Someone on the Internet asked: What is the biggest pressure to face at the age of 30?
There is a high praise answer: I was urged to marry.
I feel the same way. At the age of 30, the standard life in the eyes of parents is: a stable job, five insurances and one housing fund, a happy marriage, and lovely children.
However, the level of education received is different, the ideology is different, and the life you want is different.
After Wang Manni and Liang Zhengxian broke up, she quit her job and returned to her hometown in Quzhou, wanting to fulfill her original promise: at the age of 30, she will achieve nothing, go back to her hometown to find someone she doesn't hate, get married, have children, and live a stable life.
Just after her 30th birthday, Manni's mother asked someone to introduce her to Zhang Zhi, a "high-quality man in a small town", who graduated with a master's degree, a civil servant position, a car and a house, and the conditions were impeccable.
Such a man is simply a "good son-in-law" in the eyes of his parents, in the eyes of Manni's parents, if Manni can marry Zhang Zhi, it is simply Gao Pan.
After meeting for the first time, Zhang Zhi was attracted by Manni's beauty, asked her to eat roast mutton and watch movies, showing his connections and abilities in the town, and arranged a stable job in the system for Manni.
But Manni, who has been struggling in Shanghai for 8 years, doesn't want to live such a life, she would rather be adrift than stable, and many fans of the barrage say that Manni doesn't know what to do.
However, I especially understand Manni's feelings.
The town is stable, except for demographic changes for decades, life will almost remain the same, and the neighborhood is harmonious and welcoming. If Manni marries Zhang Zhi, the rest of her life will be smooth and smooth, and the days will come to an end at a glance.
But it is precisely this enthusiasm that makes Manni uncomfortable with returning to her hometown, no one in the big city will care about how you are doing, and even the neighbors don't even know what their last name is.
Manni has long been accustomed to the indifference of the city. Therefore, Manni chose to resign and return to Shanghai, she wanted to see if there were other possibilities in life.
In real life, many people are forced by such pressure to accept the life they don't want, and now I am facing such pressure, I, like Manni, try first and then give up.
In the New Year, my uncle's sister-in-law introduced me to a boy with relatively good conditions: a state-owned enterprise in the construction industry, with an annual salary of 100,000+, graduated from two books, and has a house but no car. In my second-tier city, men can choose to try contact if they have such conditions, and step by step into marriage.
Under the constant persuasion of my mother, uncle and sister-in-law, I added each other's WeChat, and the two of them met at the hot pot restaurant on the eighth day of the first lunar month, and after eating, the first thing I did when I got home was to tell the other party that I didn't want to talk about it anymore, and felt that it was inappropriate for each other, why would I be arbitrary?
On the day we met, the two of us talked for 4 hours, saying that our temper and temperament were unacceptable to get married, and finally the other party told me directly: I just want to get married, I don't want to fall in love.
When I heard this, my first reaction was that I really reached the age where I got married just to get married.
I don't deny that I'm about to become a "leftover girl", and I don't deny that I'm afraid that I won't be able to get married, but even if I'm alone, I don't want to settle, although I don't have a deposit now, no house or car, I also want to see the world like Manni and explore more possibilities in life.
I'd rather be pressured to marry than live a life I don't want to live, I don't just want to be myself, and I just don't want to live in other people's expectations.
Not only my parents, but also my married girlfriends also advised me that as long as I was happy, as long as the man could earn money.
However, after meeting, Manni and I have the same feeling for Zhang Zhi, I don't hate or like it, but I just don't have the desire to talk, maybe Manni is better than me, and I have been with each other for a while, I am even if I am decadent, I don't want to contact each other.
I know very well that the reality of this society, marriage without financial support may not last long, and I don't want to find a rich person, but I simply don't want to settle.
My parents didn't understand what I was thinking, only I understood why I chose to do so. Because I've met the people I like the most, even if I'm heartbroken, I still don't want to settle.
Although the marriage is only dull in the end, I still want to live with the person I like, if not, I would rather die alone.
No matter what choice I make, it is to make my life better, my life, I just want to have the final say.