In August 2010, the famous director Zhao Baogang filmed the TV series "Marriage Defense War" with his 25 years of married life as the material.
Zhao Baogang's wife Ding Xin is the producer of "Marriage Defense War" and a well-known strong woman in the entertainment industry. In the 25 years of marriage between the two, the couple quarreled countless times. There are countless contradictions, but there are many happy all the way.
After the two got married, they agreed to Dink, but why did the 40-year-old Ding Xin choose to regret it and give birth to a son after 18 years of marriage, what is the untold story behind this?
Ding Xin, born in 1963 in a ** family in Guangxi, has liked theatrical performances since he was a child, and he is a beautiful scenery on campus when he goes to school.
After graduating from middle school, Ding Xin was admitted to the Guangxi Repertory Theatre and became a professional actor. Her acquaintance with Zhao Baogang is also because of acting, and life has intersected.
One noon in March 1984, Zhao Baogang, a welder at the Beijing Iron and Steel Plant, was busy working in the workshop when someone suddenly approached him and said: There is a beautiful girl looking for him and asking him to come out.
After walking to the communication room, the beautiful girl in front of him made Zhao Baogang's heart ripple. The beautiful girl said to the panting Zhao Baogang: Excuse me, are you Teacher Zhao?
Zhao Baogang was flattered and said: Don't dare to be, don't dare to be, I'm Zhao Baogang, are you?
It turned out that this beautiful girl was Ding Xin, who came to Beijing from the Guangxi Repertory Theatre to perform, and this time she came to ask her friend Guo Fazeng to help bring Zhao Baogang a few catties of jasmine tea.
Guo Fazeng is a special actor of Guangxi Film Studio, and he has met Zhao Baogang several times in Beijing, and every time they meet, Zhao Baogang has done his "landlord friendship".
Seeing that Ding Xin came here specifically for this matter, Zhao Baogang was also a little reluctant to go, so he left Ding Xin to eat together, but Ding Xin smiled and said: Mr. Zhao, I understand your hospitality.
As soon as the words fell, Ding Xin turned around and left, looking at Ding Xin's departing figure, which made Zhao Baogang feel inexplicable feelings in his heart.
At that time, Zhao Baogang was only a worker in the Beijing Iron and Steel Plant, and he successively worked as a foundry, electrician, welder and fitter. In his spare time, he had a talent for theatrical performances, and was also a member of the amateur propaganda team of the steel plant, often performing on stage.
In 1980, he was admitted to the amateur acting training class of Beijing Film Academy, and also participated in the TV series "Four Worlds in the Same Hall", which is also well-known in the circle.
Although Zhao Baogang is 29 years old, because he has been busy with his career and worked hard all these years, he has no time to fall in love at all, so his emotional state is also blank.
But since he met Ding Xin, Zhao Baogang felt that she was a good girl. However, he felt that he was just an ordinary worker, 8 years older than Ding Xin, plus one in Beijing and one in Guangxi, how could he look down on himself.
In order to create opportunities for himself, Zhao Baogang asked his relationship to find contacts, hoping to help him adjust his work, if he can enter the showbiz, maybe he and Ding Xin will have a chance to be together.
So, Zhao Baogang was transferred to the Beijing Television Art Center as a worker under the relationship of connections, because there was no establishment of actors, he could only be a drama manager, responsible for serving tea and pouring water and other chores for the crew.
It is precisely because of this identity that he is very free in the theater, and at the same time he has learned a lot of things, especially the director's shooting, which gave Zhao Baogang a great inspiration, and he had a dream of directing.
One day, Zhao Baogang went to Pu Cunxin's house for a party, but was pleasantly surprised to find that Ding Xin was also at the scene. At that time, Ding Xin came to Beijing to shoot a film, and the set was very close to the Beijing Television Art Center.
Taking advantage of this gathering, Zhao Baogang took the initiative to contact Ding Xin, and the two exchanged and talked about a lot of topics related to performance. chatting happily also made Ding Xin feel that he and Zhao Baogang were very close to each other, and the two became friends.
After returning home that night, Zhao Baogang savored the bits and pieces with Ding Xin, and he felt more and more that Ding Xin was the true love of his life, and he couldn't miss it.
