, I can't help but sigh, the second uncle's physique is really good!
The second uncle's health has always been very good, and his impression is much better than that of his aunt. He also opened his mouth and closed his mouth "my physique", and I am also virtuous, probably like him. Later, I learned from his students that his uncle in his 40s often said that he was still "that handsome young man", but time passed so fast that the young man couldn't bear it!
One summer three years ago, I came to my uncle's house and suddenly noticed that the top of his head had become bald, I was startled and asked what was wrong, he smiled and said to me, "Cancer! "I was stupid at the time, but I heard that cancer can also be **, so I didn't say anything, I secretly asked my aunt what was going on, and my aunt said that it was esophageal cancer and other diseases, which required surgery, and it was not yet time, and it should be fine if the surgery was done.
My uncle later said that my eyes were red when I talked to my aunt, and he said, "I don't have any pain in this nephew!" "I don't know if my eyes are red, but my heart does cry.
The operation was very successful, I don't know the details, I only know that my uncle removed part of the stomach and esophagus, and can only eat liquids, I have had surgery, I understand that even a small operation will make people hurt a lot, not to mention such a serious operation, at that time we thought that after the operation, we will definitely lose our life, who knows that we want to be simple.
After the operation, the second uncle would have regular check-ups, and every time it was fine, my aunt was also very happy, and everyone was very relieved. My uncle's physical condition slowly improved, and who knew that on the fifteenth day of the first month of this year, my uncle suddenly collapsed. After a series of examinations, my uncle had to undergo a craniotomy. He didn't care on the surface, but he was actually very painful inside. Later, I heard my mother say that he often cried when he was on the phone with his friend**, and I realized how tough a man is fragile in the face of death. I also understand more about how helpless my second uncle said 18 years ago, "There is this day"!
The craniotomy was very successful, my aunt reported that she was safe, and I saw that my uncle's health was not bad, and said: "There is no problem with intelligence!" My uncle told me through my aunt's WeChat: "Don't study your second uncle's intelligence, study your resume more!" "My second uncle has always been so humorous and tough, he knows that I didn't have a job at the time, and he is very worried.
After this craniotomy, I don't have much hope, although I thought that since I had done such a major operation, it should be over, after all, according to common sense, enough sin has been suffered, what do I want? Who knows that God will not get used to anyone at all. My uncle's condition has deteriorated like this, either radiotherapy or chemotherapy, and I don't know all kinds of details, but I know that my second uncle has been very miserable in the past three years!
I would actually like to talk to my second uncle, because he is very knowledgeable, and people in their sixties still read newspapers and books every day. He had a mountain of books in his house, and I asked him, "Have you read all these books?" He said flatly: "I've seen it all!" "Although my second uncle feels a bit biao, he never brags.
In fact, the second uncle is a realistic version of Lao Liang, there is nothing he doesn't know, of course, he will be dissatisfied with many things, he will scold when he opens his mouth, and he will say that he is a literati, he arrogantly said: "What kind of literati am I, I am a ruffian!" ”
The second uncle is indeed a ruffian, a few friends are drinking, and others don't know what's going on, so he starts fighting with others, he is such a quick temper!
The second uncle spoke with great humor, and I often imitated his tone, and one mouth was: "You say this thing, you here, you ......."And a look of banter. So I sometimes joke with my friends and often use the second uncle's tone to make everyone lean back and back, so in my small range, the second uncle is actually a star, but he doesn't know it.
When a friend learned that his second uncle had passed away, he jokingly said: "A generation of legends has come to an end!" "The second uncle is a legend, he is educated, upright, for the family to work hard in Beijing to create a world, and then my aunt and brother came to Beijing, looking for a job, making money, my aunt's sister family also came over, looking for a job in Beijing, making money, making a lot of money.
Middle-aged people in their fifties have no one to want in a small city, but they can find their place in Beijing, and their family has also bought a house in Beijing. In fact, their salaries in the later period are higher than their uncles, although their uncles are very educated, but they don't make too much money, at least the income is not proportional to the level of education, but it can be regarded as earning half a house in Beijing.
I often say that if my second cousin has half of the second uncle's culture, he will definitely fly away in this society, that is, the second uncle's emotional intelligence is too low and too stubborn. I often want my second uncle to talk to me more, especially after he is sick, because he has a super memory and high knowledge reserves, whether it is his experience, or what he has seen and heard, and what he feels, it is a precious memory for us, but my uncle rarely talks to me.
