Wise ParentsIn the process of parenting, the choice of words is crucial. Inappropriate words can cause irreparable damage to a child's psyche. Here are four words that wise parents should avoid saying to their children and the negative effects they may have.
First of all, parents should avoid saying "if you don't obey, your mother won't want you". Children are not mature enough to distinguish between jokes and real expressions of emotion. Such words can make children feel scared and upset, fearing that they will lose the love of their parents because they are disobedient. In the long run, children may become timid, dependent, and lack self-confidence and independence. Therefore, wise parents should guide their children with a more gentle and understanding attitude, so that they can feel the warmth and support of the family.
Secondly, parents should not casually say, "If you don't obey again, the police will come to arrest you." The police should be seen by children as people who keep them safe, not as tools to intimidate them. Demonizing the image of the police officer too much may make children afraid to seek help when they encounter danger, and even develop fear and resistance to the police. Wise parents should teach their children that the police are the ones who help them solve their problems, keep them safe, and be brave enough to ask for help when they are in trouble.
Third, parents should not easily say "it's not a big deal for a child's family". Children's actions and words often reflect their inner world and growth process. If parents are too protective of their children's wrong practices and impolite behaviors, they may mistakenly believe that these behaviors are correct, and thus develop bad habits. Wise parents should pay attention to their children's behavior, correct their mistakes in a timely manner, and teach them correct values and codes of conduct.
Finally, parents should not say "it's all the stool's fault, hit it and hit it". When a child falls or gets injured, many parents may blame other things like stools, floors, etc., in order to comfort the child. However, this can send the wrong signal to children that they will learn to shirk their responsibilities and be reluctant to face their own problems. Wise parents should teach their children to be brave enough to face their mistakes, learn to take responsibility, and learn from them.
In short, wise parents should pay attention to their choice of words in the process of parenting to avoid causing unnecessary harm to their children. They should approach their children's growth process with understanding, support and guidance, and help them develop a healthy mindset and behavioural habits. Only in this way can children thrive with the love and support of their parents and become responsible and responsible individuals. At the same time, it also requires parents to constantly learn and reflect in order to better play the important role of parenting.