A person's life is always accompanied by illness, loneliness and anxiety. When old age comes, these problems may double down on us and make ourslifeLack of fun and happiness. Just like my second aunt, although she enjoyed a long life, she was plagued by illness all day long, and she was lonely, which made people feel sorry. She once sincerely hoped that she could leave this world as soon as possible and no longer become a burden to her children, which was undoubtedly a heavy blow to her enthusiasm for longevity.
1. The loneliness of empty nesters
The second aunt is nearly 90 years old, and her mobility is already incapacitated, and she needs someone to support her to complete her daily life. Although she has nine children and more than a dozen grandchildren, they are all gradually aging and have their ownlifeand responsibility. In the early years, the children did not hesitate to take the second elder to the city to take care of them, but as they grew older andHealthThe second aunt had to return to her hometown in the countryside. The children take turns to go back to the countryside to take care of the elderly, but they also face their own problems and worries, and they are unable to devote themselves to it. This kindEmpty nestersThe loneliness that made the second aunt'slifeEven more lost color.
2. The entanglement of filial piety of children and daughters
Siblings who are the same age as the second aunt have to take care of their own parents while also thinking about other sick peopleFamily membersof care. They are getting older, and their bodies are gradually developing various problems, and they need more care and love. My cousin is 73 years old and has problems with three highs and lumbar muscle strain, and my cousin's heart often troubles them. In order to be able to take care of their second aunt, who is in her nineties, they have to sacrifice their work and personal time. My cousin is 70 years old, and in order to take care of her cousin-in-law, who has suffered a stroke and paralysis, she has to rack her brains to arrange care matters, and even pay relatives to help. The youngest cousin, facing the cost of her children's school and the pressure of her own part-time job, had to quit her job and go back to the countryside with her husband to take care of the elderly. In this process of contradictions, the children and grandchildren gradually grow up, and the need for care for their elderly people gradually loses, making the task of care more arduous and difficult.
3. Increasing economic pressure
In addition to the physical and time burden, the second aunt's family also facedEconomyon the dilemma. Due to the lack of extra savings and retirement funds in her early years, the second aunt was unable to hire a nurse to take care of herself. The children had tried to arrange for her to be cared for, but the inconvenience of the countryside and the temper problems of the elderly made it difficult to carry out the plan. When there is no way, the children can only take turns to go back to the countryside to take care of them, so that the second aunt can be taken care of as much as possible. This is undoubtedly for the childrenEconomyadds an extra burden to keep them inEconomyon more strapped and anxious.
Longevity does not necessarily mean happinessHealthis the first element. No matter how much wealth you have, if notHealthbody and accompany loved ones, thatlifeIt's going to be pointless. For people like the second aunt, the pain and feelings of longevity far outweigh the joy.
1. A healthy body is the cornerstone of happiness
For the elderly,HealthThe body islifeIt is also a source of happiness. Only the bodyHealthin order to be able to carry out daily life independently and independentlylifeand enjoylifeAll kinds of fun. And if there is a problem with the body, whether it is inconvenient mobility or disease, it will greatly affect the elderlylifeQuality. Like the second aunt, although she has the blessing of longevity, she is unable to walk freely because of her inconvenient legs and feet, which makes her alonelifeThe difficulties are multiplied. In this case, it is impossible to find a suitable nurse in the countryside to make herlifeThe state is more passive and difficult.
2. Mental health is equally important
Except for the physicalHealth, for the elderlyMental healthThe same needs attention. Longevity bringsLonelinessand a sense of confusion, which makes the second aunt often feel depressed and helpless. After all, in old age, the old people have raised and cared for generations of children, when theylifeWhen the focus shifts from children to themselves, they may feel that they have lost their worth and sense of existence. Therefore, we should pay more attention to the elderlyMental healthto provide them with care and companionship to help them find it againlifemeaning and fun.
Longevity is not necessarily a blessing, especially when our bodies and minds are plagued by sickness, loneliness, and anxiety. For most seniors, yesHealthlandlifeAnd being accompanied and cared for by loved ones is true happiness. From the second aunt, we can deeply feel the difficulties and challenges faced by the elderly behind the glory of longevity. Therefore, we should pay more attention to the elderlylifequality and dignity to create a comfortable and welcoming place for themlifeenvironment, and with our companionship and care, let them feellifeof warmth and happiness. In this way, even as they get older, they will be able to:Healthand a dignified way to spend their old age.