Don't let "love" become a shackle for children: an in-depth reflection on the concept of modern parental education
In ancient China, there was a saying: "It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish." This quote conveys a simple but profound truth: giving material help to others is far less important than teaching them survival skills.
However, in modern society, many parents seem to have forgotten this wisdom, and they pay too much attention to their children's academic performance, but ignore the cultivation of character and independence, which eventually leads to children becoming "gnawing old people", which not only puts parents under huge financial and psychological pressure, but also deprives children of the opportunity to grow independently.
Parents have high expectations for their children, trying their best to meet his needs from an early age, focusing only on academic performance and neglecting the cultivation of character and independence.
Although children have excellent academic performance, they have developed many bad habits, such as arrogance, fear of hardship and tiredness. After entering college, these problems become more serious, and children spend lavishly, frequently reaching out to their parents for money.
I thought that after my child graduated from college, he would be able to find a good job and be a little easier as a parent, but what I didn't expect was that after my child graduated from college, he was not satisfied with several jobs, either he disliked the work was too hard and tired to work overtime, or he disliked the low salary, and he stopped working for two or three days each time, and finally simply did not go to work at home to gnaw at home.
After staying at home for three years, the parents were anxious and helpless, and every time they urged their children to go out to find a job, the children said impatiently: "What's the hurry, I'm an undergraduate student, so I don't want to do those thousands of dollars of work!" ”
Parents are so angry that they can't stand it, they always like to work hard, they want to find a job with a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, and they have to be relaxed and fun without working overtime. ”
Faced with this situation, parents feel helpless and angry, believing that their children are too pursuing easy and high-paying jobs and lack a sense of responsibility and independence.
1. The gap between expectations and reality: excessive spoiling by parents
It's natural for parents to expect from their children, but over-indulgence can be counterproductive.
The parents in the story, who are almost responsive to the needs of their children, only focus on academic performance from childhood to adulthood, but neglect the cultivation of character and independence. This kind of education leads to children's pride, fear, and tiredness, and inability to adapt to social competition and challenges.
After entering college, the child's problems become more and more serious, spending money lavishly, frequently reaching out to parents for money, and finally forming a dependency mentality, unable to face the pressure of life independently.
Second, the eye is high, the hand is low: young people's employment concept misunderstanding
When the kid in the story walks out of school and faces the job market, there's clearly something wrong with his mindset. He dislikes working overtime because he is too hard and tired, he dislikes the low salary, and lacks basic respect and seriousness towards his work.
This kind of employment concept not only made him miss many opportunities for growth, but also made his parents feel disappointed and helpless.
Young people should realize that any job is worthy of respect and requires hard work and sweat. Only in this way can you continue to progress in your career and realize your own value.
3. The phenomenon of gnawing at the elderly: the alarm bell of the failure of family education
The children in the story finally choose to gnaw at home to grow old, which is undoubtedly a huge irony of the years that their parents have paid. This phenomenon reflects the failure of family education, and also exposes the huge gap between society's expectations of young people's ability to live independently and reality.
As a parent, you should reflect on your own education style, whether you spoil your child too much, and whether you neglect the cultivation of character and independence.
As a society, we should also provide more employment opportunities and support for young people, and help them establish correct employment concepts and attitudes towards life.
Conclusion: Let love become the wings of children's growth
It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish. ”
Parental love is selfless, but excessive spoiling can become a shackle to children's growth. The correct way to educate should be to pay more attention to the cultivation of character and independence while paying attention to the child's academic performance.
Let children learn to face the challenges of life independently, learn to respect every job, and learn to be grateful and repay their parents' nurturing grace. Only in this way can love truly become the wings of children's growth and help them fly higher and farther.
Modern parents should realize that educating their children is not only to help them achieve excellent grades, but more importantly, to help them develop a sound personality and independent living ability.
Only in this way will we be able to raise a new generation that is both knowledgeable and virtuous, and able to face life's challenges independently. Let's work together so that love becomes the wings of children's growth, not the shackles that bind them from flying.