In the ocean of marriage, each couple is a small boat that requires two people to work together to navigate the rough sea. However, on this common voyage, there are times when one side paddles while the other side stands by, which is figuratively called "shaving the head and picking the head". Such an imbalance not only tires the side that is working hard, but also makes it difficult for the boat to move smoothly. Today, let's work together on how to avoid this situation and make shared responsibility in marriage the motivation for the two to move forward hand in hand.
Imagine when one partner is busy at home with household chores such as cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, etc., while the other is leisurely enjoying it all, even thinking that it is the other person's responsibility. This inequality is undoubtedly disrespectful to the giver and a misunderstanding of shared responsibility in marriage. Not only will it lead to a gradual expansion of the emotional distance between the two parties, but it will also make the giver feel lost and unvalued.
Unequal power often stems from the influence of traditional ideas or the different expectations of both parties about the role of marriage. Under such influence, one partner may consider housework to be the "vocation" of the other spouse and ignore that marriage is a contract that needs to be maintained by both parties. In the long run, this inequality will act like a corrosive agent that slowly erodes the foundation of the marriage and eventually leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
What can be done to change this situation and allow the ship of marriage to sail smoothly? First and foremost, both spouses need to realize that marriage is an equal partnership. Whether it is the division of household chores or economic expenses, both parties need to share it fairly. For example, it is possible to ensure that everyone has the opportunity to participate in family affairs by creating a household chore allocation table. On the economic side, both parties should also share household expenses and contribute according to their respective capabilities, rather than unilaterally passing the burden on one side.
In addition, caring for the spiritual needs of the other person is also an important factor in maintaining the balance of the marriage. In your busy life, make time for a relaxing activity together, such as going for a walk, watching a movie, or participating in a hobby. This kind of sharing time can enhance mutual understanding and affection, and make both parties feel valued and loved.
Of course, communication is the key to solving problems. When you feel dissatisfied or stressed, you should communicate with your partner in a timely manner to express your feelings and expectations. Through frank dialogue, both sides can find solutions to problems and better understand each other's positions and needs.
On the road to marriage, no one is born to be a helmsman, and no one is destined to be just a crew. Everyone should be the owner of the ship, share the responsibility and face the challenges together. Only when both people are willing to put in the effort for the relationship can they truly enjoy the happiness and satisfaction that marriage brings.
Marriage is not a one-sided effort, but the result of two people working together. By sharing the housework, financial expenses, and caring for each other's spiritual needs, we can avoid the situation of "shaving your head and picking your head" and make marriage a journey of equality, harmony, and love. Let's work together to let the boat of love sail in the ocean of marriage.
end Wen Zifeng (** on the Internet, invaded and deleted).