Wen Xiamo. The beginning of a marriage is mostly good.
No one will jump into the quagmire without hesitation after knowing that marriage is a quagmire.
The longer a husband and wife get along, the more their own shortcomings are exposed. Moreover, it will gradually be found that there are some difficult problems in marriage.
But there are too many ties between each other, and they are unwilling to become a loser in their relationship, so they can only keep entanglement and torture each other.
Most couples who have a bad life and can't leave have the following things in common
A friend of mine who is a reader and shared his story with me:
He is a man who is content with the status quo and does not have a high pursuit of career. Don't expect to be rich and expensive, as long as you can get by.
And his wife, who is strong in everything and doesn't want to be left behind, is very dissatisfied with him.
His wife often complained in front of relatives and friends that he was a coward, unmotivated, and unable to achieve anything.
In fact, his wife is not his ideal type, the perfect wife in his mind is gentle and understanding.
Therefore, sometimes, he can't help but compare his wife with others, saying that if you look at others, when will you learn to learn the ...... others speak
Couples who have had a bad life, both of them have their own pursuits and ideas, and they are unwilling to compromise with their partners, nor are they willing to show more love to tolerate each other.
Always stand in your own perspective to blame your partner and vent your dissatisfaction and complaints.
So much so that life is full of strife, and two people who once loved each other have become a pair of resentful couples and hate each other.
Both of them desperately want to transform each other, and want her to do what she thinks, but in the end, the relationship is consumed, and only unhappiness is left in the marriage.
If a husband and wife have a bad relationship, it is likely that they only care about their own feelings and ignore the recognition and appreciation of their partner.
Therefore, in marriage, learn to give your partner enough space.
Only by not interfering with each other, not reforming, and maintaining respect and understanding, can life become more comfortable and smooth.
Couples who have a bad life and can't leave are actually very conflicted in their hearts.
There is no love between two people, but they are very eager for love, and they are eager to be cared for and cared for by their partners.
It's like a person who insists on guarding a dry well, knowing that there is no water in the well, and he is so thirsty that he still refuses to leave.
Perhaps, there was love at the beginning of the marriage, and they spent a lot of good days together.
And now, the two of them are like the most familiar strangers, there is no trace of temperature in the air, and there is only indifference and alienation in the words.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "When love comes, of course, it is also happy. However, this happiness comes to give, and it is also necessary to learn to accept disappointment, pain and parting. From then on, life is no longer pure. ”If love is gone, try to retract your expectations and focus more on yourself.
Learn to love yourself, manage your life with your heart, and find your own value in life.
When you live confidently and attractively, you may instead usher in your lover's appreciation, attract more attention, and get more love and care.
Husband and wife are together, obviously not in love with each other, but it is possible that they are reluctant to divorce because of their children.
Because there is a responsibility for children that cannot be shirked.
Yang Lan said: "The bond of marriage is not children, not money, but about the common growth of the spirit. ”When a marriage reaches a dead end and is facing disintegration, you have to consider the situation of your children.
Poor marital management is the shared responsibility of both husband and wife, and innocent children become the biggest victims.
Divorce will cause great trauma to the child's psychology, so that he will lack the company of his father or mother when he grows up. It can even affect a child's character formation and physical and mental health.
The relationship between the husband and wife is no longer there, but they also care about the children in their hearts and don't want the children to be hurt, so they don't dare to divorce easily.
In order to give the child a seemingly complete home, the husband and wife will maintain a superficial harmony, try not to quarrel in front of the child, and dare not divorce even if they look like each other.
Since you don't want to get divorced, try to run a family with your lover. In this way, the child can truly feel a sense of happiness and security.
Problems in a marriage don't just erupt in a day.
Between husband and wife, they have not come to the point where they have gone well and cannot be separated because both parties have neglected the importance and management of marriage.
In the days together, learn to be considerate of each other, tolerate each other, and try your best to meet your partner's expectations.
Learn to express love, learn to create a sense of ritual for your lover, and use a little bit of warmth and continuous accumulation to resist the long years.
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