She is 30 years old, with a salary of 13,000, and her mother-in-law said that she must give her 5,000 a month or let them divorce
Xingyan is over 30 years old, and as a planning supervisor of a foreign company, her monthly salary is 13,000 yuan. She has a lovely 3 year old son.
The other half of Xingyan is Lin Qi, 32 years old, a primary school teacher with a monthly income of 6,500 yuan.
One day, Xingyan received an urgent ** from her grandfather when she was at work, saying that her grandmother was sick and hoped that she could accompany her to the hospital.
It was noon, and Xingyan realized that she couldn't afford to lose time, even though she couldn't take a leave of absence. Her job requires dedication, and she's always worried about layoffs. In order to get to her grandmother's house as soon as possible, she got on her scooter and rushed out of the company immediately after work.
She hurried to her grandmother's house, picked her up, and went to the hospital together. After the doctor's examination and consultation, it was learned that my grandmother's blood pressure was still high, and the doctor emphasized the necessity of medication** and reminded my grandmother to pay more attention to exercise and rest at ordinary times. Xingyan is so anxious that she can only devote herself to work and taking care of her family in a limited amount of time, and she knows the importance of maintaining balance.
After Xingyan personally sent her grandmother home, she hurried back to work, and she didn't have time to eat all day, and she didn't even bother to drink water.
She had been juggling a busy schedule all afternoon, and she had a headache making plans, and typing made her feel like her hands were cramping.
Finally completing a plan that was about to end, Xing Yan breathed a sigh of relief and brewed a cup of black coffee. However, it didn't take long for her to feel an upset stomach, and she realized that she had forgotten to eat lunch, so she could only accept it with a wry smile.
When it was about to be time to get off work, Xingyan called Lin Qi ** and asked him to pick up his son, and he decided to go to his grandfather's house first and told them not to wait for her to have dinner together.
Xingyan bought some sugar-free yogurt, local chicken, beef and vegetables at the supermarket, and hurried to his grandfather's house with these ingredients.
Pushing the door open, the grandfather was preparing dinner, while the grandmother was resting because she was unwell. Xing Yan asked with concern: "Grandpa, what do you want to eat, I'll cook." ”
Grandpa smiled and said, "Haha, the geese are here." Alas, at our age, we can eat whatever we want. Wild goose, you can eat whatever you want. ”
Xingyan decided to stew a pot of chicken soup and a stew of beef, considering that the old man couldn't chew, he deliberately chose beef stew, which was easier to digest.
To enrich the table, she also prepares noodles and pairs them with hot chicken broth, and a hearty dinner is complete.
At dinner, my grandfather and grandmother were smiling. Xingyan understood that their smiles were because of her company, but it made her feel a little complicated.
When he got home, his son shouted happily: "Mom, Dad took me to eat kebabs, it's so delicious!."”
Xing Yan responded with a smile: "Hmph, it seems that your father is too lazy to cook again, so he simply took you out to settle dinner." ”
Haoran said innocently: "Hey Mom, try the food outside when appropriate, so that you can better understand how delicious the food your mother cooks." ”
Xing Yan smiled happily at her son's funny expression, and sighed secretly in her heart, her son is only more than 3 years old, how can he talk so interesting?Neither she nor Lin Qi are particularly verbal people.
After his son fell asleep, Xing Yan frowned and said, "Lin Qi, can you let your grandfather and grandmother come and live for a while?"The two of them were so lonely, and their home seemed too lonely. ”
Lin Qi glanced at her and replied, "Yanzi, this is not appropriate, we both have to go to work and take care of the children, how can we have time to take care of the two old people." ”
Xing Yan pondered for a moment and said, "Lin Qi, have you forgotten?"My son has been brought up by his grandparents for the past few years, and they have been in charge of us for so many years, can't we repay some now?”
Lin Qi responded: "These are two different things, I am grateful for their help in taking care of the children, but it is not the same as them coming to live." ”
He continued: "Moreover, the family is so small, where are they coming to stay?”
Xingyan said firmly: "I have already thought about it, my son is still young and can live with us." They can live in their son's room, and in a few years, we might be able to change to a bigger house. ”
Lin Qi resolutely objected: "Xingyan, I can tell you clearly, I don't agree. They are just grandparents, and we are not obligated to provide a place for the elderly. ”
Xing Yan stared at him in disbelief and said, "Lin Qi, how can you say that, don't you know that I was raised by my grandparents?"”
