I am 56 years old, and I have only one daughter, who has also been married and has two children.
My daughter gave birth to two daughters, and her in-laws didn't care, she even thought it was because she didn't give birth to a son to her son-in-law.
Now I am still thinking about having another child, and seeing her so crazy, my wife and I decided to withdraw all the help we had for them. The two agreed to travel.
Today's weather is gloomy and dreary, with light raindrops falling from time to time. The little granddaughter Lele finally fell asleep.
I quietly tucked the quilt for her. tiptoed back to the living room and began to clean up, a room full of toys and pillows thrown by Lele. Before I cleaned up, my back hurt and I couldn't stand it.
I sat on the sofa and rested for half an hour, and I didn't feel better. I thought: Forget it, don't clean it up. It's still more important to be physical.
I sat on the bed reading a book, and Lele slept beside me. Looking at my granddaughter's quiet face, my heart couldn't help but soften.
This child has been one and a half years old since birth, and I have brought it out almost by myself.
I didn't watch it for a while, it was more than three o'clock, and I called my wife ** to remind him not to forget to pick up the child.
The one who goes to kindergarten is Lele's sister, named Huanhuan, who just entered the middle school class this year.
My wife said: The weather is bad today, and the road is slippery on a rainy day. I picked up my kids and went straight home, not to go to the supermarket to buy groceries. I remember having ribs and chicken wings in the fridge. Just do a little bit in the evening."
I said, "That's fine, you ride slowly." I'll take out the ribs and chicken wings and thaw them later. ”
Not long after my wife left, Lele woke up, I dressed her and made milk powder, and took out the meat from the refrigerator to thaw it.
It didn't take long for my wife to come back with Huanhuan.
The living room, which was originally quite tidy, was instantly turned into a battlefield by the sisters. I looked at them helplessly. My wife went to the kitchen to prepare dinner.
When the daughter and son-in-law came back from work, the meals were ready.
I thought it was the same as usual, another normal day.
I didn't expect my daughter to provoke the two of us at the dinner table.
Mom, you and Dad can't just watch the children at home, but also be responsible for creating a comfortable and clean space for them. ”
My wife and I didn't pay attention to her when my daughter said these words, Huanhuan will eat by herself when she is older, but she still needs someone to watch and eat. Lele still needs me to feed him when he eats.
So I didn't listen carefully to what my daughter said. So vaguely agreed.
Unexpectedly, the girl still didn't give up, "Mom, look at the dishes you cooked today, there is no one to eat." That's how I eat it. ”
The girl's tone is getting worse and worse, I have a headache when I listen to it, and my waist is still aching.
I'm not in a good mood either.
What's wrong with today's dish, cola chicken wings, braised pork ribs, scrambled eggs with green peppers and a shiitake mushroom greens. Why can't you eat it. ”
We are your parents, not the servants and cooks you paid for, to help you take care of your children and subsidize your living expenses, and you don't care about it at all. If you're not satisfied, your dad and I will move out and let your in-laws serve you."
As soon as I said this, my daughter was silent. Even the son-in-law who was a ** person next to him before is smiling at the moment.
Mom, don't be angry Wu Yue didn't mean to, she just wasn't in a good mood today, don't be like her. ”
My wife also echoed on the side, "It's okay, it's okay, how can the family have anything to say, it's over." ”
At this time, the son-in-law and daughter-in-law were buried in eating and did not say a word.
Only the sound of two children chirping was left at the dinner table.
But my heart is really uncomfortable. My chest was tight, and I couldn't wait to vent it.
After eating, the daughter and son-in-law prepared to go to the living room to watch TV, completely ignoring the mess at the dinner table and their daughter.
I told Huanhuan to go to the bathroom to wash her hands. I picked Lele down from the dining chair and handed it directly to my daughter, "Your own child, you ask yourself." And I just told you that your father and I are not your servants, since we make the meal. You have to do the work of washing the dishes and pots. ”
It was raining outside and there was nowhere to go, so I pulled my wife to the bedroom to sit.
My wife persuaded me: "Look at what you are doing, we parents can still care about our children." When I look back at my daughter, I'll talk about her, and don't be angry. Mother and daughter reconciled. ”
Thinking of the cute smiling faces of my two granddaughters, the anger in my heart is slowly subsiding.
At five o'clock the next morning, I got up to start making breakfast for the family.
When I came to the kitchen door, I rubbed my eyes and watched in disbelief as my daughter was busy in the kitchen.
My daughter was a little embarrassed to see me staring at her.
Mom, why are you looking at me like this,"
Me: "I want to see if the sun is coming out of the west today, and why a miracle happened early in the morning." ”
Oh, my mother, you can really meet me as a girl. As she spoke, she put six eggs in the pot and boiled them.
