A 30-year-old woman and a 31-year-old man went on a blind date, and the two met, and the man I don't have that strength
A lady named Zhang, about 30 years old, owns a small house, and has a monthly income of about 20,000 yuan. She was briefly married, divorced, and has a one-year-old child.
Zhang is tall, outstanding, eloquent, and has a strong affection in his conversation, giving people the impression that men will like it when they see it.
Zhang, who has a mild temperament, works in a car sales company, mainly responsible for business reception, and often needs to socialize. She is a good talker and can cope with all kinds of situations, and although she smokes and drinks, she claims that she is not an alcoholic, but only needs to be required by her work.
Zhang's child is now being cared for by her mother. Asking about Zhang's ex-husband's occupation does not seem to be within the scope of this article.
Zhang mentioned that she and her ex-husband used to be in the same company, but due to poor communication, the two chose to break up peacefully. Although she raised her children after the breakup and her ex-husband paid child support, she still chose to stay in the company because she felt that it was unrealistic to quit her job and the income from her work could meet her living needs, especially to take care of her children.
Regarding the single life, Zhang said that although she is financially independent, she will inevitably feel lonely, especially since she is still very young, and it is unrealistic not to consider remarriage.
She described the ideal partner requirements to the matchmaker: first, he should be a romantic and knowledgeable person; secondly, he should be filial and have a good character; Finally, he should have a stable income and be able to accept her children.
The matchmaker introduced a man to Zhang, Hao, 31 years old, unmarried, an auxiliary police officer with a monthly income of less than 3,000 yuan.
Mr. Hao is tall and dark-skinned, giving people a sense of honesty and reliability, although his expressive skills are not very strong.
He expressed his wish to the matchmaker, hoping to find a woman with a gentle personality, steady and down-to-earth, even if the other party has children.
The matchmaker thought that maybe she could introduce them to each other, so she arranged for them to meet.
When they met, Mr. Hao was attracted to Ms. Zhang, he felt that Ms. Zhang was so beautiful that he was attracted to her at a glance, and he felt that the girls he had contacted before were not as charming as her.
Ms. Zhang also thought Mr. Hao was good, and decided to learn more about it to see if they had a common topic.
The two sat down and started talking, and Hao directly praised Mou's beauty, saying that he felt like he had eyes when he saw her for the first time.
A smile asked, "Really?" Hao replied affirmatively: "Of course! I never praise people casually, you are the first one I praise. A certain smile praised Hao for his cuteness.
Hao also responded with a smile, and then kept praising him. But it can be seen that he is a little embarrassed, after all, in front of beautiful women, he can only say some beautiful words, as if he has no choice.
A asked Hao what his hobbies were, and Hao said that he usually likes to run and keep fit.
Hao asked her what she liked to do in her daily life, and she said that she liked to ask her sisters to have afternoon tea and sometimes play table tennis.
Hao asked if she would drink, and she said she would, but she didn't like liquor, so she only drank it during socializing, and didn't touch it at other times.
She also said she smoked cigarettes and asked Hao if he minded. Hao said he didn't mind, but hoped she wouldn't smoke in front of her parents, because her parents would.
Zhang admitted that she started smoking mainly because of her frustration, and the emotional loss gave her a heavy blow, so she began to indulge in smoking, which was something she had never thought about in the past.
She mentioned that she likes to go shopping in Hong Kong and buy bags and clothes like crazy. She explained that being in Guangzhou, which is close to Hong Kong, allows her to go shopping at any time.
When the matchmaker asked about Zhang's monthly income, she revealed that it was about 20,000 yuan. This number caught Hao a little off guard, as if he had lost confidence all of a sudden.
In turn, Zhang also asked Hao about his monthly income. Hao's answer was that after deducting various insurance costs, there were less than 3,000 yuan left. This makes the gap between the two even more obvious, and it seems that they have completely given up the possibility of continuing to develop.
Mr. Hao expressed his concern that his income was too low and that there was a huge financial gap between him and his wife. He admits that even if he tries his best to cut down on food and clothing, he can't ensure the woman's happiness. Mr. Hao emphasized the importance of their efforts to be together now, noting that if problems arise in the future, the consequences will be very tricky. He emphasised the importance of doing what you can, especially in his thirties, and he knows that there is no room for failure in marriage. Therefore, he urgently needs to find a woman who he can afford to be a partner financially.
Ms. Zhang was also disheartened when she learned that Mr. Hao's income was less than 3,000 yuan. She said that if Mr. Hao's income could reach six or seven thousand yuan, she might consider it. For an income of 3,000 yuan, Ms. Zhang felt that it was indeed too small to meet her expectations.
Zhang mentioned that she was in Guangzhou, and if Hao wanted to visit, the air ticket cost would have to cost two or three thousand, which was really difficult to bear the monthly air ticket cost compared with Hao's existing salary. She wished Hao to find a more suitable partner and live together.
In the end, the two did not develop further, and the blind date ended in failure.
During the blind date, Hao's monthly salary was less than 3,000 yuan, while Zhang's income was about 20,000 yuan. Obviously, such an income gap is too great. It is common for women like Zhang to spend tens of thousands of yuan a month, and Hao's income level is obviously unable to meet this standard of living.
Hao's final choice was wise. He believes that people should measure happiness according to their actual situation, especially those who are older. If the happiness you are pursuing is out of reach, then don't force yourself, otherwise you will suffer yourself after marriage and will also bring trouble to the other party.
The reality is that an ex like Zhang is a woman who leads herself, and after finding a new partner, it will bring great pressure to the other party. After all, it is inevitable to compare the other party with your ex, especially if the woman is still working for the original company. Hao's ability to recognize this point so clearly is really wise and commendable.