He's such a guy that he doesn't even talk to his son as much as he does to me. Uncle is very similar to grandpa, very grandfather-like, very parental-like, and doesn't say too much to the younger generation. I really wanted to tell my uncle to tell me as much as he knew, so that I could record it and keep a memory, but I didn't dare to say it, especially in the past few years when my uncle was seriously ill, talking too much would hurt my body, so I could only think about it.
Life is full of ups and downs, and the condition is the same, I really didn't expect my uncle to be able to return to his hometown on the National Day this time, I thought he was getting better, but my aunt said that it was temporary, and his illness would not get better. But this opportunity was definitely given to him by God, and my uncle had never had this mental state in the past six months, and he couldn't tell that he was a patient if he didn't look carefully. The family of five drove back to their hometown to celebrate the holiday with their mother.
Uncle said that this time I came back to have a meal together, he treated, and then we took a picture together, I am very happy, our family has not been together for a long time, the last time was three years ago grandma held a ninetieth birthday, three years have passed. At that time, my uncle was still an elderly version of the "Pianpian Boy", although he was very thin, he was in good health.
Due to some family problems, this party was not held, and the photo shoot could not be realized, which is a big pity for us, of course, some people may not care, but I know that the second uncle cares very much. But he ate a lot of small seafood and snacks, he loves to eat small fish, shrimp and tofu at home, he eats very fragrantly, I seem to feel that there is no disease in his body at all.
I still remember my second uncle sitting in the living room of my grandmother's old house, eating a meal, eating very deliciously, I stood behind him, he looked back at me with a smile very happily, meaning: "Look at the second uncle eating well! ”
This time when he returned to his hometown, the second uncle could not be regarded as complete, but he also had a lot of wishes, he saw his mother, his old friends and family, and even his sister-in-law who was a little estranged.
In fact, before returning home, everyone was very worried, the second uncle would send a ** every few hours to report safety, seeing that we were getting closer and closer to the goal, our hearts were put down.
Lao Ji is ambitious, and the second uncle is actually using his last strength to fulfill his last wish - to go home. Actually, I know he's just coming back to the light, but I can't say that, that's the way it is now. Because the family couldn't get together for dinner, the second uncle was a little angry, and he said to his aunt: "I will never come back to this place!" ”
I know that what my second uncle said is angry, but in fact, he is also giving himself a psychological comfort, because he knows that he will never come back in this life!
Until before the operation, the second uncle also sent messages to his family, and the family cheered him up and cheered him on. Who knew that after being taken to the operating room, he never woke up. It's good to think about it, he left us without any pain at all, but for this person with excellent brains, is it cruel to die in such a daze?
I regret not being able to spend more time with my second uncle, although he rarely talks to me, and even counts me down, I have only been away from his house for a month, and I knew how good it would be for me to stay at my second uncle's house for a month! But everything is an afterthought, and it is impossible for people to ** what happens in the next minute!
When the eldest brother heard that his uncle had died, he said that he would definitely come to Beijing, and he said, "I have to kowtow to my second uncle a few times!" I'm just this uncle." I had only been away from his house for a month, and every time I left, my uncle was lying in the bedroom, and I would say goodbye to him. I hated myself for realizing it later, I was obviously in Beijing, why did I wait for my uncle to die like my eldest brother before kowtowing? Why didn't I kowtow to him while he was alive before leaving?
However, with the character of the second uncle, he would definitely scold me and say, "I'm not dead yet!" Don't talk about it! "The second uncle is such a character, cold on the outside and hot on the inside, every time he is afraid that I will not eat well, try to make something delicious for me, he knows that I am greedy, of course, it is also a kind of ridicule, he often says: "There is no thing that this kid does not eat!" That guy's, gluttony! ”
The second uncle will always be a stubborn and proud image in my heart, he has a high reputation in the field of ancient porcelain, he is a real porcelain expert, but he said that he does not know much about bronze, he only understands porcelain, seeks truth from facts, and has one to say.
Although his life span is a little shorter, the second uncle is also a person who has eaten and seen, and he often participates in auctions and porcelain exhibitions and other events, and has seen real things. I will ask some boring questions, such as whether Wang Shuo has real skills, whether Lao Liang can do it, whether Ma Weidu understands antiques, and whether Wang Gang has smashed the real thing. He will tell me 1510, for those who are really capable, he will give affirmation, and for those who are vain, he will directly scold.