You just need to cook four, your dad and I both have high cholesterol, and the doctor won't let us eat too many eggs. ”
Looking at my daughter's current appearance, my anger from last night has long since disappeared.
We were cooking and chatting about home.
As she spoke, her girl's painting style changed.
Mom, in the recent past, you have studied the recipe and made more health care for the body, I am going to recuperate and recuperate the body, and strive to have another third child, this time I must give birth to a boy. ”
Hearing my daughter say this, my heart was blocked again.
You yourself are an only child, why do you attach so much importance to having a boy. Besides, Zhiming now has a salary of seven or eight thousand a month, and you have a salary of three thousand and a half a month. I still have to raise two children, if it weren't for me and your father's subsidy, your family would have drunk the northwest wind a long time ago. ”
When my daughter saw that I didn't unite with her this time, her face immediately changed.
Mom, you always talk about this, you are my mother, you don't help me, who will help me, besides, you didn't give birth to a boy for my father, don't you stop your girl from having a boy. ”
My daughter's words hurt my heart. I'm so kind as a donkey's liver and lungs.
I'm your mother, so I'm supposed to help you unconditionally? Zhiming is still the child of his parents, and he hasn't seen his parents help you, but he treats your brother-in-law's family as a baby. You ask yourself, have you two daughters spent their grandparents' money? ”
The more he spoke, the more intense he became.
Both of us are angry.
Isn't that because I didn't give birth to a boy to their old Liu family, my mother-in-law said that if I gave birth to a boy, they would definitely treat them equally. Mom, it's useless to say anything. Anyway, I decided to have three children. My own body is my way, and you have no right to stop me. ”
My hands are shaking with anger, okay, well, this is the college girl I worked hard to cultivate.
Even I, an old man, are not so feudal, and she is so stubborn in thinking as a person who has gone to college.
Since she said so, I have to respect her choice as a mother.
However, since she said that I had no right to stop her from making decisions, she couldn't interfere with my mother's decisions.
I went back to my room and found that my wife had already packed up our things.
I heard what you two were saying outside, and the children got married when they got older. We parents really can't interfere so much. Didn't you say that you want to go to Jiangnan to see the flowers in spring, let's prepare, and I will take you to the south for a tour. ”
Husband and wife for decades, with my understanding of my wife, I know in my heart that he is also cold to his daughter.
Over the years, our old couple has cut down on food and clothing, just to make this only daughter live freely and comfortably.
The son-in-law has no house or car, and the bride price is symbolically given to the mother-in-law. She is willing to marry.
At the beginning, we didn't agree to this family business, and my daughter was determined to get married. The house we live in now was bought by our old couple.
Over the years, we have paid for the pregnancy and childbirth of our daughters, and we have also paid for the milk powder diapers and insurance money for the two children.
The in-laws don't care at all.
I thought that even if our son-in-law had no conscience and didn't know how to be grateful, at least my daughter-in-law knew it.
But now it seems that the girl has no idea at all.
Far fragrant and smelly, her in-laws didn't care about them, she actually blamed herself. Blame yourself for not giving birth to a boy for their family.
At this point, my wife and I will no longer get involved in the affairs of my daughter's family.
On Saturday morning, my wife and I quietly walked away with our bags.
When you get home, return to the familiar surroundings. My wife and I were both mentally relaxed. You don't have to be nervous all the time to watch your child cook, do housework, be like a spinning top, and even hold your child when you sleep.
Before I left the house, I sent a message to my daughter, telling her that her dad and I would be involved too much in their family in the future. Let them live a good life.
The girl quickly replied: "Mom, as for you, such a big person still runs away from home by others, I think you are willing to leave your two granddaughters." ”
I didn't reply to my daughter's message.
I discussed with my wife that I would go to ** travel in a few days, I wanted to go to Wuyuan to see the rape flowers, and my wife said yes.
Just a few days later, on the way to Wuyuan, my daughter called me**: Mom, you and Dad come back quickly, you are not here, Huanhuan doesn't eat and doesn't want to go to kindergarten, Lele has been sleeping with me in the middle of the night and kicking the quilt I don't know she also has a cold. I took three days off, and Zhiming also quarreled with me and accused me of not taking care of my family and children. ”
I said: It's okay, I believe you will be able to adapt to this kind of life, after all, you have to have three children, and you have to practice how to take care of the children in advance. There is also the insurance of Joy and Joy will be paid next month, a total of 7,000 yuan for you to be ready. There are other utilities and gas bills, and I will tell you the date of the payment. ”
Mom, how can you be so cruel, I'm your daughter, you really plan to ignore me. ”
You're a mom too, and you can't let us take responsibility for you. Since you have chosen to have children, you must learn to be responsible for them. ”
After saying that, I hung up the **. My wife said: I hope this time can make her have a long heart.
I said, "People can't teach people, but things will teach you." If she still thinks about having three children, then she is hopeless.