Throughout the long journey of life, we are often taught to care for others and to be selfless. However, when we really step into society and interact with others, we find that sometimes living a little "selfish" can make ourselves and others more relaxed. This is not to say that we become cold and selfish, but that we learn to maintain appropriate distance and proportion in interpersonal interactions, so as to enrich the script of our lives.
Chen Jiru once wrote in "The Story of a Small Window": "It is better to make people have the joy of friendship at first glance, than to make people tired of being bored for a long time." This quote tells us that instead of pursuing short-term pleasures, it is better to pursue long-term comfort. In interpersonal interactions, we should learn to respect the boundaries of others, not to interfere in their private affairs, and not to impose our own expectations on them. Only in this way can we build healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships.
I once watched a TV series "The World", in which Qiao Chunyan and Zhou Bingkun's behavior is in stark contrast. Qiao Chunyan always tries to use her connections for personal gain, while Zhou Bingkun sticks to her principles and is not moved by friendship. In the end, Qiao Chunyan lost her position because she relied too much on others, while Zhou Bingkun won the respect of more people because he knew how to be proportionate. This story teaches us that in interpersonal interactions, we should learn to maintain proper distance and proportion, not to try to interfere in the lives of others, and not to allow our lives to be controlled by others.
Similarly, in real life, we should also learn to respect the choices and lifestyles of others. Everyone has their own life script, and we don't need to force others to live according to our ideas. Some people prefer the slow pace of a small city, while others yearn for the fast pace of a big city; Some people like to live a simple and simple life, while others like to chase the trendy. These are personal choices that we should respect and understand.
At the same time, we must learn not to pander to the wrong people. Life is a busy one, and we don't have to sacrifice our true feelings to please others. Instead of losing yourself in pandering to others, be brave enough to do what you love and live the life you want. In this way, we can truly live our own lives and realize our own value.
In interpersonal interactions, we also need to learn to maintain appropriate silence. Sometimes, too many words and explanations will only deepen misunderstandings, while appropriate silence can make people think more calmly. Mo Yan is silent, not because he is silent, but because he knows how to be silent at the right time to make his heart more peaceful. This silence is not indifference, but a kind of wisdom, a realm.
In short, living "selfishly" does not mean that we become cold and selfish, but that we learn to maintain proper distance and proportionality in our interpersonal interactions. We should respect the choices and lifestyles of others and not interfere in their private affairs; At the same time, we must also stick to our own principles and not be moved by friendship. Only in this way can we establish healthy and harmonious interpersonal relationships and enrich our lives. In this complex and ever-changing world, we need to use wisdom to distinguish between right and wrong, and courage to stand up for our beliefs. Only in this way can we live our own lives and realize our own values.