This question seems to be a false proposition.
If a person can think of finding a solution, finding a better solution through multiple channels, and referring to other people's solutions to execute, then he is not a person with very poor self-control.
In other words, self-help itself requires self-control. For a person with very poor self-control, even if you give him a way to help himself, and this method requires him to have enough self-control, then does he have enough self-control to make himself self-controlled?
Of course, I don't just want to pour cold water. Here's a slightly more serious answer.
As I said above, it is an extreme way of thinking, then, I believe that there are indeed some people whose self-control is really poor, but not to an extreme, and then he still wants to find an improvement plan through his own efforts, and make himself better, I think, there should still be some ideas to refer to.
There are at least two perspectives to consider on this topic: one is cognitive, which means that self-control is important. The other question is, how do you train through action?
For the first question, asking this question shows that you have realized the importance of self-control and now want to find effective methods, so the real focus comes to the second question point, which is how to do it.
First, let's start with point 1 and talk about the planning aspect.
We can infer that self-control is not good enough and should not exist in all aspects. Rather, it should be related to some specific things that we are working on. People who feel that they have poor self-control may often find it difficult to stick to things that they are not interested in or that challenge them, but this is not the case for everything.
For example, if you go to watch a movie intently, can you be deeply engaged? Can we continue to persevere? What about two hours? If you can do it, then it means that you have your own self-control to some extent, and your self-control is able to keep you doing one thing for a certain period of time.
But why you can't persist in other things, you can't do self-control, the reason here may be because that thing is not in your interest point, so you can't lift your spirit, so that you can't continue to persevere.
So,The premise of making a plan is to analyze where your self-control is not goodDo you not have enough self-control in your studies, or do you not have self-control in cooking, or do you not have self-control in raising children?
Then next,Making a sound plan, of course, is through some proactive behavioral planningto change your own behavior. Make some careful plans and use some reminder tools to constantly reinforce and remind yourself.
Now the focus is actually on the execution of the plan, which is the second point we are talking about.
For example, if you ask yourself to study, you can start with a study plan for half an hour, and if you can do it for a while, you can expand the length of half an hour to an hour or gradually to two hours.
So, what do you do if you feel that your self-control is very poor in the process? For example, if you will desert, then you can set some dense alarms to remind yourself at intervals, and you can even use some extreme methods to tie yourself to a chair. Well, you said you would unravel it yourself, right? You let your wife, let your brother, let your friends help you, tie you up, tie you up, lock the lock, take the keys away.
In short, it is to keep yourself from leaving this environment, so that you can start to slowly get into the state and stick to something.
What the? You say that if your friend tied you up, you would find a way to scold him when you turned around, and if it was your wife who tied you up, and you wanted to divorce him, then, have you forgotten the promise you made in the first place? Have you forgotten that you want to improve your self-control?
If you really forget your original purpose in such trivial matters, and you are no longer able to exercise self-control, then please go back to the first two paragraphs above and tell yourself, don't embarrass yourself anymore, let yourself go.
Okay, if you can actually do it, then your self-control is still saved.
So, next,The third point is to find a way to make this kind of thing a habit. Let your body, your tissues and organs, accept this way of behaving, and let your life adapt to this routine for a long time, then your self-control may get better and better.