There is a situation that makes people very angry and unconvinced: on the same day, some people climb up in three or two years by playing "lip service" and "will come to things";And in the eyes of people, the capable people with a high level of business ability are lying in the nest that has not moved.
Traditionally, this is not normal. Strong business ability and real ability are the "right way", and they should be the first to go;And playing "lip service" and "vain brains" is a crooked way of evil sects, and it should not be whipped alone. But the reality is often ironic, the latter is very powerful, and now there is more and more market, and there are a lot of leaders around them.
Don't understand, right?Then you try to empathize with it: in the case of choosing one of the two, one has no eyesight, speaks clumsily, and can't do anything, while the other eye will "breathe", understand the intention quickly, and have strong ability to do things. Which one do you choose?I'm sure most people would choose the latter.
In fact, the latter is not simple, practicing good "kung fu" is not easier than mastering business skills, if there is no talent, the "success rate" will be very low, of course, diligence can make up for clumsiness, and acquired training is also very important.
In terms of training the day after tomorrow, you might as well see how Wang Xifeng maneuvers around the biggest "leader" of Jia Muyirong Guofu, how he speaks and does things.
First, take the initiative to admit mistakes and eliminate the anger of leaders.
One day, there was an important person in the company's VIP or leader's mind, and the chairman, general manager and other cadres were all present, but you, the "pivotal person", were not present. What to do?
Sister Feng also encountered a similar situation, and she was absent from the meeting of Jia's mother's granddaughter Daiyu to stay in Jia's mansion one by one. Let's see how Sister Feng maneuvers.
In the third chapter of "Dream of Red Mansions", it is written: Before I could say a word, I only heard someone laughing in the backyard, saying: "I am late, and I have never greeted distant guests!."”
Sister Feng admitted her mistake and took the lead and changed from passive to active. On the surface, he said it to everyone, but he was actually compensating Jia's mother: "I'm sorry, old ancestor, I'm late." ”
Immediately afterwards, she wanted to "wear the guilt and make meritorious service", openly praising Daiyu and secretly currying favor with Jia's mother: Xifeng took Daiyu's hand, forgave her up and down, and still sent it to Jia's mother to sit down, because she said with a smile: "There is really such a iconic character in the world, I only saw it today!."Besides, this all-round style is not like the granddaughter of the ancestor, but the granddaughter of the in-law, and the ancestor can't forget it every day. ”
After a search for the operation, Sister Feng felt that she still owed some heat, so she simply told me: "As soon as I saw my sister, my heart was on him, I liked it and I was sad, and I forgot my ancestor." It's time to fight, it's time to fight! ”
Speaking of which, Jia's mother's anger dissipated.
Wang Xifeng, who is above hundreds of people under one person, knows very well in his heart that his title is given by the old lady, and if he doesn't put the old ancestor in the first gong, he will "fight, fight", and replace and take it down.
Taking the initiative to admit mistakes is easy to say but not easy to do, especially if you feel that some trivial things are "not worth mentioning"; There is also a face that can't get by. But what you think is the little things may be the details that leaders value; You feel that you can't get over your face, and other leaders may never take you seriously and consider your self-esteem; And as time goes on, you have more questions, and you may never have the opportunity to admit your mistakes again.
Second, take the hobby of leadership as the pursuit of your career.
I have experienced two leaders who love to play table tennis, and the "red man" of the first leader happens to be a table tennis master, who can stick rackets and has complete sports equipment. At that time, the company did not have a table tennis case, so he took the opportunity to accompany the leader to go up to inspect, quietly put the two of them on the line, and played a few games in the local area. On weekends, I must spare a day to play with the leader, and I can't move. Later, he slowly gained the respect of the leadership.
