Zhang Ailing once said: "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to enter, and people in the city want to come out." "Marriage is not easy, I believe everyone who is married or about to get married has experienced it. Marriage is not a piece of paper, not a ring, not a feast, but the companionship of two people, a lifetime commitment and responsibility. On the road of marriage, there are sweetness, warmth, twists and turns, and challenges. Middle-aged couples have to face three hurdles, if they can get through it, most of them can grow old together!
The first hurdle is the seven-year itch. This is a psychological concept that refers to the phenomenon that couples will have a weakened relationship, get tired of each other, and even cheat after about seven years of marriage. This is because in the process of getting along, couples gradually lose their freshness, passion, and romance, and turn to face the pressures of reality, such as work, family, children, etc. Communication, understanding, and care between couples can also be reduced, leading to emotional rifts. is like the husband and wife in the TV series "If the Years Can Go Back", because of the triviality of life, they ignored each other's feelings, and finally went to the tragedy of divorce.
In order to cross this hurdle, couples need to rediscover their original love and rekindle the spark of passion. Intimacy and happiness can be increased as a couple through small methods such as giving a surprise gift, arranging a romantic trip, or doing something meaningful together. At the same time, we should also learn to empathize, think more about each other, give each other more encouragement, praise, and support, and reduce quarrels, complaints, and accusations. The most important thing is to remain faithful, do not easily shake your marriage vows, and do not let a third party take advantage of it.
The second hurdle is the financial crisis. It is an economic concept that refers to couples experiencing financial difficulties such as unemployment, debt, investment failure, etc. This can cause tremendous stress for couples, affect their quality of life, and even threaten their survival. Trust, harmony, and contentment between couples can also be undermined, and mutual resentment, resentment, and apathy may arise. Just like the famous writer Sanmao and her husband Jose, because Jose's business failed, they fell into poverty, couldn't even pay the rent, and lived on the streets, which eventually led to Jose's suicide.
To overcome this hurdle, couples need to face difficulties together, support each other, and encourage each other. There are effective ways to improve your financial situation, such as setting a reasonable budget, saving money, finding new income**, or seeking professional help. At the same time, we should also maintain an optimistic, positive, and strong attitude, do not give up on our dreams, do not lose our dignity, and do not forget our love. The most important thing is to believe in your own abilities, believe in the sincerity of the other party, believe in the power of marriage, and don't lose something more precious because of money.
The third hurdle is the health crisis. It is a medical term that refers to one or both spouses suffering from a serious physical or psychological illness, such as cancer, stroke, depression, etc. This can cause great pain to couples, affect their physical and mental health, and even endanger their lives. Love, warmth, and happiness between husband and wife can also be tested, and feelings of complaining, disgust, and abandonment may arise from each other. As a funeral home worker said, he has seen many couples who have separated due to illness, some of them have chosen to commit suicide because they can't bear the pain, and some have chosen to divorce because they can't stand each other's illness.
To overcome this hurdle, couples need to take care of each other, comfort each other, and accompany each other. You can improve your health by using scientific methods such as seeking medical attention in a timely manner, taking medications, taking **, or attending psychological counseling. At the same time, we should also maintain a courageous, firm, and grateful attitude, do not be afraid of our illness, do not doubt our own worth, and do not complain about our fate. The most important thing is to cherish your own life, cherish the existence of the other party, cherish the beauty of marriage, and don't lose something more precious because of illness.
Marriage is a journey with no end, a practice that requires continuous effort, and an experience that requires continuous growth. The three hurdles in marriage are not the end of marriage, but the sublimation of marriage. As long as husbands and wives can understand each other, support each other, and achieve each other, they can overcome these hurdles and move towards a better future. The meaning of marriage is not how much you have, but how much you give. The value of marriage is not in how much you enjoy, but how much you give. The happiness of marriage is not about how much you get, but how much you feel. If you are also on the road to marriage, if you have also encountered a hurdle in marriage, then please do not give up, do not escape, do not resent, but be brave, persistent, and grateful. Trust me, as long as you can get through it, you can grow old together!