Text: A flower demon.
Before and after getting married, he seemed to be a different person. ”
I seem to have heard countless people say this.
Yes, you don't have to worry about a lot of things when you're in love, as long as you get along happily.
But when you get married, it will become different, the two will need to live together, they will need to run in, and then the shortcomings and contradictions will come out, if you can't stand each other, the core of the relationship will disappear.
So, how should an unbearable marriage be handled?
Two words for everyone: separate.
If you can't bear it, you can't bear it, why should you be so angry?
Some people may say, "No, for the sake of the family, for the sake of the children, I can't do this." ”
Then I can only say that you can only bear it, after all, you brought it on yourself.
We have been saying that as a human being, you are an individual first, and then you are a wife, husband, mother, and father.
You have to live for yourself first, you are not happy together, and you can't get anything from him, so what is the meaning of you being together?
When you don't feel love, you don't feel benefits, the relationship is broken.
I have seen many divorced families, where children can still feel the love of their parents, and even they will feel that they have a better life after divorce.
There is a blogger on the Internet who also thought her husband was good at first.
But after getting married, her husband was lazy, did nothing, and always complained about her.
Later, she got angry and divorced her husband.
The husband realized the seriousness of the problem and began to curry favor with her, listening to her in everything, just for her to remarry.
At that time, many people were worried about the child's problem, but it turned out that the child was happier than before, and the mother and daughter looked better than before.
Sometimes you may worry that your children will be bullied because of divorce, but in today's society, divorced families abound.
Sometimes, it's better to leave early and get rid of it sooner than to live with a bad person, rather than to survive in an unbearable marriage.
Your child wants you to be well, and he wants his life not to be born out of bad circumstances.
Some couples have a discordant relationship and quarrel all day long, which has a great impact on their children.
And if you tolerate it, then your children may look down on you and think you are a bully in the future.
It's like a TV series I watched a long time ago, and although I can't remember the name, I was really impressed.
The woman was a housewife who, after marrying her husband, lived with her mother-in-law's house.
The mother-in-law is a very strong existence and will always pick and choose from her, and the husband is relatively cowardly, always unmoved when the mother-in-law reprimands her.
She had three children in total, and although she endured the relationship for the sake of the children, her children were not happy to see her.
Later, one time, she couldn't stand it anymore and scolded her mother-in-law.
The children were very pleased, and even gave her a good face for the first time and called her mother.
Sometimes, what you think is not necessarily what your child thinks.
If you are divorced, will you still love your children well?
Obviously, if you have a child in your heart, then you will definitely double down on the child.
The love that a child can feel is not less, and he will only feel very relieved that you leave this unbearable marriage.
Children always want you to do well, and they won't be a burden to you.
It has been said, "Marriage is the grave." ”
But let me say that the quality of your marriage depends on your choices.
The first time you choose the wrong person to get married, leave the other person and start over, and give yourself another chance to choose.
Finally, I summarized it with a favorite sentence: If you can't do it again, please love yourself.