Tao Yong s daughter s melon is more fierce than Wang Shiling

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Recently, Wang Shiling, who studied in the UK, returned to China again, and the journey of tens of thousands of kilometers was a trivial matter for her, and her return to China was like going home.

And this time when she returned to China, Wang Shiling wanted to spend Christmas with her family.

As soon as he returned to China, Wang Yuelun took his daughter to afternoon tea and accompanied her to the art exhibition.

Li Xiang took the child to a high-end restaurant to eat and treat her stomach.

Originally, everyone thought that the little princess ate 3 buns for breakfast, which was quite down-to-earth.

As a result, it was only found out after a check.

This is not an ordinary steamed bun shop, but a new Rongji in Beijing.

Just these 3 buns, more than 400 pieces.

Sure enough, the princess can eat the dignity of silver bills with a bun, and what she consumes is the added value of her mood.

I don't know if it's because Wang Shiling is out of the house, after she posted a ** on her social account, a foreign man actually courted her:

Hello I love you!Find the time to call me **!

Seeing that Wang Shiling was only 14 years old, the man left a message "I need money", which made people suspect that he wanted Wang Shiling as a cash cow.

Netizens didn't think it was a big deal to see the excitement, and directly stabbed the matter to Li Xiang.

Li Xiang has a casual attitude of "my daughter is older, don't interfere much".

This kind of open-mindedness is really emotional.

is also raising children, Tao Yong's parenting method has been controversial recently, and he himself has been subjected to unprecedented accusations.

The incident happened on Tao Yong's daughter's 12th birthday.

For small children, birthdays may be the most anticipated day of the year, and every birthday will become the deepest memory in their hearts.

However, on her birthday, Tao Yong's daughter was asked by her father to serve her family and relatives at the dinner table to eat one by one: serving rice, picking vegetables, and making roast duck rolls.

After dinner, I went back to the room and was dragged out by my father to wash the dishes and clean up the aftermath.

Faced with the little girl's grievances, Tao Yong criticized her "stinky temper" on Weibo.

Of course, some people think that magnifying this matter is the work of feminist ideology.

Then we might as well look at it from a different perspective.

Regardless of gender, let's say an adult who has not eaten two bites on his birthday and is asked to serve everyone to dinner.

I finally stayed up until the meal was over, and I had to go back to my room to hide quietly.

He was dragged out to wash the dishes and clean up the scraps.

Whenever he dares to have the slightest emotion, his family and friends will scold him for "stinky temper and too drag"!

Who can endure this?

Not to mention a 12-year-old.

So, as a father, why did Tao Yong have to make such a disappointing request on his daughter's birthday?

Because of his daughter's disobedience, in his opinion, it was a precursor to becoming a "witch", which made him very frightened.

That's why he has to put pressure on his daughter to be a lady.

But in fact, when we go out into society, the more things we experience, the more we can discover a truth, that is:

Instead of being a well-behaved lady, it is really better to be a witch with personality.

Back to the beginning of the article, Li Xiang and Wang Yuelun actually raised Wang Shiling as a "witch".

First of all, they will firmly defend and recognize their daughter at all times and under all circumstances.

In a show, a child bluntly said that Wang Shiling was a little fat.

Li Xiang first asked Wang Shiling what she thought, and made sure that she didn't want to speak, so she spoke on her behalf:

Finally, she did not forget to say to the child:

When you see a chubby girl in the future, change the way you talk a little, or exercise together, so that everyone will become good friends.

Just because someone belittles you doesn't mean you're really bad, and you don't have to be ashamed.

There must be someone in this world who cares about your feelings unconditionally, and that is Mom and Dad.

Moreover, they are very willing to establish equal communication with their children.

I remember that once, Li Xiang and his wife went to Changsha to record a program, and Wang Shiling stayed in Beijing because of her studies.

As a result, Li Xiang received a message from the teacher and was told that Wang Shiling had not handed in her homework.

Li Xiang was very angry at that time, and criticized her without saying anything.

As a result, the little girl got angry and left **, and she didn't want to answer it again.

As ordinary parents, they may be annoyed that their children are going to turn the sky upside down, but they sit down and reflect on their communication style.

After realizing his own problems, he gently called to appease **.

During the whole communication process, there was no pressure on the slightest parental authority, just an equal dialogue.

After the heart knot was opened, the family made a mess again, and the harmony was as good as ever.

The most touching thing is that they are willing to break the routine for their daughter and insist that their daughter's feelings are greater than everything.

Wang Shiling originally studied in the public kindergarten downstairs, and later transferred to an international school.

The reason is that once, Wang Yuelun saw the children performing hard in the sun during the festival, but the teachers and leaders were all in the shade.