A few days later, Zhao Baogang went to Ding Xin and asked her to go to Beijing Xiangshan to play, and Ding Xin readily agreed. In Xiangshan, the two had a lot of fun, and when they were going down the mountain, Zhao Bao just picked a fiery red maple leaf, and then opened his mouth to confess to Ding Xin.
Regarding Zhao Baogang's courtship, Ding Xin felt very abrupt, so he said: I'm sorry, I'm not mentally prepared, I have to think about it.
These words made Zhao Baogang feel a little bad in his heart, but there was no way. After returning home, Zhao Baogang felt that he couldn't miss it like this, after all, Ding Xin's drama was also filmed soon, and he was about to return to Guangxi, so there would be no chance.
When Ding Xin was about to return to Guangxi, Zhao Baogang specially asked for leave to find Ding Xin, he held Ding Xin tightly and confessed again: Ding Xin, marry me, I will become an excellent director in a while and make you a dazzling star.
In fact, with Zhao Baogang, Ding Xin knows that he is an ambitious and idealistic person, and after getting along many times, Ding Xin's heart also has a good impression of him.
Listening to Zhao Baogang's affectionate confession, Ding Xin couldn't hold back anymore, so he agreed, and the two hugged each other and cried, especially Zhao Baogang, who was very happy and excited.
Not long after falling in love, Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin got married hand in hand. At that time, the workers were very envious when they saw that Zhao Baogang had married such a beautiful daughter-in-law, but they were worried about him and asked him if he had any tricks to control his wife.
Zhao Baogang said proudly: You can't always follow her for women, you have to come up, so she knows how to cherish it.
That being said, the workers soon discovered that as long as Ding Xin was in Beijing, Zhao Baogang would not rush into the cinema to watch movies after work every day after work, but hurried home to prepare his wife's favorite meals.
Zhao Baogang's thoughtfulness and diligence also made Ding Xin feel very happy, which made the workers laugh at Zhao Baogang: You have to stand up to a woman, I think you are more afraid of your wife than anyone else.
After the sweet period, there are also contradictions. Zhao Baogang is in Beijing, Ding Xin is in the Guangxi Drama Theater, and the two places are separated, which makes both of them extremely tormented.
In order to get Ding Xin to be transferred to Beijing, Zhao Baogang also tried a lot of ways, but in the end it was unsuccessful, which also made Zhao Baogang very helpless, so he planned to give up his job in Beijing and go to Guangxi for development.
When Ding Xin learned of Zhao Baogang's decision, he said angrily: Your career has just started, how can you leave Beijing? I said I wanted to give up, but I gave up.
As soon as the words fell, Zhao Baogang was anxious, and said: The living conditions in Beijing are not good, the house is only 9 square meters, you were born in a ** family, and you have never suffered this kind of hardship since you were a child, how can I let you suffer this crime.
In such a case, the two had a fierce quarrel, and finally turned into a cold war. Ding Xin returned to Guangxi as soon as he shook his hand, and did not contact Zhao Baogang for two weeks.
When Zhao Baogang calmed down, he also began to regret his impulsiveness, so he took the initiative to apologize to Ding Xin: Xiaoding, I was wrong, you are right, I am a man, I have to focus on my career, you will be my leader in the future, I will listen to whatever you say.
After Zhao Baogang's pleading, this made Ding Xin forgive him. In order to reunite with her husband, Ding Xin went to Beijing. Find movies and TV dramas everywhere in Beijing, no matter how much you get paid.
At that time, Zhao Baogang was just a drama worker, his work was very leisurely, and after returning home from work every day, he was relieved to be a "cook", carefully preparing delicious meals for his wife, and massaging his beloved wife.
One day, a friend came to Zhao Baogang's house to eat, and seeing Zhao Baogang happily working in the kitchen, his friend joked to Ding Xin: Xiaoding, you see what a model man Baogang is, you have to pay attention, there are many women who come to his door to rub his private dishes.
Ding Xin didn't care about his friend's jokes. But after her friend left, she wanted to tease Zhao Baogang with this, and pretended to be serious and said: You also heard what you said just now, is it that when I am not at home, there are many women who come to eat at home.
When Zhao Baogang heard this, he immediately became anxious, and explained: When you were not there, someone came to eat, but they were all my friends, how could there be any women.