Lin Qi thought for a moment and said, "Yanzi, I do know, but what I said is right. Moreover, you took your grandparents to the home to care for the elderly, how can I explain to my parents?They want to come to the city and stay with us. ”
Xingyan responded: "Lin Qi, when I was going to give birth, I wanted my mother to come over to help, but what did they say?"They feel like they've done their best to raise you, and nothing else matters. Your parents are busy playing mahjong all day and don't want to help at all, they just want to force me to quit. Now, do you suddenly want to come over and play mahjong again?”
Lin Qi said with some displeasure: "Xingyan, what you said is not fair. It's a love for my parents to be willing to help, and it's also their duty to be unwilling to help. As a junior, how can you complain like this?”
Xing Yan sneered: "Hehe, when they have the right to choose not to help, I also have the same right." If you don't agree to live with my grandparents, I won't force it. You can forget their kindness to help you with the child, but I can't, I know that they raised me and my son was brought up by them to 3 years old. ”
She continued: "Tomorrow I will take my son to live at my grandmother's house, and you can come and see us when you have time." The two old men won't be so lonely anymore. ”
Lin Qi said coldly: "Xingyan, do you have to be like this?"Aren't you afraid that I will divorce you?”
Xing Yan responded firmly: "Lin Qi, my grandfather is 80 years old and my grandmother is 77 years old, they don't know how many days there are. I am the closest person to them, I can't just look after myself and ignore them, I won't be an ungrateful person. ”
Lin Qi said with a calm face: "Xingyan, don't say this kind of accusation that I am ruthless, it has no effect on me. I just don't want to live with them, and I don't feel like I'm at fault. ”
Xing Yan responded indifferently: "Well, if you really decide to divorce, I won't force it." ”
After saying that, Xingyan went to sleep with his son. She was very disappointed in Lin Qi, and never thought that he would be so disregarding the old man's feelings.
Xingyan and her son moved to her grandmother's house, and her grandmother happily hugged her grandson and refused to let go, and said happily: "Haoran, do you miss grandma?"Grandma misses you so much. ”
Haoran obediently sat in her grandmother's arms, patted her grandmother's hand and said, "Grandma, I miss you so much, especially the cookies you made." My mom isn't as smart as my grandma, and the cookies she makes aren't as delicious as yours. ”
Xing Yan glared at his son, and secretly sighed in his heart, he is really a little guy who knows how to please, and he doesn't know where to learn this. 
When my grandmother heard this, she said happily, "Yes, your mother has been clumsy since she was a child. ”
Then, my grandmother said, "Haoran, grandma will make you cookies in a while, and tomorrow you can take them to the kindergarten and share them with the children." ”
After dinner, Xingyan was still busy with her work, while her grandmother took Haoran to make small biscuits together.
Grandpa sat next to Xingyan and asked, "Yan'er, you and your child moved back because you quarreled with Lin Qi?"Or is it because you don't worry about us two old people?”
Xing Yan replied with a smile: "No, grandpa, the child and I just miss you." ”
Grandpa said: "Yan'er, I understand that you are a good and filial child, but we are old, you have your own life, you don't have to worry about us too much, it is enough to come and see us occasionally." ”
Xing Yan responded: "Grandpa, you just enjoy life, and we will take care of the rest, Lin Qi and I are doing well." ”
Grandpa shook his head: "Yan'er, grandpa has lived to be 80 years old and knows everything." But my grandfather doesn't want to see you delay your life for us, and even affect your marriage with Lin Qi. ”
Xing Yan said firmly: "Grandpa, since I was 10 years old, you and my grandmother have always been my support, providing me with my education and helping me buy a house with a down payment. You and my grandmother are my closest people, and now that I'm older, if I don't care about you, then who am I?”
Grandpa sighed: "However, you can't delay your life for us. ”
Xing Yan comforted: "It's okay, grandpa, I have a job and a son, if Lin Qi can't accept it, I will make good arrangements for both of them." ”
A week has passed, and Lin Qi has not contacted Xingyan or visited the child. On the weekend, Xing Yan took her son home and wanted to get some things for herself and her son, and had a good talk with Lin Qi by the way.
Xing Yan thought that her grandparents were old and didn't know how long they could stay with them, although she was still in good health, she still hoped to persuade Lin Qi to let her grandparents live with them.