At that time, he felt that the child had been wronged, and he felt very uncomfortable.

Maybe this kind of thing, everyone is not surprised.

But Wang Yuelun feels that this is not a question of the quality of the school, but a problem of class inequality.

If parents agree with this phenomenon and befriend teachers, then the child will be treated preferentially, and the relationship will only become distorted.

For this reason, he did not hesitate to transfer his child to another school.

From these aspects alone, we can see Tao Yong's lack of education.

For his daughter's growth, he completely instilled the concept of "obedient and sensible".

Taking pictures requires the daughter, and she has to pose according to the ideas of adults.

Her birthday required her to obediently serve her relatives and wash the dishes and chopsticks.

But it was also a birthday, but Wang Shiling was given more freedom.

She doesn't need to take care of the seven aunts and eight aunts by herself, but can eat, drink, and play with a few little sisters.

After eating, you don't have to wash the dishes, you can pose for photos casually, and you can throw away garbage casually.

Indulge in a day of princess privileges.

In contrast, netizens feel more and more that Tao Yong is too **, and his father's taste is too heavy.

Under the dissuasion of all members, he used his father's authority to suppress his daughter, and asked her to accept it willingly, which was even more depressing.

Indeed, Wang Shiling's wealthy family background can make her live a more wanton life.

But aside from economic strength, Li Xiang and Wang Yuelun give their children unconditional love, this kind of free thing is already something that many parents can't do.

Just by Li Xiang looking at Wang Shiling's doting and appreciative eyes, people can feel that mother's love is concretized and truly captured.

She said that Wang Shiling would be immersed in the praise of her parents every day.

It doesn't matter how good she is, just because Wang Shiling is their daughter, she can be good anywhere.

But what about Tao Yong?

The daughter didn't cooperate with the adults to pose, so she blamed her for being too dragged;

If you don't wash the dishes in time, you have a bad temper;

If you don't listen to him, you're a terrible "witch".

Tao Yong's attitude also reflects the current status quo of education

Many children grow up, accompanied by parental control and blows.

In the film and television drama "The Bottom Line", a female sales champion was sexually harassed by a colleague.

Others don't understand her, so that's it.

The mother even forced her to die for the sake of face and asked her to withdraw the lawsuit.

even blamed her for dressing too a**, which made people feel bad.

She thinks her daughter should dress conservatively and do a 9-to-5 clerical job, otherwise she will bring on herself if she suffers.

They all seem to think that girls have to live in the rules.

is like Tao Yong, who forced her to wash the dishes on her daughter's birthday, and is also bent on polishing her life with ladylike standards.

In fact, compared to being a lady, girls want to be based on the era of patriarchal ideology, so it is better to be a witch.

It's long past time for parents to let go of those stereotypes, and some rules are reasonable if they don't exist.

Raising a daughter must be well-behaved, but it will make her suffer more grievances in the future and live all day long.

Isn't Tong Liya a living example?

At the beginning, Wang Yuelun just carried the opposite sex on the way, and Li Xiang shouted domineeringly:

But what about Tong Liya, Chen Sicheng's ** who had a secret meeting with two girls in the hotel late at night was all scolded.

But she still sticks to the standard of a good daughter-in-law:

If only he could go home.

This is not unrelated to the family education she has received since she was a child.

Father once publicly stated on the show:

Dare you send your daughter to the Chen family as a cow and a horse?

In the face of netizens' doubts, Tong's father was very reasonable:

Is it wrong to serve your in-laws?

Fortunately, Tong Liya finally broke through the cage of her native family education, otherwise she might have to suffer a lot.

Some people may think that Wang Shiling is because of good family conditions, so her parents will follow her in everything, and they can give her a back in the future.

But I would like to say that this is not really a question of whether there is money or not, but a question of the bottom line of a girl's education.

We can't push Tao Yong to the altar just because he is a healer with great love, and feel that he is doing the right thing.

Objectively speaking, there are indeed problems with Tao Yong's concept of parenting, and only by pointing out the problems can parents all over the world think seriously about one thing at the moment:

Is it the needs of the girls themselves or the needs of their parents to raise girls to be well-behaved and sensible?

My mother taught me from a young age that girls should be like girls, gentle, quiet, well-behaved, and obedient.

So I still have a pleasing personality, and I would rather be wronged myself than satisfy others.

When I had children of my own, I suddenly understood one thing:

For parents, raising an "obedient" child is indeed the most trouble-free and cost-effective choice.

Finally, I would like to give a song to all the girls, and I hope everyone can be respected and seen.

Please believe that you are a wonderful being.

There is no doubt that this is the unique color of the universe.

May you be treated gently by this world.

My heart is full of love.

Remove all your defenses and be free.

do what you wanna do

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