My name is Xiao Li, I went to Beipiao after graduating from university, and I met my fellow countryman Xiao Wang when I was working in Beipiao. Xiao Wang is the leader of the department next door, and I was originally an executive, and because the department leader is pregnant, I often attend management meetings on behalf of the leader. Every time I spoke, Xiao Wang and I put forward different opinions, and Xiao Wang's arrogant attitude made people really unhappy.
Until one day I called ** to visit the customer, called Xiao Wang, I didn't know it was Xiao Wang, he was still in their department to tease me, fortunately their department colleagues prompted me, I found out, turned around and saw Xiao Wang greeted me at the glass door. I was angry at the time and directly left the **. After a while, I saw Xiao Wang chatting with me on the enterprise WeChat, and I said sorry, and asked me if my hometown was from Henan, I said yes, he said that we are fellow villagers, and we turned out to be in a city. Later, he said that he was sorry to me in person and invited me to dinner, and I was embarrassed to refuse several times. Later, I was called ** when I had nothing to do, and asked me out to go shopping, and I felt that the relationship was not bad. All in all, we belong to free love.
Later, when it came time to talk about marriage, he said that his family's conditions were not good and he couldn't take out so much money, and I didn't think it mattered. So I didn't ask for a bride price, so I went through a formality and paid the down payment on the house directly, my parents were afraid that we would have no money, so they gave us all the current interest of the bride price, and we had no money in our pockets after buying the house, and we ate instant noodles for a long time. I thought that the family conditions were poor, and the two of them worked together to be better than anything else. As a result, the next operation really did not surprise me, and it may be that the cultural differences are too great.
After getting married, we only have time to go back to our hometown during the eleventh and New Year's holidays, and then I don't want to say that I want to go home to see my parents, I still have my friends to see, because I want to follow or something. There are only seven days of the eleventh holiday, we will take a day off in advance for a total of eight days, October 5th will set off for Beijing, I will go back to my parents' house in the afternoon of the third to see my parents, and meet my friends on the fourth day, my mother-in-law began to talk in a weird way, don't tell which is your own home, the girl who married out of the water spilled out, we are your home, always thinking about what it is like to go back to your mother's home? I didn't say much, I just said that there was something wrong with going back.
Later, I was pregnant in Beijing, my in-laws were fine in my hometown, my husband wanted my father-in-law to help us look at the house in my hometown, my father-in-law said that he didn't have time, and he wanted to take care of the children for my brother's family. From pregnancy to birth, my mother-in-law never showed up at all, saying that motion sickness is a rural road I don't know, and there is no way to go to Beijing to take care of me, so my mother will go to Beijing to take care of me. On the afternoon of the second day after giving birth, my mother-in-law went to the delivery room, my father-in-law didn't go, my mother-in-law saw my baby and said first, fortunately, I gave birth to a boy, and I had to ask for a girl.
After giving birth, my mother has always served me in confinement. Later, when the confinement came, they said that they wanted to make a full moon wine for the child, so I took the baby to my mother-in-law's house to live for a few days. Then I said that my son should go to my parents' house with a household registration and go back to my parents' house, and it will be more convenient for my children to go to school in the future, after all, our family is in the county, which is better than the educational resources in the town, and I will go back to school in the city and then move there.
My mother-in-law was angry, why is it that our surname is Wang on your household registration, and the child born to you should be on our family's household registration. Why, your parents will let you raise it when they are old? I was angry at the time, the first time I got angry, I said my own parents I don't raise anyone myself, she said don't you have a cousin? How can it be your turn to raise a woman, and if you get married, you are still entangled with your mother's family every day, and you are not ashamed. I said, first, my parents are just me and my sister, we don't raise anyone, and it is a matter of course for each child to support their parents. Second, my parents have jobs and pensions, and they don't need us to support them, unlike some people who have to rely on their children if they don't have the ability to do it themselves. Third, the child's surname is Wang, this fact can't be changed, I married into your family, I don't want anything, just my husband, I don't want to pay the down payment for the house without asking for the bride price.
Then my mother-in-law said, then my son is excellent, otherwise you wouldn't have asked for a bride price with him? You post it upside down as you want. If you go to inquire about which married person still runs to his mother's house every day, don't you hate that our family has no money? You want my son to come to your house as the doorman, but there is no door. I was speechless at the time, so I called my husband **, and as soon as my husband finished answering **, my mother-in-law began to say that she had a headache and was convicted by my angry high blood pressure, and then I took the child back to my parents' house.
Later, my husband told me that in the future, I just need to discuss the child's affairs with him, and there is no need to talk to his parents about this, because his parents are old and it is difficult to change them. He said, "You know what? My family is very poor, and my parents were willing to buy beef and mutton to eat after you came, I was stunned, isn't it normal to buy beef and mutton?
We didn't go home for the New Year, and then my husband kept doing ideological work for me, and I didn't go back until the eleventh of the second year, during which my son was always my mother in Beijing to help me take it, and my dad also found out pulmonary nodules and carotid arteriosclerosis this year. Another year later, when my son was more than two years old, my mother said that she was not very worried about my father's body, and said that she wanted to bring the baby back, and my father could also help take the baby during the day.
Until now, my baby is almost six years old, and my parents have always helped take care of it. We will take the baby back to our hometown during the New Year's holiday, my husband will give money during the New Year's holidays, buy a microwave oven, buy furniture and buy a TV, my mother-in-law does not have to bring her grandson, and there is money to spend, my son goes back to his hometown and is very close to her, and the attitude is much better than before. During this period, my mother-in-law and father-in-law also persuaded us to have a few more, but I said that I was not qualified to give birth. My mother-in-law said that she could not eat enough and was hungry? I said, now it's not just about having enough to eat, it's about education. She said, then we don't care about your husband, he was still admitted to college, and he is still the first college student in our village. I said that times are different, and I can't communicate anyway.
In my own marriage experience, the poorer the family, the more you should ask for a bride price, otherwise they will think that their son is excellent and will not pay attention to you at all. Later, I communicated with the female colleagues around me and found out that not all in-laws are like this, their in-laws have money to contribute, and those who have no money to contribute, and some also help to take care of children, and usually the children are grandparents who pick up and drop off from school. Since my in-laws don't have a job, my husband usually has to give my in-laws money, and buy gifts and various things on holidays. Thinking about it later, it's okay if my in-laws don't contribute money or effort, but at least respect must be there, I have done so much, and in the end I look down on me in various ways, I sometimes really feel very wronged.
Finally, I want to say that excellent girls should not be presumptuous, and leave this home if they can't do it.