After returning home, Xing Yan was a little shocked, the family was crowded, there were wine bottles everywhere, the table was full of all kinds of leftover lunch boxes, and a group of people were laughing and arguing.
In the crowd, Xing Yan finally saw Lin Qi, he walked over with his son in his arms, and Xing Yan asked curiously, "Lin Qi, who are these people?"What are you guys up to?”
Suddenly, the mother-in-law shouted loudly: "Lin Qi, buy some more barbecue, and some more wine, your cousin and your aunt haven't eaten enough." ”
Lin Qi responded: "Okay, Mom, I'll order takeout and deliver it in a while." ”
When he saw Xingyan and his son, he asked, "Why did you come back?"”
Then he explained, "Oh, my parents are going to come to stay at home for a while, and my aunt and other relatives also want to come to the city to see it, so they all came." ”
Xingyan was a little displeased, people she hadn't usually come into contact with, but at the moment it made her family a mess, and she was a little difficult to accept.
Seeing that they were all drunk and unconscious, she didn't bother to bother with them, and she didn't plan to take anything, but said, "Lin Qi, it's best to arrange for them to leave as soon as possible, and then clean up the house." ”
At this moment, someone suddenly grabbed her hair, and she was still holding the child and almost fell.
The mother-in-law said angrily, "What did you say?".Let's go?Are you dreaming, this is my son's house, we haven't lived in it yet, and you want these two old immortals to live in. You mourning star, don't come back in the future, you will get a divorce tomorrow. ”
Lin Qi hurriedly said, "Mom, let go, she is still holding the child." ”
At this time, the child Haoran was already scared and crying, hugged Xingyan's neck tightly, and kept calling his mother.
The mother-in-law refused to let go, and Xingyan was so painful that tears flowed out, but she still hugged her son tightly.
Lin Qi took a lot of effort to get her mother to let go of her hand and said, "Mom, what are you doing?"Didn't you see that you almost fell the child?Besides, when did I say I was going to get a divorce. ”
The mother-in-law said coldly: "I have to leave, what's the use of this kind of woman who is dedicated to outsiders, and she still wants her grandparents to live in, why doesn't she go to heaven?"”
Lin Qi, let me tell you, your father and I have already discussed, and we will live here in the future, you are also a teacher now, and we should also enjoy your blessings. ”
Xingyan watched coldly, didn't speak, and walked straight to the door, which was crowded with people, and she didn't want to be angry anymore.
She walked to the door, Lin Qi also followed, she looked at him lightly and said, "Divorce, this house is mine, you quickly find a place to move." ”
After speaking, she hugged the child and wanted to leave, Lin Qi hurriedly said: "Xingyan, don't be angry, I just said casually that day, and my parents didn't expect so many people to come." ”
Don't worry, I'll arrange for them to go back in the next few days, don't take what my mother says, she is just an uneducated villager, ignorant and malicious. ”
Xing Yan shook her head: "Lin Qi, it's not that your mother doesn't understand, she thinks that your home is her home, and she will only get worse in the future." ”
Lin Qi, let's get a divorce. With your personality, you can't say anything about your parents. Rather than quarrel in the future, it is better to separate now. ”
Xingyan took the child home, and her grandfather and grandmother were preparing dinner, and greeted them with a smile: "Yan'er, you are back, we made a warm pot tonight and bought a lot of meat." ”
Xing Yan said happily: "Grandma, it's great, it's been a long time since I've eaten the warm pot you made, I've been thinking about it for a long time." ”
Grandma smiled: "Silly child, just say if you want to eat, anyway, we will be fine for a day, and we will make food for you and Haoran in the future." ”
Haoran suddenly cried loudly, ran to his grandfather, hugged his leg and said, "Grandpa, Haoran is afraid, someone pulled his mother's hair just now." ”
Grandpa's face sank suddenly, and he asked, "Xingyan, what's going on?"Who hurt you?”
