Whenever my life is in trouble, I read Maupassant's **, because his **depiction of human nature is meticulous and penetrating. Even if his ** is separated by a hundred years, it can still deeply touch our hearts.
Tolstoy once said of Maupassant:
He is "genius, sincere, and has insight into the essence of things", and even called him the best writer after Hugo.
But Maupassant said that he was: "I entered the literary world like a shooting star." ”
So what is the charm of Maupassant's **? Today I will read Maupassant's long ** work "Life", although this ** is a tragedy, but it also makes us recognize a reality, that is, low-level cognition, how to drag down a woman's life.
Next, let's walk into this story and explore the mysteries.
*, named Yona, was born into an aristocratic family, and her parents raised her according to the path of a celebrity since she was a child.
With the pampering of her parents, Yona lives a carefree life.
At the age of 17, Yona met her true son, a young man named Yu Lian.
He is handsome, personable, and well-spoken.
Yona was curious about the young man.
In fact, Yu Liankong has a noble title, but his family background is shabby, so he urgently needs to marry a favorable family business to pay off his debts.
Eventually, he set his sights on his only daughter, Yona.
For this reason, every time he appears in front of Yona, he is carefully groomed and dressed.
And he talks loudly, trying his best to pretend that he has seen the world.
The good girl Yona was really attracted by his elaborate disguise, and she couldn't help but fall in love with him after meeting him a few times.
The two have known each other for only three months, and they quickly entered into marriage.
However, after getting married, Yu Lian's true face was gradually revealed.
He no longer takes care of his appearance, and his whole person looks greasy and unbearable, which is unbearable to look at.
The grace and affection he once had were gone, and now he treated Yona badly, snorting and drinking.
Yona was shocked, but there was nothing she could do.
However, in fact, Yona is not only lost in her simple heart, but also in her low-level view of mate selection.
To get to know someone, you must start from your appearance, gain an in-depth understanding of your talent, then examine your character, and finally verify your character. ”
When choosing a partner, only the appearance and the emotions that can be provided are subject to the human standard.
Unexpectedly, these superficial things are low-cost, and they can even be disguised.
The truly scarce and valuable qualities are the other person's character, knowledge, problem-solving ability, and emotional stability.
It's a pity that Yona failed to screen it, and what is even more terrifying is that she hastily entered the marriage hall without fully recognizing the true face of the other party.
In the end, this also planted a series of tragedies for this marriage.
Julien's fraud is outrageous, but Yona's naïve and credulous nature is the cause of her unhappy marriage. Therefore, when a person's cognitive level is low and their insight is insufficient, they are bound to be blinded by the appearance of things, which leads to poor decision-making. And this kind of decision-making mistakes on major matters will inevitably lead to a sad life.
Kindness is worthless if it has no edge and bottom line. When Julien first showed his fangs, Yona failed to stop his excesses in time, and instead chose to tolerate.
Even after the honeymoon, she handed over the management of the estate to Julien, hoping that he would be moved by her kindness and change his life.
Clinker, after Julien gains the management of the manor, treats Yona more and more badly. If something doesn't go his way, he'll be furious.
Because of trivial matters, he violently used violence against the servants, and even spoke ill of Yona's parents, forcing the old couple to leave the manor. As a result, Yu Lian became the male owner of the manor, and Yona lost her support and could only choose to swallow her anger.
Julien became even more unscrupulous, developed a relationship with Yona's personal maid, and even had a son. As if struck by lightning, Yona sat stunned for a moment before committing suicide. However, when she was rescued, she found out she was pregnant. In a difficult situation, with no money and no parents around, Yona is completely manipulated by Yu Lian.
A young lady, but she has lived as a resentful woman who endures humiliation and burden, which makes people feel infinitely embarrassed. For women, choosing the wrong partner is already terrible.
What's even more tragic is that Yona doesn't have the means to contend with the other party, and she can't stop the other party's evil deeds. She even expects to compromise in exchange for a brief period of peace.
However, when she gave all the initiative to the other party, it meant that she had already lost everything. And this is precisely caused by her low-level cognition.
Those who can understand the essence of things in half a second are destined to have a completely different fate from those who spend their entire lives unable to see the essence of things. ”
In her opinion, getting along with others only requires blind kindness and blind giving, and the other party will naturally treat herself with the same attitude.
However, she didn't know that the logic of the wicked was that the better you were to me, the more I would take advantage of you and bully you. Sometimes, kindness that lacks edge is actually equated with weakness; A compromise without a bottom line is even more stupid.
Intimacy requires careful management, but it also requires trade-offs.
Only by setting the bottom line wisely, weighing the gains and losses, and decisively stopping losses when necessary, can we seize the initiative in the complex stage of life. If the mindset is rigid, the tragedy will continue to repeat itself.
Under Yona's silence, Julien's behavior became more and more absurd, but he was also attacked for it. Because of his fornication with the Countess, he was eventually killed by the Countess's husband.
After experiencing the shadow of marriage, Yona finally broke free from the shackles and saw her only son, Paul, as the only support in her life.
However, in the way she treats her son, she still follows the attitude towards her husband, conniving at him in every way and tolerating him without a bottom line.
Even if her son got into trouble, she never stopped and educated him, but just used excuses like "he is still young, it will be fine when he grows up" to prevaricate.
