Now there is such a phenomenon in society, that is, after giving birth to a second child, a considerable number of families will choose to let the surname of the second child follow the mother's surname, rather than continue to follow the father's surname. Over time, this can lead to all sorts of problems.
In society, whether children should follow their mother's surname or their father's surname has been a social issue that has been debated for a long time.
1. There are very special reasons why children take their mother's surname
According to Chinese cultural traditions, only a very small number of families are willing to let their children take their mother's surname.
Those families who are willing to let their children take their mother's surname are more special, for example, the male owner of the house is upside down.
If it is replaced by a colloquialism, it is a son-in-law, and these people often do not have much social status. In ancient Chinese society, discrimination was also widespread.
The children of these sons-in-law will follow their mother's surname.
For those who are going to marry their wives back, they generally do not accept their children following their wives with their surnames.
In ancient times, after the wife got married, the husband's surname should be added to the wife's name to show that the wife was married into the husband's family, and was the husband's family, and was no longer a member of the mother's family.
Now the situation is different, many families will have a second child with the same surname as their mother, the main reason is that many families in my country are only children, that is to say, there is only one child in the family.
In the belief of many older generations, only boys can pass on the lineage, because boys' children can follow their family names and inherit the clan.
For many people who only have girls in their families, they also want to pass on their families. Therefore, it may be discussed with the daughter's husband to see if one of the children in the family can take the name of the mother's family, which is equivalent to completing the succession.
Today's men are relatively more open in this regard, so in order to be considerate of the mother-in-law's family, they will also agree to this request. But.
Similarly, the second child follows the mother's surname, which is also easy to cause some misunderstandings.
Second, the children in the family are not the same surname, which will cause misunderstandings
In the future, a situation like this where two children in the family have different surnames will show four drawbacks, the first of which is to cause misunderstanding among others.
In society, the vast majority of people still have a relatively traditional idea of surnames, especially some elderly people, who simply cannot accept this kind of thing, and it will cause family conflicts after a long time.
The second disadvantage is that it will make the elderly more eccentric. For example, for grandparents, they will definitely prefer the eldest son who inherits their family name.
Because this eldest son will inherit all the property of their family in the future and will become the inheritor of the family.
Although the mind has been liberated a lot now, quite a few old people still have this traditional thinking. This concept of property inheritance determines that the elderly will be more inclined to have children with the same surname as themselves.
For the child's grandparents, I am afraid that they will pay more attention to the second son who has the same surname as him, after all, they also have the same idea as their grandparents.
After a long time, there will be some differential treatment, which is easy to cause family conflicts.
The third disadvantage is that it will create a gap between children. For example, the second son with his mother's surname will be closer to his mother, and the eldest son with his father's surname will be closer to his father.
Some of the family risks caused by this may also cause headaches for many people.
The last disadvantage of the second child following the mother's surname is that many mothers will regret it.
Because for a mother, whether it is the eldest son or the second son, no matter what their surname is, they are their own children.
But the discrimination that can be seen everywhere in daily life can make these mothers feel very angry.
But they have no choice, because these mothers can't change the traditional thinking of other family members around them, and over time, these mothers will regret it and even have some psychological problems.
As you know, these problems are probably quite difficult to solve. Because as long as there are people, there is society, there are rivers and lakes, and some people are more open-minded and more advanced, but there are also some people who are quite traditional in their thinking, and this is also the root cause of some social problems now.
There are many similar social problems, the most typical of which is the bride price. Then, as a modern person who has received nine years of compulsory education, we should look at these feudal cultural dross with a correct attitude, and not let these cultural dross affect our daily life.
I hope that all parents in the world can have a bowl of water, whether it is patriarchal thinking or eccentric thinking is not advisable, since there are multiple children in the family, it should be done a bowl of water, which is the most basic requirement as a parent. If you can't even make a bowl of water, then being a parent is indeed a failure.