In the past few days, a sudden wind blew and sent a custom that did not exist in my place: it was said that children should give dragon buns to their parents before the spring thunder of the first month, so that their parents would be healthy and safe in the following year.
The so-called dragon bun is said to be a traditional custom of Mopo Street in Sheqi County, Henan. Every year on the eve of the Chinese New Year, locals steam a dragon-shaped bun that is rectangular in shape, with a broad head, a slender tail and a dragon ball in its mouth. The eyes are two red dates, and there are fish scale patterns on the body, which looks lifelike and very cute. This kind of bun is the dragon bun. Maybe it's a type of flower bun?
Flower buns are popular in the main food producing areas in the north, and in the north, steamed flower buns for the Chinese New Year symbolize good weather and rain, agricultural harvest, and the people feel happy because of abundance. "A steamed flower bun, the neighbors come to help", many families will steam the flower bun on the occasion of the Spring Festival, to worship the gods and gift relatives and friends, especially in Shandong, its flower bun is famous all over the world.
The same is true for dragon buns, its exquisite shape, auspicious meaning has been loved by everyone, the older generation believes that steamed dragon buns can eliminate disasters and prolong life, so even if they do not own their own steamed dragon buns, they will buy them, in order to seek the health of the elders in the family and the success of the family.
Dragons are very important in Chinese food culture, what dragon whisker noodles, dragon whisker crisp, dragon phoenix cake, dragon ball cake, dragon head cake, or named after the dragon, or take its shape, is nothing more than borrowing the good image of the dragon in the minds of the Chinese, such as a meaning, the same is true of dragon bun. And the custom of sending dragon buns suddenly became lively, not only parents have expectations, but also children do not dare to take it lightly, it is rare for parents to have such a good demand, so they must not act quickly to show filial piety? **Ten thousand fans incentive plan for older parents how to give gifts and filial piety, children are often in a headache and not a headache, gifts always encounter unappreciative situations, and even will be all kinds of accusations nagging, either too expensive, or useless, to a head stick, a long time, it will make people give gifts of enthusiasm greatly discounted.
In the final analysis, it is a question of thinking differences and communication habits. My parents' generation had gone through a difficult era of material scarcity, and they had a deep understanding of thrift and a deep hatred of extravagance and waste. A friend of mine said that his mother has a hobby of hoarding old things, and the house is full of old things accumulated over the years, as well as scrap products that are picked up and exchanged in various parts of the community, and the family has opened a room to pile up these old things, and there is no place to put his feet, which makes him very depressed.
Therefore, many parents are reluctant to accept gifts because they are worried about their children's financial contributions, and often nug their children to be diligent and thrifty, so when their children spend for themselves, parents will feel uneasy and worried, worried that these wasteful behaviors will affect their children's financial situation. As children, our generation has accepted the baptism of the market economy, lives in an era of abundant material resources, and rarely has a shortage of materials, so they prefer to pursue the quality of life and a sense of ritual, and like to express their hearts by buying gifts.
Some parents are unwilling to show joy after accepting their children's intentions because of their personality or thinking, and even have to be picky in every possible way, and raise various dissatisfaction with gifts, which leads to children feeling that their carefully selected gifts have not been affirmed by their parents, and their good mood is gone, forming a situation of "hard work in vain", and then often scratching their heads when choosing gifts for their parents. When encountering the kind of parents who can express themselves generously and accept gifts calmly, their children should not be too happy, and they can spend their money comfortably.
I have repeatedly hit a wall in the matter of giving gifts to my mother, when I was in school, I used my pocket money to buy her a bouquet of flowers on Mother's Day and was scolded for spending money, and then I was blamed for her bad vision when I bought other things, and she couldn't look down on the things she bought, saying that I wouldn't live, a loser, so that I had a psychological shadow when I mentioned giving gifts to my mother, and every time I gave a gift, I was bored, so it was better not to give it.
The difference in thinking between the two generations has led to a lack of understanding between each other, which is reflected in some stumbling contradictions in behavior, and it is necessary to seek some communication skills to solve this contradiction.
The first is respect, to respect the opinions of parents, who have their own reasons for refusing our gifts. Be respectful of their decisions and try to understand their thoughts. Is it because we are always showing financial difficulties in front of our parents, which makes them worry about our financial situation, or because we lack confidence in our earning ability and worry that we will not be able to arrange our lives well? We should use practical actions to let them relax, sincerely express to their parents, that it is within our ability to give some suitable gifts, and that the money we earn makes our relatives happy is the driving force for us to earn money.
Then it is necessary to understand the needs of parents and see if there are other ways to express their love and filial piety, and parents may need more time, companionship and care for their children. Virtuous communication is an important way to resolve conflicts and maintain family relationships, there must always be a person who speaks softly first, first compensates for the smiley face, as the saying goes, raise your hand and don't hit the smiley person, you may change your attitude, and it is easier for your parents to accept it. Parents don't know about the living conditions of young people and the new things around them, chat with them more, care about their health, go to their parents' homes more, carefully observe their daily life and personal preferences, give what they lack, share what they think is easy to use and durable, and send some things they really need.
Children need more understanding and patience, and while expecting to be affirmed by their parents, they should also be grateful for their contributions to the family. Say to your parents, you raised us, now you should enjoy your old age, it's time for us to shoulder the responsibility of this family as children.
Yesterday my mother told me that her friend's daughter gave her mother a dragon bun, and her envy was overflowing. I immediately placed an order for my mother to buy a pair of dragon buns, it is rare to have a gift from the old lady, so why not buy it quickly, so that the old lady can also smile, go out and talk, be the most beautiful old lady in the community?