Blind dates are one of the quickest and easiest ways for people to choose a future life partner. There are many people who have found a suitable other half who can spend the rest of their lives with them through blind dates, and have entered the palace of happiness in marriage together, but there are also many people who have tried many blind dates but have not been able to hold hands until they are discouraged about the blind date.
In fact, there are many doorways and skills in the blind date, if you are familiar with these skills, then your chances of success on a blind date will be greatly improved.
1. Blind date meeting strategy
The first step is to prepare for the blind date.
Learn more, inquire more, after all, "know yourself and know your opponent, and you will not be defeated in a hundred battles". Before you're sure she's the person you want, you're going to tell her that we just know each other, and we don't have to get emotional. It is very irresponsible to easily make a promise, or to agree to be with someone without feelings.
First of all, you have to do a screening of the goals you want to find and list the criteria that you want the most. Doing so will give you a certain advantageous position. The standard doesn't need to be too high, just list the core requirements.
In addition, be sure to gather as much useful information as possible, your "standard" will allow the introducer to show more of the target, saving the pressure of frequent questioning. In terms of clothing, the overall feeling is neat and tidy. It is best to dress up in a simple and low-key manner, and it is advisable to have a niche brand. The blind date location may be the matchmaker's house, or a restaurant such as KFC.
Step 2: Meet.
It doesn't matter what you talk about when you meet, don't be afraid of not having a topic, don't be afraid that the other person won't like you. Focus your attention on the following points, and you've won.
1. At the level of mentality, what are you doing here, is it to deal with her? Of course not, but to come to see her, and not fit herself. You're not here to please her, you're here to discover her and get to know her.
2. Second, be polite and don't ask questions that are too private or too bizarre. Don't brag about it, talk about topics that interest you. Ask what you want to know, keep the pace of speech, not fast, steady, like an old friend.
3. Maintain eye contact and look at each other's eyes with moist eyes, or the area between the mouth and nose. Don't make too many small movements, and it's not good to relax to yawn. Don't start with a smiling face, as if you see the leader, you might as well look dazed when you first enter the door, or even not smile. When the conversation starts, use a smiley face as a reward for the other party, and the other party will be more easily aroused.
Step 3: After the blind date is over.
After you go back, don't give each other right away, ask for social tools***, and don't make an appointment to eat right away. Make the other person wait a little longer, and then add social tools and start chatting. What to talk about, this is easier than meeting, because you can draw materials from all over the world and not stick to reality. In the early stage, it can be appropriately virtual and play a certain attraction effect, the so-called slang truth. If proper storytelling can lead to a good start, it does not prevent the fiction of something that can arouse the interest of the other person on the basis of real life.
Step 4, the first date after the blind date.
You have to do two things, the first is to chat and interact, and the second is to try to get close. With the foreshadowing (especially when you can joke and accept it psychologically), please hold hands directly, and hold hands decisively by crossing the road or warming your hands in cold weather. Of course, if you want to go with the flow, you can also take your time and try a few more times.
For meals, it is recommended not to go to too expensive restaurants, which are usually limited to 300 yuan. It stands to reason that spending money decently for the first time can bring you the best value and a good contact environment. But practical experience tells us that if you eat hot pot, Western food, or Korean food for the first time, most of them will wait and see after you go back. Watch your next investment, because in this case, your commitment is a manifestation of your attitude, that is, recognition of the other person. Therefore, the starting point for the first time should not be too high.
The fifth step is to go deeper.
You have to find the right place, and if you have a house, bring her to the house to cook and eat together. Or watch a romance movie with few people, or walk on the campus that has been on vacation, by the river. Stealing a kiss, as if nothing happened, is a temptation. If the other person's reaction is not too strong, then kiss boldly and directly, from shallow to deep. Usually after going through the first few steps, the other person will tell you a lot of things about her that you wouldn't easily reveal before, and what you really want to know. For example, the person you have dated before, such as family background, etc., according to your standards, see if the other party meets your standards.
2. Blind date tips
1. Opening remarks, when you meet for the first time, the opening remarks of the first sentence can be said to be very important, if you can fit a little, it will definitely leave a good impression on the other party, for example, the simplest is hello, I am happy to meet you, or I am happy to meet you, etc., you must be generous.
2. Maintain self-confidence, when you meet or chat with each other for the first time, don't be particularly inferior, and don't be particularly proud, these aspects are very bad, you must maintain sufficient self-confidence, but don't always stare at each other, that will make the other party feel particularly embarrassed.
3. You can first understand through the Internet, and now the Internet can be said to be quite developed, so before meeting on a blind date, in fact, two people can first go through the Internet to have a preliminary understanding of each other, at least two people chat online, know the interests and hobbies of answering questions, and then meet so as to avoid embarrassment and coldness.
4. Don't always talk about your parents, now many people often feel that there is no topic when they are on a blind date, so they prefer to talk about some parents' things, especially some successful parents, who always like to talk about how powerful their parents are.
5. Be steady, especially when a boy meets a girl for the first time and goes on a blind date, if he wants to succeed in making the other party have a good impression of him, then he must be mature and steady, don't be too impetuous, and he can also show that he is a little self-motivated, but he can't talk about it, so that the girl will be more favored.
6. Filial piety, whether it is a boy or a girl, in terms of filial piety, in fact, many people like it very much, so if you want to promote the success of the blind date, you can show that you are more filial, which will often leave a good impression on the other party.
7. The mobile phone is set to vibrate, when you meet for the first time, remember not to frequently answer ** in the process of conversation, because this will make the other party feel disrespectful enough, or focus on the blind date, it is best to adjust the mobile phone directly to vibrate.
8. Leave contact**, if you feel that the other party is a blind date that you are satisfied with, then you can leave one before the end**, or leave something else***, which can facilitate the contact between the two people in the future, further promote understanding, and also facilitate the development of feelings.
3. Blind date chat skills
1.When talking about the other party's work, you can roughly judge whether the other party's income level is consistent with the introduction from the work unit, job content and position.
2.Talking about each other's emotional experience, you can learn about the other party's personality and hobbies, as well as the requirements and views on the man's marriage.
3.Talk about each other's family, know the composition of the man's family, family environment. The main thing is whether the man's assets provide a happy future.
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Have you learned today's blind date tips? Of course, it can only play an auxiliary role in the skills of blind dates, and the most important thing is to see the feelings of both parties.
Don't be discouraged if you haven't found the right partner yet, the right person will be waiting for you in the future. If you find it, then I wish you all the best if you can hold hands and succeed as soon as possible and enter the palace of marriage together.