Are you familiar with these words?
How long will you have to look at your phone? Don't want your eyes? ”
I'm sneaking around again, can't I see enough? ”
Why are you looking at the ipad again, have you written your homework? ”
Every day, I know how to swipe my phone and look at my tablet."
Nowadays, almost everyone has a mobile phone and an iPad, do you feel that behind these flickering screens, it is becoming more and more difficult to communicate with your children? Have you ever thought about how to build a closer parent-child bond in such an environment?
In the digital age, the screen seems to have become the "fourth mouth" in family relationships. Socializing, learning, and the impact of the digital world have made you, as a parent, always keep those words on your lips, which has brought new challenges to the parent-child relationship. But don't worry, in this article, we will provide effective solutions for parents through various conversations!
Dialogue 1
Obviously a fifth-grade student, he didn't go out one morning, and he stayed at home and played with his mobile phone for a while.
Mom: "How long do you have to look at your phone?" Do you want eyes? ”
Mingming: "Hmm......It's just a little bit of watching, and it doesn't take long. ”
At this time, how will you deal with your child's excessive addiction to mobile phones for too long?
Method:
1. Set the "screen cooldown".
There are many reasons why children like to play with mobile phones and surf the Internet, but there is a very important reason: they treat mobile phones and the Internet as toys, and there seems to be nothing to do except look at their phones.
Set a specific time each day to keep all members of the family away from the screen, including you, as parents, and spend quality time together. During this time, parents can read books and play card games with their children, ......This helps to enhance communication between family members and foster deep bonding.
2. Try to take your children outdoors more often.
It's hard for parents not to play with their phones when they stay at home all the time, let alone their children. Take your kids to the park, take a walk in the grassy area, and get some fresh air. In order to mobilize children's enthusiasm, children can participate in the process of making travel plans, choosing to play, what items to bring, whether to ask friends, etc.
Dialogue II
Mom came home and found that Xiao Gang secretly swiped his mobile phone again.
Mother: I'm sneaking around again, can't I see enough?
Xiaogang: It's just boring, just look at it.
At this time, how will you deal with your child's "quiet" behavior?
Method:
As a parent, be calm and understanding. Be clear about why you care about your children instead of blaming them directly. Find an appropriate time, such as after dinner or on the weekend, to have a "little family meeting" to encourage your child to express his or her thoughts, and you can tell your child that if they want to play on their phones, they can talk to their parents and we can discuss and set some screen time for you. In order to promote two-way communication between children and parents, studies have shown that at least three face-to-face family meetings per week can significantly improve the emotional connection between family members.
Dialogue 3:
The holiday is coming to an end, and Yang Yang still has a bunch of homework to finish, but he keeps staring at the electronic products in his hand.
Dad: Why are you looking at your iPad again, have you done all your homework?
Yangyang: Well, I wrote a part of it, just take a break.
Have you ever heard such an answer in a child, so how should you deal with it?
Method:
Communicate with your child with an open mind and understanding. Find an appropriate moment to make your child feel that you are willing to listen rather than criticize his behavior. Psychologist Emily Berry points out that listening is the cornerstone of building a deep parent-child connection. Parents can share information about the positive impact of mobile phones and tablets on learning with their children, including learning applications, resources, etc., so as to stimulate their interest in learning.
Dialogue 4:
In the morning and morning holiday life, most of them are mobile phones and tablets running alternately.
Dad: "Every day, I know how to swipe my phone and look at my tablet".
Chenchen: (silently).
How would you deal with this kind of situation where only parents sing a "one-man show"?
Method:
1. Express your concerns and feelings
Tell your child that you want to establish better communication with him and not just limit the amount of time he spends on his phone.
2. Ensure that the communication environment is uninterrupted.
Make sure to choose a quiet, undisturbed time to communicate with your child so that he feels that you care about him rather than punish him.
3. Ask your child more questions.
Share your own experiences and other ways to stimulate children to express their desires and feelings, so as to achieve two-way information transfer.
4. Encourage children to participate in more substantive communication activities.
Such as team sports, social activities, etc. Don't overrely on digital tools, observe your child's expressions and body language through face-to-face communication to gain a more complete and in-depth understanding of their feelings and needs.
In the digital age, parent-child communication is no longer a simple traditional conversation, but also needs to adapt to new challenges. The digital age is not a stumbling block to the parent-child relationship, but an opportunity to deepen communication. Through active engagement, effective communication, and problem-solving, we can break down digital barriers and build stronger family bonds. The screen is not a "gap" that blocks the communication between you and your child, communication is not only a skill, but also a sincere intention and a companionship.
Parents and friends, let's take action together! In the digital age, make the parent-child relationship stronger, let the communication be deeper, and create a warm and fulfilling family together.