He told me that once someone questioned him that he had not seen the real thing, and he said, "Not only have I touched it with my hands, but I have also used my feet to roll around at night!" "I said it's true or false, he said it's true, I said aren't they afraid that you will break things, he said he is not afraid. In today's words: because of professionalism, so trust.
When Ma Ye was mentioned, I asked my second uncle how he was, and my second uncle said disdainfully: "He is an antique dealer, just a **, some things are real things, he told others that they are fake, and some are fake, he said that they are true, and his character is not good." I said don't care about people's character, people are really rich, and their social status is also high, he said: "That's not good, there is no one in the real industry who doesn't know what's going on with him!" ”
The second uncle told me that there was an auction, and Ma Ye also participated, so someone asked my uncle: "Ma Ye is here over there, don't you go over to meet him?" The second uncle scolded directly: "What do I know him for?" He should come and get to know me! It's so interesting! "This is the second uncle who is not stingy.
My aunt told me that her colleagues knew that her second uncle was a literate person, so she also called her husband when they had dinner together, but after calling a few times, she found that it was not good, because my second uncle was talking out of the box. I understand what my aunt means, because it is generally believed that cultural people should wear gold-wire glasses, speak in a crepe, and tie their belts to their chests, while the second uncle scolds after drinking two or two wines, regardless of who is who!
The second uncle actually had the opportunity to engage in a career, but he refused, because he couldn't do it while scolding anyone, and at the same time praising others' stinky feet! In fact, although I didn't see it when the second uncle attended the party, I could make up for it in my brain, it must be two glasses of wine in my stomach, either this is not good, or that is not right, it is inevitable to scold some mainstream people, really speaking, cultural people should not be like this, the second uncle is indeed a ruffian, so the second uncle disappointed my aunt's colleagues! It's even a bit embarrassing for my aunt.
The second uncle does have a lot of shortcomings, and he never speaks regardless of the occasion, no matter whether others like to listen to it or not, it does bring a lot of trouble to the aunt, it is rare for the aunt to accommodate him for so many years, especially in recent years, she is really not easy.
Some people's evaluation criteria for anything are money, but the cultural level of the second uncle cannot be measured by money. Especially in the ten years that my aunt came to Beijing, she made some money, more than her second uncle, so she didn't recognize her second uncle very much from her heart. But the second uncle is the foundation of a big tree for the family, and it is precisely because he came to Beijing 30 years ago and took root that his aunt and brother later went to Beijing to develop, and the aunt's sister family came to Beijing to join him, bought a house, married a wife and had children. Uncle is actually the totem of the family, he is the first batch of North drifters who pursue their dreams, without his uncle's expansion of territory, how can others talk about the development of Beijing? It is precisely because the roots of the tree are firmly rooted that there are later branches and leaves, otherwise everything is zero.
Although my aunt has lived with my uncle all my life, she may not understand the second uncle, they think that cultural people must sit there in all directions, like the old Chinese medicine doctor, but how many such people are different from the outside and the inside, and they are doing shady things in private, they are good people in front of others, and they are really wicked people, they flatter their superiors, cheat and cheat, do all kinds of evil, as long as they can make money, they can do whatever it takes, they have no soul at all, and they have no morality.
And although my uncle looks arrogant, he is actually a literati in the true sense of the word. Li Bai can ask the emperor to take off his boots for him, why can't the second uncle? His form is not like a literati in the traditional sense of the layman, but he is an authentic literati in his bones, he dares to say no to things that he is not satisfied with, no matter how strong the other party is, he will say things that he is not used to, this is what literati should do, instead of fooling the public all day long, just to cheat some traffic and money.
Although the second uncle's broken body has disappeared, he has the pride of a traditional literati, and his unruly behavior reflects his dissatisfaction with the thinking and some things of this society. Many so-called cultural people are actually wolves in sheep's clothing, and the second uncle is definitely the purest literati.
Uncle, as your nephew, I don't have much education, but like you, I also have a super memory, and I will remember everything I know in my heart and record it in writing. You are the first group of dreamers, you represent the purest literati image of the Chinese nation, you have a strong family concept, we will unite like you and pass on the family affection forever.
Goodbye, uncle! Goodbye, that grumpy, quick-witted, bobbing, blowing five bombs.
Sixth, a young man with a strong walk and a true temperament!
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