Zhang Xiaoxian said:
can't hold on to lifelong love, it's just a person on a long-distance journey, coming and going in a hurry at the transfer station, no matter how long you stay, you always have to leave to take another flight.Someone has calculated that people will meet 8263563 people in their lives, 39,778 people will greet them, 3,619 people will be familiar with them, and 275 people will be close, but they will eventually dissipate in the sea of people.
Some people are passers-by of life, and they have long been forgotten in the rivers and lakes;
But some people are destined to be remembered, buried deep in the corner of their hearts, and they will still be worried about it.
For a man, the only thing he can never forget is the woman who gives him these three feelings.
Why does first love make many people unforgettable for life?
Maybe it's just that two people don't care about the economy, background, resources, and don't weigh the pros and cons left and right, so they are together with love and only love, but in the end they lose their love forever in reality, I believe that the tearful look back of the lover will make the man unforgettable for a lifetime.
When I didn't have independence and autonomy, I met the love of my life, and I couldn't catch it if I wanted to, and I couldn't forget it.
That feeling of heartbeat for the first time, that sweet panic of the heart belonging, can not be reproduced in the years to come.
Ming Dynasty playwright Tang Xianzu's "Peony Pavilion" said:"I don't know what to do, go deep"., perhaps a good interpretation of the feeling of the first heartbeat.
I don't know what the reason is, I don't know what the things are, and I don't know when I started, I can't control the deep roots of my love for you, and I can't control my fate so it's getting deeper and deeper.
When I was a teenager, my heart was the purest and cleanest, and I didn't have so many interests, calculations, suspicions, and guards, and I dared to devote myself to it without hesitation with just a lonely and brave love.
The love of my youth is the most frank and sincere and unreserved, without any impurities, love is love and nothing else.
The woman who is heart-pounding for the first time not only represents the most enthusiastic youth of a man, but also represents his most crazy and brave dedication, and no one can replace this experience.
Perhaps more unattainable than the loss of a loved one is never getting it.
I read a sentence: "You say, what is the most tormenting thing in the world?" Pick up the stars with your bare hands, and you can't love it. ”
In the TV series "Snail House", Song Siming, who has a frank and high-spirited career, also has a Bai Yueguang who can't be loved-Bai Yichun, the goddess in college.
Moreover, he has never lost my love, and the goddess died at a young age, which has become a regret that Song Siming can never erase.
So, he buried the goddess deep in his heart and occasionally reminisced about the beauty of the past, until Song Siming met Guo Haizao, a young girl who looked like a goddess, and he couldn't look back.
Compared with the helplessness of falling in love and separating, love is more powerless and unwilling.
The regret that I never had, in the end, turned into an incomparable extreme beauty, and savoring it in the dead of night will only make the other party's image more and more concrete and vivid, and no one can surpass it.
What can be let go is no love, and without love, there is no hate, and there is no longing.
But I didn't have anything to love, so I can't forget it.
It's not how long-term a man is, but like Song Siming, after he has financial and material strength in middle age, he wants to make up for his regrets.
When the regrets became less and less, Bai Yichun became an eternal pain, and sometimes came out to pierce his heart and lungs.
I heard a colleague talk about a woman's emotional experience:
Xiaoxiao married her boyfriend who had been in love for many years after graduating from college, but ten years later, the man with a proud career came out, and he also redeemed it with guilt, but it was still the end of the song.
Later, he married a lover but helped Xiaoxiao again and again, not only leaving most of her property to her, but also introducing her to jobs and often coming back to see the children.
When the lover learned about it, he knocked on the door again to provoke, and the man pulled the shelf again, but this time he was protecting Xiaoxiao's mother and son.
The true face of the lover after marriage makes the man not only miss the good that he was at the beginning, but also makes his guilt escalate, so he will take the initiative to help his ex-wife and children.
The person who betrayed his marriage coldly at the beginning now sincerely wants to make up for his mistakes.
Maybe the man is no longer the innocent love for Xiaoxiao, but family affection and guilt, but with this feeling, it is enough for him to remember Xiaoxiao and pay for it for the rest of his life.
Not all partners can grow old together, and many people get separated at forks in the road or are abandoned halfway.
Instead of spending your life in nostalgia, unwillingness, and shame, it is better to cherish the people in front of you, and don't let yourself regret it because of a moment of greed for freshness.
Love, marriage, emotion
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