A literary friend who has been following me for a long time asked me: Do you usually post the content you usually bring every day?
I replied: Generally, I will send two items related to the goods every day, no matter what the transaction is, keep updating frequently, and there will always be gains.
She then complained to me: I'm going to continue this this year too. My husband says every day at home that I don't go to work and don't make money, and I'm annoyed to death.
I comforted her: Oh, man, it's also very realistic, whether you take care of a baby or work, you have to learn new skills, so as not to be out of touch with society.
yes, I haven't been working for half a year, and that's it. If I don't work for a few years, I guess my ears will be calloused. She continued.
After chatting for a while, we stopped the conversation and went our separate ways. But when I think about it, to be honest, marriage is so realistic, and the economic base determines the superstructure.
Men's reality sometimes doesn't show itself, but in fact they care too.
The world of the sexes is inherently unequal. As soon as a man is born, he has the right to inherit the family property, and no matter how much, your parents will keep it for you. As soon as a woman is born, she is destined to be like duckweed, and she can only go with the flow.
If it weren't for their own energy being strong enough, most women's lives would fall downward.
Marriage is not heaven or hell, it is a real earth. Since we live in the world, we need to face firewood, rice, oil, salt, and trivialities.
For most men, between feelings and interests, it is rare to give up their careers and interests for the sake of so-called love. Their goals are clear, and they take it for granted in the process of enjoying love.
I can share with you an experience that happened to me. It's brutal, but it's true.
A few years ago, when I first started to submit articles to various accounts, the fee for a single manuscript was not high, only 150 yuan.
At that time, I often posted on an account, and the editor liked to send topics in the group every night.
Sometimes, if there is a hot news that night, you need to stay up late to complete it and turn it in.
So, during that time, I often stayed up late to write while my children were asleep.
When the child was seven or eight months old, we slept in separate rooms, with me and my husband in a separate room.
Once, after coaxing my child, I got up to write. Unexpectedly, halfway through the writing, the child cried. My husband ran from the bedroom to the study angrily and asked me: "You didn't give the child diapers, you look at the bed, what kind of manuscript to write, isn't it 150 yuan, I'll give it to you." ”
I suddenly felt very aggrieved, for a full-time housewife, there is no extra income, no matter how much money is or how little money is, this is a way of self-affirmation.
In the end, I put down the manuscript, changed the sheets, and continued to coax the child.
It was a very memorable time, but it was also a time like that that honed my perseverance and patience.
Later, my manuscript fee was a little higher, and I wrote a special column for a blind date, which was 600 yuan per article. At that time, the children were also a little older. My husband has also become a little more diligent, he will help change diapers, and sometimes I need a whole block of writing time, and he is willing to coax the children.
The reality of men, to be honest, you can't imagine. Without the beating of marriage, it may be difficult for you to understand why women would rather endure hardships and earn their own money.
Because when you shuttle between housework and children, your energy is slowly exhausted, but you can't see the affirmation and understanding from your other half, this kind of helplessness that goes deep into the bone marrow will crush you.
I've seen the sky at two o'clock in the morning, experienced the moment of collapse five or six times of revision, and felt the helplessness and confusion of the account being deprived of originality and forced to rectify.
I've been crawling like a worm in a dark tunnel for a long, long time, so I'm not going to give up any chance to make myself strong.
Every attempt and exploration, every cheeky interaction in the live broadcast room, is nothing. Because I know that there is no way back for a person.
Don't use tears and complaints to attract men's attention, those things, it's really useless. When you run hard against the wind, the tears and bitterness of the past turn into a gust of wind in your heart.
Sometimes, I think about it. If I am still in school and receive a salary of thousands of yuan a month, will I still be humble?
There are no ifs in life, I have worked as a warehouse manager, set up a stall, and been kicked around like a ball in a public school. All of this is an experience.
When a woman becomes a mother, she is destined to kill her former self, and with tears in her eyes, she also has to support her life.
Those days of writing in the dark, those moments when I was washing my socks and thinking about the topic at the same time, and those dense excerpts of golden sentences in my notebook, made me see my potential, focus on my own growth, no longer complain about the injustice of men and women, and no longer expect men to take extra care of women.
Growing up is a topic in a woman's life. Marriage and men are very realistic, warm yourself with the light in your body, embrace yourself with your own arms, yes, dear, at this moment, although you are ordinary, as long as you are brave enough to try, there will be light coming in.