Originally, Ding Xin was just to tease him, but Zhao Baogang began to "go online", and it was precisely because of this that the two had a cold war again.
Afterwards, Zhao Baogang took the lead in compromising, he not only admitted that his attitude was not good, but also patiently apologized. recalled that year, Zhao Baogang said frankly: I am 8 years older than her, and I also came from her age, and I understand her thoughts very well, so I took the initiative to soften, she was in a good mood, and the atmosphere at home was good.
A few years later, Ding Xin was also transferred to Beijing as he wished, and the two finally ended the torment of living apart. At that time, because their careers were not stable, they did not consider having children.
And looking at Zhao Baogang doing housework wholeheartedly, Ding Xin felt that it was too much of a waste of talent. In order to make Zhao Baogang self-motivated, she used the radical method, not only counting him as "Adou who can't be helped", but also pulling him to the steel factory to "remember the bittersweet memories".
Under Ding Xin's "stimulation", Zhao Baogang ignited his dream again. He chose to learn a director as a teacher, learning a series of jobs such as writing scripts and selecting actors.
In 1989, at the suggestion of Ding Xin, Zhao Baogang was admitted to the junior college class of choreography and directing at Beijing Broadcasting Institute, just to make his future career as a director more justifiable.
After a year of "gilding", this also made Zhao Baogang's progress rapidly, and his directing level has also been greatly improved. Through the TV series "Desire" and "The Story of the Editorial Department", this made Zhao Baogang also among the ranks of directors.
Although Zhao Baogang became a famous director, there was no suitable role for Ding Xin in his play, and she could only make cameo appearances one after another, and what made Ding Xin very frightened was that the warm and considerate Zhao Baogang was like a different person after arriving on the set, and he lost his temper at every turn, especially those actors who were slack, and Ding Xin was the first to bear the brunt.
Whenever Zhao Baogang, who was angry at Ding Xin on the set and returned home, would apologize to Ding Xin: Wife, I'm sorry, I shouldn't be angry with you during the day.
For Zhao Baogang's apology, this made Ding Xin cry loudly: I am filming under you, it is completely to find guilt, when is this day a head.
In order to avoid conflicts and quarrels between the two, Ding Xin also decided not to compete with her husband, and simply went home to be a full-time wife. Hearing his wife's decision, Zhao Baogang was also very moved, and he also consciously handed over the financial power and let his wife manage the family.
After years of hard work, this has brought Zhao Baogang's career to a new level.
In 1996, when Zhao Baogang's "A Stormy Affair" was a great success, Ding Xin deliberately teased him: You have become a famous director now, and I can enjoy Qingfu at home with more peace of mind.
This made Zhao Baogang even more interested, saying: Your personality is too upright, you are easy to offend people by talking fast, you are not suitable to be an actor, but you can turn to work behind the scenes, it doesn't matter if you make money or not, you just want to.
Seeing that Zhao Baogang said dryly, this made Ding Xin laugh in his heart.
Not long after, Zhao Baogang said to Ding Xin: Wife, why don't you come to be my boss, and I will work for you.
After Zhao Baogang said his thoughts, Ding Xin was also a little apprehensive, but under Zhao Baogang's persuasion, Ding Xin still agreed.
So, the couple both resigned and founded Beijing Xinbaoyuan Film and Television Investment Company. At first, the company had a lot of business, which gave Ding Xin a headache, but Zhao Baogang gave his wife enough confidence.
In 2000, Zhao Baogang successively directed TV series such as "Like Fog, Like Rain and Like Wind" and "What to Save You, My Love", which made Zhao Baogang a famous director of "Star Master", and behind these big dramas, Ding Xin also made great contributions to production, publicity and marketing.
This year is also the 15th year of their marriage, but the two still have no movement in childbirth, which makes Zhao Baogang's mother very anxious.
At first, she thought that it was because of the separation of the two places in the early stage, and then because of the rising period of her career, she did not give birth to the two. But watching her son and daughter-in-law grow older, this also made Zhao's mother very anxious.
So, she found her son Zhao Baogang and gave birth to him. At the beginning, Zhao Baogang found various reasons to shirk it, but after a long time, he couldn't hide it, so he said that he and his wife had agreed on Dink.
