Wen The green onion mother is homely.
Narrator: Aunt Yu.
My parents are retired teachers, my in-laws' family is in business, I am in sales training, my husband is in beauty sales, and I got married 30 years ago and have 8 sets of wedding dresses, so our family's economic conditions are better than those of ordinary families, and my son was born with a golden key.
In the past, our son was our proud pride, and my wife and I tried our best to nurture him, from elementary school to doctorate, as long as it was helpful for his studies, we never refused. My son is also competitive, and until he graduated with a master's degree, his studies have always been among the best, and no matter which school he is in, he is the focus of the teachers.
Back then, my son graduated with a master's degree and said that he wanted to take the doctoral examination, and my wife and I agreed with both hands, thinking that my son was a person who did great things, and he would definitely be better than us in the future. We told our son to concentrate on his studies, and that we would provide for as long as he studied, and that he should not worry about money.
My son, who had studied for a doctorate, became less talkative and rarely contacted us, and every time he contacted us, he only asked for money and didn't say a word more. My wife and I also wanted to be close to our son, so we bought a house in the city where my son was studying for a Ph.D., but even then, my son had very little time to communicate with us, and most of the time he locked himself in his room and played games.
I noticed my son's abnormality and tried to communicate with him, but my son said that it was part of his scientific research, and that he was playing games to find inspiration and data to better complete his research**.
For my son's words, I will be skeptical, my wife advised me not to care too much, our excellent son must be actively working hard, he must have a reason for doing this, we just need to do a good job of logistics support.
I finally survived until my son graduated, and my wife and I thought that we could sit back and enjoy Qingfu this time, but my son was still bored at home all day playing games and didn't go out to look for a job at all. His wife scolded him a few times, but he didn't say a word. As a mother, I wanted to talk to him face-to-face and find out what difficulties he encountered in finding a job, but my son ignored me and only said that his own affairs would be done without me and my wife worrying, and then continued to play games.
My wife was so angry that she had high blood pressure and her heart hurt, so she dragged me back to my hometown, and since then we have been out of sight and out of mind with our son. I thought that our attitude would make my son reflect on himself, but he didn't contact us at all, except when he needed money.
My wife and I persuaded him to hurry up and find a job, both of whom graduated with a doctorate, and no matter how rich we are, we can't support him for a lifetime, and stop money**. But the old people on both sides felt sorry for the children, and always secretly gave money to their sons behind our backs.
At that time, I thought, as parents, we have fulfilled our responsibilities, for you to study, has given you the ability to make money, it is difficult to find a job, we want to help you connect you and you don't agree, then you can only rely on yourself in the future, it doesn't matter to us what kind of life you haveBut it didn't take long for the son to bring back his daughter-in-law, and she was already four or five months pregnant.
Although I was a little disappointed in my son, I saw that he could have a daughter-in-law, which showed that he was still a normal person, maybe he would stabilize after getting married, so we redecorated the house for our son and held a wedding in a lively manner.
Not to mention, my son found a job not long after he got married, and my wife and I have been hanging our hearts to the ground, thinking that we can enjoy Qingfu now.
What I didn't expect was that after the birth of my grandson, my daughter-in-law said that she had to go to work and didn't have time to take it, saying that the child was too young and didn't want to hire a nanny, so she sent me back directly.
In those years, my wife was running around outside, and I was alone at home day and night to take care of my grandson, and they didn't pick him up until he was about to go to elementary school. My grandson has been in my house for nearly 6 years, and my son and daughter-in-law have never given me a penny, and even ask us for money every time they come back.
I didn't want to give them money at first, after all, I had worked hard to take care of their children, so why should I be allowed to pay for labor if I didn't pay for my labor?But my wife said that we are just one son, and our money will be theirs sooner or later, don't search it, it will make our son and daughter-in-law unhappy, and it will not be easy for us to get old.
I think about my wife's words, and I also think it makes sense, the usual small favors may be more touching to my son and daughter-in-law, but this idea is very wrong.
After the grandson was picked up by his son and daughter-in-law, his wife had a cerebral infarction because of a party. My wife was hospitalized in the city of my son's daughter-in-law, and I wanted to go to my son's house to take a bath and change clothes, but my son refused because it was inconvenient for me to go to the house.
Come to think of it, since our son and daughter-in-law got married, we haven't been to that home much, because I know that as an in-law, we have to keep a distance from our son and daughter-in-law, so as to reduce unnecessary conflicts. What I can't figure out is that this time I'm just going to change my clothes, and I'm not a permanent resident, so what's not to do?
But my son said that it was inconvenient, first, he felt that there were many bacteria in the hospital, and he was afraid that I would bring it to the house to infect the child, and second, he said that the house was not tidy and did not meet my standards, and he would be angry when he went to see it, so he booked a hotel for me next to the hospital, where I could go to change my clothes and take a rest by the way.
My wife is still in the hospital, and I don't have time or mood to reason so much with my son, so I don't want to say a word to him again. During the entire hospitalization, the son only came twice, and the daughter-in-law did not come once. The son said that he was very busy with work, and the daughter-in-law said that she had to take care of the child and was afraid of coming to the hospital to bring back bacteria.
My daughter-in-law was not born to me, I don't blame her, but my son's attitude is really chilling to me, even if I am busy at work, I have time off work and a day off, why can't I find time to come to the hospital to help me?
My wife was also chilled by my son's performance, and told me not to give them any more money in the future, such a son and daughter-in-law can't be counted on, and we have to keep the money for our own retirement.
Our old house was about to be demolished, and I told my wife not to tell my son, but as soon as the demolition money came, my son and daughter-in-law arrived home on time.
The son and daughter-in-law said very directly"Although this house is not ours, you will have to rely on us to support the elderly in the future, and now we want to buy a school district house for our children, and we have no money in hand, so you can give us all the demolition money." ”
When my wife heard this, she was so angry that she said bluntly that they were no different from robbers, how could they ask for money and be so arrogant?But the son came to say:"I am your only son, the only heir to the inheritance in the future, who will not give it to me?In that case, it is better to give it to me sooner and make it easier for us. ”
These words made my wife even more angry, we are all fine, we all think of the inheritance, and push our son and daughter-in-law out. It was probably because the son blocked it with his hand, and it was probably because he was overly angry, and his wife fell, and he didn't come up in one breath, and the person was gone.
I was extremely disappointed in my son, and during the period when I was dealing with my wife's funeral, I didn't say a word to my son, not even eye contact. When everything was taken care of, my son and daughter-in-law came up to me and said:"Mom, my dad is gone, you can go home with us, we don't worry about you alone. ”
The words of the son and daughter-in-law were very peaceful and gentle, I couldn't believe that this was the son who made his wife angry a few days ago, but I refused directly: "Forget it, let's break off the mother-son relationship, I can't afford a son like you." ”
My son still didn't give up and continued to ask me about the demolition money, and I told him:"You still don't have the idea of this money, this money is not necessarily yours, in the future, I will use the money to hire a nanny or go to a nursing home, and whoever is good to me will give the money to whomever I want, and then I will donate it." ”
My son and daughter-in-law think that I am unreasonable, and I will have to go back to them if I can't move in the future, and they may not be able to control me at that time. I smiled and waved my hand, and scattered in two, what am I afraid of if I have money, and when I can't move, whoever serves me will give money to whomever I want, are you afraid that you won't find someone to serve?
Some people say that I am too selfish, and now young people are stressed, I should understand more, and I want to ask, is it right or wrong for me to do this?
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