The later leader is even more addicted to football, and he is single when he catches up, and he is half a night, who can afford to accompany him after a long time? Not to mention, there is only one Xiaobai who has never even touched a racket before who is willing to accompany the leader. Before the daughter-in-law went to winter, he spent time exercising in the work, and practiced for another hour after work. At first, he didn't know how to fight, but he also forced himself to stand in front of the case, and the dove-shaped hoof-shaped face and the stiff movements of the orangutan often caused onlookers to laugh. Later, the daughter-in-law and a man went to open a clinic 2,000 kilometers away, and after more than two years, he had more time.
As the ball skills grew, the identity also began to be a step every year from the worker, and after a few years, he was promoted to the vice president of the company. Later, people realized the mystery: the table tennis ball in his hand is a different kind of Keju, and he has turned the leader's hobby into his own career pursuit. Now, he has become a mother-in-law, and he will drag a newcomer to accompany him after work.
Next, let's see how Wang Xifeng "sparred" Jia's mother.
In the forty-seventh episode, there is a story about Sister Feng playing cards with Jia's mother, which is very exciting and has a strong sense of picture.
The book reads: ......Sister Feng deliberately played cards for Jia's mother to eat Zhang: "I made a mistake." ”
Jia Mu smiled and threw the cards and said, "You dare to take it back!" Who told you to be wrong? ”
Sister Feng said: "But I want to tell a fortune." This is self-proven, and I also complain about the ambush! ”
Jia Mu smiled: "But, you should be slapping your mouth and asking yourself." He smiled at Aunt Xue again: "I'm not a little bit who likes to win money, I'm a lottery head." ”
Aunt Xue smiled: "That's not the case, where are there such foolish people who say that the old lady loves money?" ”
Sister Feng was counting the money, and when she heard this, she hurriedly put on the money again, and smiled at everyone: "Enough is enough for me." It's not for winning, it's just for winning. I'm a small device, if I lose, count the money, just put it away. ”
Jia's mother's rule is that the mandarin duck shuffles the cards, because she laughed with Aunt Xue, and didn't see the mandarin duck do it, Jia's mother said: "Why are you annoyed, you don't even wash the cards for me." ”
The mandarin duck picked up the card and said with a smile: "The second grandmother doesn't give money." ”
Jia Mu said: "He didn't give money, that was his delivery." Then he ordered the little girl: "Take all his money." The little girl really took it and put it next to Jia's mother.
Sister Feng smiled: "Reward me, I'll just give it as much as I want." ”
Aunt Xue smiled: "Sure enough, it's a phoenix girl, but it's just a naughty child." ”
When Sister Feng heard this, she stood up, pulled Aunt Xue, turned around and pointed to a small wooden box where Jia Mu put money on the day and said with a smile: "Auntie, I don't know how much I have been naughty in that one." This hanging money couldn't last for half an hour, and the money there beckoned to him. Just wait for this hanging to be called in, the cards don't have to fight, the ancestor's anger is also calm, and there is something serious to send me to do. Before the words were finished, Jia Mu couldn't stop laughing.
Youping'er was afraid that the money would not be enough, so he sent another hanging.
Sister Feng said: "You don't have to put it in front of me, just put it in the old lady's place." It's easy to call in together, you don't have to do it twice, and it's troublesome to call the money in the box. Jia Mu smiled and scattered the cards in her hand on the table, pushed the mandarin duck, and shouted: "Tear his mouth quickly!" ”
This Sister Feng is indeed a master of coaxing Jia's mother to be happy, pointing to Jia's mother's small wooden box and saying, this hanging money can't last for half an hour, and the money there beckons to it; The money sent by Ping'er, she directly asked Jia Mu to put it, saving the trouble of the small wooden box and calling it again.
Funny while playing cards, a game of cards, made Jia's mother very happy, and the clever and well-behaved Sister Feng lost money but increased her domineering chips.
The purpose of playing with the leader is to make the leader happy. The happiness of the leader is the engine of your career.
Third, excerpts from the dialogue, or for reference.
Sister Jia Mufeng, an old man and a young woman, are "human spirits", and there are a large number of dialogues between "human spirits" around eating, wearing, playing, and treating people, and there are a lot of dialogues between "human spirits".