Faced with this truth, Zhao's mother was also very sad, as an old man, what she hoped most was for her children to get married, and she became very sad to have her own family and children.
When Zhao Baogang's heart was a little loose, his marriage with Ding Xin ushered in challenges. Because Zhao Baogang's fame is popular, there are also some beautiful actresses around him, which makes Ding Xin vaguely hear some scandals, and often rings her husband's alarm bell.
For his wife's speculation, this annoyed Zhao Baogang, and emphasized again and again that he was innocent. It's just that no matter how he explains, even if he brings in friends to testify, it makes Ding Xin's heart knotted difficult.
Once, Ding Xin, who was in trouble, followed Zhao Baogang all the way, and when Zhao Baogang found out, he was naturally furious, claiming to divorce Ding Xin, but Ding Xin cried: I'm sorry, this is a misunderstanding, I just want to keep this home, do you understand?
Seeing his wife's sad appearance, Zhao Baogang had to explain patiently. Since then, he has stopped filming, refused all kinds of entertainment, and stayed at home to accompany his wife.
It's just husband and wife life, how can there be no contradictions and frictions, and it didn't take long for the two to quarrel again because of things. In desperation, Zhao Baogang divorced again, Ding Xin cried and said: Leave it, whoever leaves can't live.
After consideration, Zhao Baogang decided to "try to divorce", and the two lived separately and dated separately.
After the Spring Festival in 2001, Zhao Baogang, who had thought twice, decided to go through divorce procedures with Ding Xin, but Ding Xin suddenly coughed up blood, she went to the hospital for examination, and the doctor said that she might have cancer.
This news almost made Ding Xin collapse, and even quietly took care of the aftermath, and when he finally found out that it was a small problem, Ding Xin also cried into tears.
After learning the news, Zhao Baogang immediately dispelled the idea of divorcing Ding Xin. All of a sudden, Zhao Baogang figured it out and thought that no matter how much money he made, he would eventually learn to return to his family and enjoy life.
So, Zhao Baogang found his wife, tore up the divorce agreement in public, and said emotionally: Wife, let's live a good life, you give me a smart and lovely child.
Hearing Zhao Baogang's words, Ding Xin couldn't help but throw himself into Zhao Baogang's arms, and the two hugged each other and cried.
In 2003, Ding Xin successfully gave birth to a son for Zhao Baogang, and at the age of 40, she finally became a mother, and 48-year-old Zhao Baogang also had a middle-aged child.
The arrival of her son can be said to have made this marriage happier, and it also made Zhao's mother have no sorrows, and the whole family is happy. Looking at the happy smiles of the whole family, Ding Xin felt that the most correct decision in his life was to take the risk and give birth to this son.
During the confinement period, it was Zhao's mother who took care of her, which also made Ding Xin feel very warm and touched, and the family had a prosperous life.
Because of work, Zhao's mother took on the responsibility of taking care of her grandson, and Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin also let go of their careers, and they had great troubles outside, but when they returned home, as long as they saw their baby son, they would be swept away.
The wife's virtuous and capable, the son's smart and cute, which made Zhao Baogang's passion burn again, and successively directed TV series such as "Struggle", "Harbin at Night", "Who Calls the Shots in My Youth", etc., which won all of them and created a ratings myth, and Zhao Baogang is also known as a "legendary director".
In 2009, Zhao Baogang planned to use himself and Ding Xin as the prototype to create a TV series to interpret his unique concept of marriage. After learning of her husband's idea, Ding Xin also readily agreed and fully supported it.
In August 2010, when the TV series "Marriage Defense War" was broadcast, the audience received rave reviews, and they have always believed that this family drama is a "treasure book of marriage for the post-80s".
What few people know is that the keywords such as "family cook", "strong women and weak men", "growing men", and "trial divorce" contained in "Marriage Defense War" are precisely the true portrayal of the married life of the play's director Zhao Baogang and producer Ding Xin.
The harmonious and happy marriage has nourished Zhao Baogang's career, and at the same time, it has also made the strong woman Ding Xin a famous agent and producer, and her career continues to flourish.
In October 2022, Zhao Baogang and Ding Xin have been married for 37 years, and they still respect each other like guests, love and happiness, and have become a model couple in the entertainment industry.