Xingyan didn't expect her son to be like this, so she could only answer helplessly: "Grandpa, it's okay, it's my mother-in-law, she is drunk." ”
Grandpa frowned and said, "Xingyan, your mother-in-law and they are coming to the house?"Hey, it's the two of us who are dragging you down, otherwise you wouldn't have left the house and lived here with your children. ”
Xingyan snuggled up to her grandfather and said, "Grandpa, you and your grandmother raised me, and filial piety to you is what I should do." What's more, you are so old, and you still help me take Haoran, pick up and drop off every morning and evening, you don't feel troublesome at all, and take care of the child in vain. ”
Grandpa said with emotion: "At that time, we also wanted to go to your house and help you take care of the children, but seeing that Lin Qi was unwilling, we could only help you during the day." We are your relatives, and we certainly can't watch you quit your job for the sake of your children. ”
Xing Yan said gratefully: "Grandpa, you and grandma are really good. Even now, you still cook every day, waiting for me and Haoran to come back. ”
Grandpa, don't you know, the bear biscuits you made for Haoran, the teachers took them out to share with the children, and the children liked him very much and envied him. ”
Grandpa smiled and said, "Yan'er, grandpa is afraid that one day we both will leave, and you will get divorced again, and there will be no one to help you at that time, what can you do if you have something?"So I still have to talk to Lin Qi, even if you don't care about us, your grandmother and I won't blame you. ”
Xingyan: Grandpa, you don't have to worry too much, I just hope that you and grandma can accompany me and Haoran in a healthy and happy way.
This time the hot pot is really delicious, and the tomato pot base made by my grandmother is delicious, and the delicious soup is endless. Slices of thin beef flash in the soup and are delicious in 5 seconds. Haoran ate happily and let out a cry of joy.
Although Xing Yan mentioned divorce to Lin Qi, she actually hesitated. As my grandfather said, when the two old men are gone, she will have no other relatives. At that time, she would indeed feel helpless when she was alone in taking care of the children.
The weekend came again, and she took her son back home, planning to communicate with Lin Qi well. There was only a disagreement between the two, and she believed that with deeper communication, the problem should be resolved.
She already has plans to rent a house in the unit they live in to her grandparents. Eat together, walk together, and spend as much time as possible with the two elderly. There is a rental house in this unit that she saw last time, and my grandparents have a pension, so rent should not be a problem.
Xing Yan thinks this idea is very good, and I believe Lin Qi will agree with it. So she went home with confidence, brought some ingredients, and prepared to prepare dinner with Lin Qi, and then go back with her son in the evening.
Pushing open the door, a strong smell of smoke came to my face. What is surprising is that there are two tables of mahjong in the house, and the people playing cards are so engrossed that they don't notice anyone coming in at all. Among them, the father-in-law and mother-in-law each occupied a table, and the others seemed to be neighbors in the community, but Xingyan didn't know any of them.
Xingyan fell into a state of almost madness, she couldn't restrain herself, and shouted loudly: "Lin Qi, Lin Qi, what the hell are you doing?".”
Lin Qi walked out of the bedroom and frowned slightly when she saw her and her son. He put on a dress and said indifferently, "Let's go, let's go outside and talk." ”
Xingyan looked at his expression and realized that the plan he had originally conceived might no longer work. Lin Qi should have had the idea of giving up on their marriage.
In the KFC store at the entrance of the community, she ordered a children's ** for her son, and the two asked for a glass of Coke each. Sitting there, they fell into an awkward silence.
After a while, Lin Qi spoke: "Xingyan, let's get a divorce." My parents decided to live with me in the future, and you obviously wouldn't agree. ”
I know when you were born Haoran, you wanted my mom to come and help. But my mom asked you to quit your job to take care of the children, and from then on, you became resistant to living with my mom. ”
He chuckled and continued, "It's all my ignorance. If I had been able to handle it more properly and have a good talk with my mom and let her help us for a few years, you would have found a way to get along with her. ”
Lin Qi looked up at the outside, and after a while, he said, "Xingyan, I have persuaded my parents to go back, but they don't agree. When I was still at work, I set up a mahjong table at home, and I really couldn't stop it. ”
My parents said that if we don't get divorced, they give them 5,000 a month for living expenses. I really don't know how they were embarrassed to make such a condition. Don't you have to pay off your mortgage, raise your children, or worry about your life?Xingyan smiled and asked rhetorically.
