My name is Zhao Tingting and I am 30 years old.
Before marriage, I was expecting a good married life, but it turned out that life after marriage was not as good as I imagined, especially the relationship with my in-laws became very bad.
It's only because I didn't think about it, but I didn't expect my mother-in-law to be such a person. And here's how it happened.
1. Marriage and childbirth, financial support from the in-laws.
When it comes to my mother-in-law, I don't really know how to describe her.
Before we got married, my mother-in-law and I only met three times, and once when my husband and I were about to get married, we hurriedly went back to meet once. One time was when the parents of both parties met to discuss the wedding, and the third time was during the tea ceremony at the wedding, so I didn't know much about my mother-in-law.
I am the only daughter in the family, and the economic conditions of the family are not bad, so when I got married, my mother's family did not ask for a bride price, mainly considering that my husband has several brothers in the family, and the family conditions are average.
After deciding on the date, my in-laws held a simple banquet in the town of my hometown, and my wedding ended simply. After we got married, my husband and I continued to work in the city, and the house was bought for me by my parents before we got married.
My parents-in-law continued to live in my hometown, and of course, I didn't really want to live with my parents-in-law.
I was pregnant half a year after marriage, and my pregnancy reaction was a bit big in the first three months of pregnancy, and my husband's unit was very busy, and my father was hospitalized due to ** disease, and my mother had to accompany me. My mother-in-law only came once and brought some chickens, ducks and eggs from the countryside, saying that it was for me to replenish my body.
Then, my mother-in-law hurried back that day and asked me to get some nutritious things to eat, saying that the eldest grandson of the family could not do without her.
I was very angry at the time, what is the eldest grandson who can't do without her, and they are all children in elementary school. Could it be that her eldest grandson is a grandson, and I am not pregnant with your grandson?
For this reason, during the Chinese New Year, I didn't go back to celebrate the New Year with my husband, and my husband probably guessed some reasons, afraid that I would be angry and didn't go back to accompany his parents for the New Year, but followed me back to my parents' house for the New Year.
When my due date was less than a month away, my mother-in-law knew that she had lost money during my pregnancy, so she gave me 60,000 yuan and asked me to go to the confinement center for confinement.
To put it bluntly, she didn't want to take care of me for confinement. I thought that if I spent so much money to go to the confinement center, I might as well give the money to my mother so that she could take care of me and make it easier to do confinement in my own home.
But I didn't expect that soon after, I regretted my decision.
2. Transfer the money given by my mother-in-law to my mother-in-law and let her take care of me for confinement.
During the confinement period, I decided to let my mother take care of me, after all, since I was a child, my mother is a baby to me, and she is the most suitable to take care of me.
I told my husband about this idea, but he didn't agree with it at first, thinking that his mother didn't take care of his daughter-in-law for confinement, and let his mother-in-law take care of it, and it would be said that if it was spread.
But what I decided, he had to compromise as a result. Of course, I didn't tell my mother-in-law about this.
However, when I told my mom about the idea, she didn't agree. She felt that if her mother-in-law found out about this, it would make everyone embarrassed. So she also asked me to go to the confinement center for confinement.
Seeing that my mother also had the same opinion as my husband, I had no choice, and after I was discharged from the hospital after giving birth, I hid from my mother and rushed to my mother's house with a large bag and a small bag, so I decided to let my mother take care of me.
When my mother saw me showing up with my newborn son in her arms, she didn't say anything more, so she agreed and promised to take care of me for two months before I had to move back.
In order to repay her for her hard work, and to make my conscience feel better, I insisted on giving her the money given by my mother-in-law.
However, when my mother-in-law learned the truth, she began to blame my mother. She thinks that my grandmother should take care of her grandson for free, while my mother reaches out for money, which is an excessive pursuit of money.
My mother was very angry when she heard this, and she helped me pack the clothes of the adults and children and told me to leave quickly. I also felt very angry because my mother-in-law didn't take care of me herself, and she talked about my mother.
3. The two families fell out, and my mother-in-law still blamed me?
I'm in confinement, and my husband is very busy with work. The child is more crying, and my mother stays up late at night to help take care of the child.
Now my mother-in-law has become a person who doesn't have back pain when she stands and talks, and blames my mother for coming.
I didn't ask for your bride price when I got married, if my husband and my mother-in-law don't give me a satisfactory explanation, don't expect me to go back with the child in the future.
In order not to let my mother be scolded, I was so angry that I took the child back to my own house, and my husband, who was on a business trip, called me many **, telling me not to be angry, I didn't bother to take care of him.
He had to work during the day, and he would take care of me and the children at home during the break, but then he was so tired that we had to find an aunt to take care of the children.
And my mother-in-law is still sulking, and I don't bother to take care of it.
It's the annual Spring Festival again, and I didn't go back, but my husband went back for a day and came back. On the fourth day of the Lunar New Year, my mother-in-law finally couldn't bear it anymore and took the initiative to bring some hometown specialties to see me.
I was still angry, and I didn't say a word to her when she came. I don't cause trouble, but I'm not afraid either. Before she left, I told my mother-in-law directly: There is nothing to talk about between the two of us.
What do you say about a woman in this life?Isn't it just a good husband and a good mother-in-law?But I didn't meet it, so can you blame me for being ruthless?What do you think?