Under her doting, Paul has been unscrupulous and does whatever he wants since he was a child. Causing trouble at school, skipping classes to fight, and even bullying classmates.
As an adult, Paul's behavior became more and more uninhibited. Not only was he indifferent to his feelings, but he was also addicted to gambling and owed huge gambling debts. Simon's grandfather originally planned to take this opportunity to educate him well, but Yona looked at her son and chose to be tolerant again.
In order to comfort Paul's trauma, Yona buys him a boat to let him go to sea. However, Paul did not change his ways, and often sent letters home asking Yona for money. From a few thousand francs at first, to more than two hundred thousand later, Paul's appetite grew and he demanded more and more money.
Although Yona indulged her son in every possible way, and even mortgaged the entire family property just to raise funds for his son, her father died in anger because he could not stop his son's behavior.
Eventually, Paul emptied Yona of all her possessions, causing her situation to plummet. She didn't even have anywhere else to go but to move to a small house in the suburbs.
Unfortunately, Yona dotes on her children too much and ends up dragging herself and her parents into the quagmire. She spoiled her son, not only exhausting herself, but also putting her parents under immense pressure.
She lamented the ruthlessness of fate, her son's indifference and cruelty to her. However, she did not expect that it was precisely because of her weakness and compromise that her husband wantonly betrayed her and inflicted cold violence on her. It is precisely because of her bottomless doting that her son was able to make money without scruples and empty her family.
She fell to the bottom in the quagmire of marriage, but she was never able to reflect on herself, could not change, and still stuck to her own mindset.
Therefore, the son also became the other side of the husband, hurting her mercilessly. Every setback in real life may be a reminder of fate. It tells us that there is something wrong with our cognition and that we must constantly improve and improve ourselves.
However, if a person's cognition is rigid and does not know how to change and correct mistakes, then reality will only hurt her again and again, and the tragedy will only repeat itself again and again.
In this world of challenges and opportunities, we need to constantly reflect and grow in order to better face the trials of life. Only in this way can we move forward bravely in the torrent of fate and write our own wonderful chapter.
Only by abandoning the mentality of the weak and constantly enhancing cognition can we usher in a turnaround.
As Yona gets into trouble, Rosalie, the former valet of life, returns to her.
Yona and Rosalie had a deep relationship and spent their youth together.
Back then, Rosalie was a young girl in the flower season, but she was deceived by Yu Lian's sweet words, and the scandal between the two came out.
Despite this, Yona did not punish Rosalie severely.
Instead, she gave Rosalie a handsome dowry and accompanied a small estate to marry a hard-working and simple farmer.
Rosalie was a quick-witted, shrewd and capable man who managed the estate in good order, and her son was also a man of both talents and virtues.
As she amassed wealth, her life became rich and fulfilling.
However, she has always felt guilty about the hostess of the year.
Upon learning of Yona's predicament, Rosalie immediately returns to her to assist her with household chores. The two reunited again and were full of emotion.
Yona confides in Rosalie about her experience, crying tearfully about her son's indifference to her. And Rosalie advises her with great calmness:
Lady Yona, you are too weak to listen to him for everything, you just have to cut off your financial dealings with him. ”
Under Rosalie's persuasion, Yona gradually awakens. She wrote a letter to her son, telling him that he was an adult and should take responsibility for his own life and would no longer give him financial support in the future.
Missing her son, Yona decides to go to London alone to find him. Although she failed to find her son, this trip allowed her to see all kinds of worlds, and her mentality also changed dramatically. She is no longer complacent, no longer obsessed.
However, unexpectedly, not long after, the son took the initiative to return home. It turned out that without his mother's financial support, he was in a difficult situation while wandering away, and had to go home in disgrace.
Later, he had a lovely little daughter, and Yona looked at the lively and playful little granddaughter, and was so excited that she burst into tears.
Yona's life is full of ups and downs, her husband's betrayal has left her in pain, and her son sees her as an ATM. She was torn between intimacy and parent-child relationships, and eventually fell into poverty and loneliness.
However, under the persuasion of the maid, she gradually changed her mentality and realized that she could no longer compromise without a bottom line, and her life began to gradually move towards light.
Sometimes, it is not the shackles of reality that bind a person, but the cage of the heart.
Only by abandoning the mentality of the weak, learning to refuse the interference of others, and having the courage to take responsibility, can we be reborn. A person's cognitive height often determines her insight into problems and her ability to solve them.
People with a high level of cognition have the ability to think deeply, naturally have stronger judgments, and are able to deal with various real-world challenges with ease.
On the contrary, people with a low level of cognition often find it difficult to see the essence of things, are prone to make wrong judgments, and at the same time rest on their laurels and complain about the unfairness of fate.
Therefore, when faced with a problem, we should not make decisions lightly, but think carefully and weigh the pros and cons. At the same time, it is necessary to observe the essence of things more so that we can better grasp the crux of the problem.
When the dilemma of reality brings us to an impasse, we should not blindly complain about the injustice of fate, but should reflect on whether there is a problem with our thinking pattern.
This is exactly what the French writer Maupassant revealed in his work "A Life":
We should continue to improve our cognitive level, gain insight into the essence of human nature, and hone our problem-solving skills in order to achieve a brilliant life.
Whether life is smooth or not, it follows the law of cause and effect. And in this process, we ourselves are the helmsmen who hold our destiny in hand. Reading cured my mental exhaustion