Shi Tiesheng said: "Most of the interactions between people are superficial. In other words, it is only on a more superficial level that it is easy to socialize. Once it becomes complex, people are a labyrinth of each other. ”
It is true that most of the people in the world are deceitful, the world is hot and cold, and people in society are cautious, as if they are holding a bomb that will be ** at any time.
It is not easy in the world, you must have the ability to screen, when such a person appears in your fate, it is a catastrophe that you can't escape. Stay away.
01, a friend with three knives.
Rabindranath Tagore said, "Hypocrites are more terrible than demons." ”
One of the most real phenomena in society is that people are becoming more and more difficult to guess, when we were young, happiness and sadness were written on our faces, but when we grew up and entered the society, happiness and sadness were written on everyone's heart. You never know what kind of conspiracy is hidden behind a smiling face.
This makes it impossible for us to distinguish whether the person in front of us is a human or a ghost in a social relationship, and we have to go through some hardships before we can feel the truth or falsehood of the human heart.
Wang Ling and Li Xue are a pair of very good friends, both of them graduated from the same university and went to work in the same company.
After going to work, Wang Ling's work performance improved by leaps and bounds, and her personal performance was very good, which won the love of her boss, and she was soon promoted from an ordinary employee of the company to a business manager.
At the same time, the gossip about Wang Ling in the company also spread instantly, they said that Wang Ling came in through the back door, and the conditions were not enough, saying that Wang Ling was very good at ...... relationships
Wang Ling was very sad, she obviously relied on her academic qualifications to enter the company, how could there be such gossip, she couldn't think clearly. So he inquired in many ways, and the result was that these rumors were all spread by his good friend Li Xue, because Li Xue was jealous when he saw that Wang Ling was better than him.
Many people are like this, complimenting you on the surface, secretly harming you behind the scenes, and saying that you are friends, which is so chilling.
The greatest evil of human nature is that you can't see others better than yourself, and you must stay away from such friends to avoid and find greater harm.
In interpersonal relationships, the essence of communication is to be close to good and far from evil.
02. Relatives who hate the poor and love the rich.
There is a saying that "no one asks about the poor in the downtown area, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains", which is not unreasonable. This is the case in the world, many relatives are not as good as close friends. Friends will lend a helping hand when they are in trouble, while some relatives are far away from you.
After winning the world championship, Quan Hongchan, the diving champion, even came to visit her family with relatives who had not been in contact for decades, and her mother said that she could not imagine that she still had so many relatives.
In fact, Quan Hongchan's family is not wealthy, her mother is disabled, her father is just a part-time worker, and there are younger brothers and sisters at home who need money to study.
Quan Hongchan said in an interview with reporters: "The purpose of diving is to make the living situation of the family better, so that my mother's illness can be treated with money." ”
In real life, there are many relatives who seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and they all put icing on the cake in front of them when they see you rich, but in the past, when there was no money, it was difficult for someone to give them charcoal.
In fact, there are relatives who treat each other sincerely and will do their best to help as long as they need it, but there are very few when you are poor.
For the relatives who flocked to you like bees when you were rich, eager to eat you up, you should still have a count in your heart in your dealings with him.
03. Whether it is relatives or friends, we will never be able to leave in this life. However, things gather people in groups, and put your mind on worthy people, so as not to waste.
As Venerable Hongyi said, "Don't be afraid of losing, what you can lose never belongs to you." Don't be afraid of hurt, what can hurt you is your calamity. ”
When people reach middle age, they experience more and lose more, and if they endure the mercenary people around them, they will only lose more.
Therefore, instead of leaving him by his side like a bomb and worrying about him all day, it is better to decisively refuse. Loss is the normal state of life, and screening is the great wisdom.
May you make close friends and take every step of the way.
*Originated from the Internet invasion and deletion.