The reason why ordinary people are always unsuccessful is that they feel that they have not met their talents. To a large extent, it is because there is no self-attribution, once it fails, it is attributed to the environment, and if you don't find the reason from yourself, you can't naturally start from yourself and find a breakthrough to solve the problem, and you have wasted most of your life in complaining. This is the Qilin Financial Quotient, which interprets a set of important concepts for you to become a winner in life, that is, self-attribution, self-belief and self-positioning.
Changing lives (1) Self-attribution
When faced with problems, masters always look inward, which is also called self-attribution.
Why self-attribution when you have a problem? The reason is very simple, first, the problem you see is not necessarily a problem in the eyes of others. Second, you can't change others. 3. Others are not obligated to solve what you think is a problem.
Many people who can't make money like to complain about the bad environment. When the epidemic comes, it is said that the epidemic affects the market, and when the epidemic is over, it is said that the opportunities brought by the epidemic have disappeared. Uncle Benshan said, Zhao Benshan's soul asked: Why are you going anywhere, and the environment is not good? There are also people who do sales, always like to complain about customers, and it is always the customer who does not know the goods, and does not reflect on whether they have made their own product advantages clear and whether they can explain it clearly to customers.
What do you think when you encounter a problem? First of all, whether it is good or bad, the master is not obsessed with thinking about why such a thing happens, but pondering, why does this happen to himself? What is the reason for good things to come, and how to persist in it? What are the causes of bad things and how can they be avoided? Once you take action, then what happens around you will also change. In this way, from the environment to the whole life, it is constantly optimizing in the adjustment of the self.
And if you always attribute the problem to the environment, because the environment changes extremely slowly, you often can't wait for the environment to improve. And attribute the problem to others, such as bosses, employees or even spouses, when the other party changes, it will not be you who will benefit, you are just a tool to achieve others. If you don't change, you will inevitably not be able to keep up with the rhythm and will be abandoned by the other party in the end.
Changing lives (2) Self-belief
What you believe, what happens.
The scariest thing in this world is your fear. Before someone is diagnosed with cancer, the whole person's state is not too much of a problem, but once the cancer is diagnosed and he knows the bad news, the condition will soon deteriorate, and the person will soon be gone.
Why is that? It is the power of belief that is at work, but the belief in the disease plays a negative role. In the same way, the positive effects of faith are very powerful. There is a placebo effect in psychology, saying that if a patient is given a placebo, that is, there is nothing that has a medicinal effect and is harmless, and it is pretended to be a special drug, the patient's condition will usually get better as if he really took the medicine, in fact, this is completely psychological, but in the patient's belief, he believes that the drug is effective.
In fact, entrepreneurship is also, one of the reasons why ordinary people always cringe and miss the opportunity to succeed in entrepreneurship is a lack of faith, and over-emphasizing the lack of objective conditions shows that they have no courage. Behind the lack of courage is a lack of belief in success.
Since faith is so important, what if you elevate your own beliefs? Some people mistakenly think that as long as they keep saying encouraging words to themselves and make themselves excited, they can deceive their hearts. At this time, you should think, can't those cancer patients encourage themselves with words? And those who took the placebo got better because of verbal encouragement? Apparently not.
Therefore, to allow yourself to have faith, you need to find reasons to truly believe in something, rather than forcing yourself to accept certain ideas and resist them inwardly. Only what you think is true, your heart will believe, and the power of change can be filled.
In order to train your beliefs, you have to put your mind into what you want to do, and constantly improve the relevant skills, build up the basics, and then find opportunities to keep validating, and when you start to succeed, the beliefs will naturally become stronger.
Changing lives (3) Self-positioning
Whether you are rich or poor, it's up to you.
Self-identity seriously restricts the possibility of changing our lives. The children of the rich are not born with the habits of the poor, and this is not entirely the result of environmental influences. In the past, the rich also had servants in their homes, and their children grew up in the same environment as the master's children, but they thought about completely different problems. What is the master's child, thinking? How to inherit the family business and grow stronger, while the servant's children only think about how to serve the master and receive the master's reward.
This identity of human beings is not innate, but a psychological phenomenon. Psychologist Maxwell Maltz proposed that everyone has something called "self-image", the so-called self-image, which is the "portrait" that a person portrays for himself, which is used to locate who he is and what he can do. This self-image is not innate, but is formed by the feedback of existing life experiences and circumstances, especially childhood experiences.
Self-image can be changed, and once a person's self-image changes, all the environment he perceives will change. Maxwell Maltz proved this, he himself was a plastic surgeon, and he found that when many people's appearance changed, their personality and intelligence also changed. His research found that the reason why these people have changed is because their self-image has changed, they have a new understanding of who they are, what they can do, and they can be said to have a new identity.
There are many ways to obtain wealth, but the identity of ordinary people is too narrow, and the idea is naturally not open, which is why many people advocate reading celebrity biographies, and this practice is also used by elite families to educate children, the reason is that by reading the lives of others, an ordinary person can be brought into the identity of a successful person, feel their joys, sorrows, and sorrows, so as to obtain the vision of a successful person to deal with life problems, and find a way to change their own environment.