1.Mother Jia asked Aunt Xue and the others: "What do you want to eat, just tell me, I have the ability to ask Feng Yatou to get it and let's eat." Aunt Xue smiled: "The old lady will also scare him." From time to time, he made something to pay homage, but he couldn't eat much. Sister Feng smiled: "Auntie, don't say that. Our ancestors just hated human flesh sourness, if it weren't for human flesh sourness, they would have eaten me a long time ago. ”。
The old ancestor had whatever she wanted, unless she didn't want to.
2, at the beginning of the thirty-eighth chapter, Jia's mother touched the scene in the Grand View Garden, and told Aunt Xue about the "troubles" when she was a child: she almost drowned in the water because of greedy play, and knocked off a piece of meat, "Everyone said that they couldn't live, but who knew that it was better." ”
This matter is put aside by ordinary people, and it is usually perfunctory in stylized terms: "Mr. Jia, your old fortune is great, and your life is great." But Sister Feng doesn't engage in the stylized "circle" method, and finds another way Sister Feng didn't wait for anyone to say, and smiled first: "At that time, I couldn't live, but now who can enjoy this great blessing!."It can be known that the ancestors have a good life since childhood, and the gods sent the ghost to touch out that nest, so that they can live a long life. The head of the birthday star was originally a nest, because the longevity was full, so it was more convex. Before she could finish speaking, Jia Mu and everyone laughed softly. Jia Mu smiled: "This monkey is used to it, just make fun of me, and tear your greasy mouth if you hate it." ”
said that she tore Sister Feng's mouth, but her heart was beautiful.
3, the fiftieth time, Aunt Xue wanted to set up two tables of coarse wine in the Grand View Garden and invite the old lady to enjoy the snow. The old lady said don't worry, there will be many snowy days in the future, and it will not be too late to break the bill.
Sister Feng smiled: "Aunt carefully forgot. Now I have weighed fifty taels of silver, and given them to me to keep, and as soon as the snow falls, I will prepare for the wine. Aunt doesn't have to worry about it, and she doesn't have to forget it. ”
Jia Mu said with a smile: "That said, my aunt gave him fifty taels of silver to collect, and I shared twenty-five taels with him." When it snowed, I pretended to be unhappy and got past. Mrs. Auntie doesn't have to worry about it, Feng Yatou and I have a good deal. ”
Sister Feng clapped her hand and said with a smile: "Wonderful." It's the same idea as I am. Everyone laughed.
Jia Mu smiled: "Phew, no face! And he climbed up the pole. You shouldn't say that Mrs. Fei is a guest, and if you are aggrieved in our house, we should ask Mrs. Aunt to be, there is a reason for Mrs. Fei! If you don't say that, you still have a face that costs fifty taels of silver, which is really not ashamed. ”
Sister Feng said with a smile: "Our ancestor is the most discerning, give it a try, Aunt Ruosong, take out fifty taels, and share it with me; This time I thought it would be useless, turned my face and took my way, and said these generous words. Now I don't ask my aunt for silver, but I actually gave my aunt money to cure the wine, invited the ancestors to eat, and I sealed another fifty taels of silver to honor the ancestors, which is considered to punish me for taking care of idle things, is this good? Before he finished speaking, everyone laughed and fell on the kang.
Wang Xifeng is undoubtedly a master of speech, and he coaxed the well-seen Jia Mu to turn around. In a big aristocratic family, the power of the mouth, the mouth of the kung fu has to pass the test first, hundreds of people say irresponsible things one sentence after another, and the mouth stubble can't keep up, so what's the deal?
Seeing how the leader speaks is really important, Jia's mother once said to Baochai, "Your aunt is pitiful, she doesn't talk much, she is like wood, and she doesn't show much in front of her in-laws." Feng'er is obedient, how can he complain that people love him". It can be seen that Sister Feng's power is not unrelated to "being able to speak" in front of Jia's mother. As long as it is not a nest, I believe that everyone wants to leave a good impression on the leader in a few words, but these three words are not something that can be spoken.