Teacher, I was in a strong relationship a few days ago, and suddenly I fell off a cliff and became cold, do men say they don't love if they don't love? Did I put too much pressure on him before?
Now send him a WeChat message saying that he is busy, and he doesn't answer **, and the circle of friends seems to have blocked me. I don't know if he has another newcomer? Did they all pretend before?
First of all, correct a mistake for you.
Many girls say that they were broken up because they were made, I was too good at making trouble, I didn't make him happy, I made him feel pressured, but in fact, it wasn't like that at all.
What girl doesn't do? I haven't recognized a girl who isn't emotional, I haven't recognized a girl who doesn't.
If a girl doesn't make trouble, is she still a woman? That's a man. Women are sensual, and this is the charm of women. You have abandoned even your charm, so how do you attract men?
The reason why you broke up coldly is not because you are emotional, there is another set of operating logic behind it, so why is this happening?
Differences in the thinking of men and women
In the process of dating, there are actually differences in the thinking of men and women. When you first get to know each other, if you like each other, his value of liking you quickly soars to 100 points, and the value of your liking of him is generally 60 points. After a while, the man's liking for you is only 30, but you will rise to 100 points or more for him.
A woman likes a man, and her feelings will get higher and higher in getting along, showing an increase. As we spend more time together, I like this man more and more; But men are different, men will grow with time, the likes will get lower and lower, and they will become more and more tired.
From a biological point of view, man is a creature who likes to stimulate and change. If you remain the same in front of him, always like this, the man will feel bored, he will think that you are mine, and I don't need to spend any more energy on you.
Differences in demand perspectives
Society demands independence from men. A man will never rely on pure love in his relationship, and to maintain it, he will rely more on his own needs.
There are three self-needs:Emotional value, economic benefits, sexual attraction
Emotional valueThe uniqueness is that I can grasp your emotions, understand your psychology, grasp your needs, give you what you want, and know what you are thinking. (How to do it, you can pay attention to my background appointment to help) makes you feel with me, and there is no woman who can replace it.
Economic benefitsIt is that I can earn money with you, help me maintain my career, and make our family's assets more and more.
Sexual attractionSimpler, it comes from the biological instinct of human beings, without which human reproduction would be extinct.
If you can meet the above 3 needs, then the relationship between the two of you will definitely be unbreakable, and satisfying any 2 of this relationship will be stable.
Psycho-emotional counselors need to pay attention to the background t].