Mo Yan once said: "To tell you a cruel fact, if you associate with anyone, almost no one will like a cowardly person." If you are nervous, timid, humble, flattering, then you will suffer the deepest malice in the world. ”
In this world where the strong are respected, we cannot show weakness. Especially girls, never pin your hopes on others, and learn to be the heroine of your own life!
So what is a big heroine? In my opinion, the real big heroine is not a silk flower but a tree, a big tree that keeps growing! They can afford to let go, they have both the courage to lose everything and the confidence to win everything.
They will never look for a backer, but learn to be their own backer, and if there is no one to support them, then support themselves and fight bravely for themselves!
People are only strong enough to reach a certain height, and everything will make way for you. Only in this way are you the heroine of your own life, live the life you want, and protect the people you want.
1. Let others see your value
As a girl, if you want to gain a foothold in society, you must let others see your value. Only by discovering your strengths and weaknesses can you give full play to your value and make others notice you.
I once saw such a passage: the core of networking is the exchange of value, if you have no value, it is useless to know anyone, you are just an extra.
The reality is so cruel, the essence of interpersonal communication is to exchange interests, and your value is everything to you.
So be sure to let others see the value of your existence, and when you reach the irreplaceable time, it is when you become the heroine.
Everyone has their own value, don't be presumptuous, learn to find your own characteristics, become a unique existence.
When you let others see your value, your self-confidence and confidence will be greatly increased, and you will get closer and closer to that better self.
2. Work hard to make money and make your wallet thicker and thicker
Our parents have this kind of thinking: they always think that girls need to find someone to rely on, they think that girls don't need to work too hard, as long as they find a good family to marry, they are happy.
However, is this really the case? Not!
Girls should never think about relying on others, and don't put their lives on other people, there is nothing more real than your own wallet getting thicker and thicker.
Many people say that girls nowadays are too materialistic. Yes! But material things are not a shameful thing! Life is so long, everything can change, your work, your family, your feelings will change, no one can let you rely on for a lifetime, only you can become your own dependence.
So girls have to work hard to earn money and make themselves financially independent! With money, there will be more freedom and choice.
3. Keep learning and keep up with the pace of the times
Why do many girls become better and better and can become their own heroines? That's because they never stop learning!
The pace of the times has never stopped, and if you don't want to be abandoned by the times, you can't stop learning! Especially girls, if they want to be recognized by more people, improving their abilities is something that must be done.
Every year is different, and whether you can seize the opportunity depends on whether you seize the opportunity. Never underestimate the ability that learning brings you, maybe you can't see its power in the moment, but at some point in the future it will be a stepping stone for you to soar to the sky.
4. Control your emotions and stabilize your core
If we want to be our own heroine, controlling our emotions is a must for us.
Don't let your emotions be swayed by the outside world, and don't let your core be affected by the evaluation of the outside world.
Learn to control your emotions and face all negative emotions with a positive and optimistic attitude; We must learn to stabilize our core, no matter how bad the evaluation of the outside world is, we must be firm in our ideas and goals; Learn to think independently and make your own judgments and choices.
To be a big heroine is not to follow the crowd, not to follow the crowd, and to firmly follow your own path.
5. Learn to love yourself and be comfortable with yourself
I like a saying: "Learn to love yourself in order to love others better." Only those who truly love themselves can discover the beauty and richness of life. ”
To be your own heroine, you must learn to love yourself! Don't be bound by any emotion, you are you, and you can live whatever life you like; You can laugh if you want to laugh, you can cry if you want to cry; If you want to get married, you can get married, and if you don't want to get married, you won't get ......married
Life is short for decades, please work hard to live for yourself once, live as you want, and be the heroine of your own life.
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