Lin Qi looked helpless, and said with a wry smile: "In the eyes of my parents, I have such a good job, and the money I earn should be theirs." When I got married, they always thought that you didn't have a father or mother, and your job was not as good as mine, so you didn't deserve me at all. So, you should earn money to support your family. ”
Xingyan, forget it, let's get a divorce. I know that even if I don't say it, you should make up your mind by now. ”
Xing Yan felt a little sad and said, "Lin Qi, I originally came to tell you that I thought of a way to take care of my grandparents. Now, however, it seems that there is no need. ”
She took a sip of Coke, looked at Lin Qi, and then said, "Lin Qi, you should know that after our divorce, the house will definitely be mine." After all, I paid the down payment of 1.5 million, and we have only been married for four years, and the mortgage is not much. ”
Besides, after the divorce, you still have to pay monthly alimony to your son. Is your salary enough for you to buy a new house?What will happen to you in the future, don't your parents care at all?”
Lin Qi, if you are willing to live with me and send your parents back, I can rent a house for my grandparents in our unit. We don't have to pay the rent, and the pensions of the two of them are enough. Just have a meal with us. ”
Lin Qi, if you agree, I can promise you 2,000 per month as living expenses. You should understand that in the countryside, 2000 is enough to live in abundance. ”
Lin Qi looked at Xingyan and asked, "Yanzi, are you telling the truth?"Are you really still willing to live with me?I am also willing to give my parents 2000 a month as living expenses”
Xing Yan nodded and said, "Lin Qi, we don't have to think about ourselves, but now as parents, we must think about our children." However, Lin Qi, if one day your parents need us to take care of them, I will not live with them. At most, find someone to take care of you, so you still have time to earn more money, after all, your parents will not have social security in the future, and the burden will be greater. ”
Xingyan, who had already decided to divorce, looked at his son who was happily enjoying food next to him, and his heart changed.
She felt that as long as she and Lin Qi worked together, there would always be a way to live well. Just like she has to take care of her grandparents, he also hopes that her parents can live better, in fact, these are all problems that can be solved.
As long as both sides are willing, there is always a way to solve it. The only thing that made Xingyan a little hesitant was her father-in-law and mother-in-law, who really didn't seem to get along with her. However, as long as they don't live together and give them a certain amount of living expenses, she is still willing to accept it.
At this time, the son ran back from the children's play area, looked at Lin Qi and said, "Dad, why didn't you come to see me, don't you want me?"Are you going to be like Lele's father, don't you want me?”
After speaking, pretending to cry, Lin Qi hurriedly picked up his son and said, "Haoran, Dad has been a little busy lately, and when Dad sends my grandparents back, I will pick you and Mom home." ”
The son burst into laughter. Lin Qi said: "Xingyan, I will send my parents back in the next two days, and at the same time, I will rent a house and pick up my grandparents." ”
Xing Yan nodded, knowing that they had thought about each other many times. The conversation just now made him understand that after the divorce, he actually has nothing, and only the joint efforts of both parties to live well is the wisest choice.
After Xingyan returned home, she proposed her plan to her grandparents, and the two old people were also very happy to hear it.
After the child fell asleep, her grandparents came to her and said, "Yan'er, we have discussed, we will go with you in the next few days and transfer this house to you." In the future, this house will be yours, and when we move in, you will rent it out, and it will be good to have an extra income. ”
Xing Yan shook his head and smiled: "Grandpa, no, this is your house, what are you transferring to me for?"I have a house, and you still paid for the down payment. ”
Grandpa smiled and said, "Silly boy, we only have one relative, of course, we want to give you the house." But we are worried that if we suddenly have an accident and do not make a will in time, you may have trouble in the future. It is better to go through the transfer procedures as soon as possible, and we will also make a will, so that no matter when, there will be no other worries. ”
Grandma echoed: "Yan'er, just listen to your grandfather, find a time in the next few days, and we will go and do this." ”
Xingyan finally agreed, she didn't want her grandparents to worry about these things, she just wanted to live a stable and happy life with them.
This week, Lin Qi came to pick up her grandparents, Xingyan was busy preparing things, and said to her grandmother: "Don't take too many things, go see what you need first, and then I'll move it." ”
When the group arrived at the community, Xing Yan asked, "Lin Qi, what floor of the house are you renting?"Has it been cleaned yet?”
Lin Qi replied: "Let's go, everything is packed, just follow me." ”
Lin Qi kept guiding them into the house, saying, "Grandparents and grandparents, you live in Haoran's room, I have already helped you clean up, we will live together in the future, I still want to eat the hot pot made by grandma." ”
My grandparents were very happy after seeing it, and they said yes again and again. Xing Yan also said to Lin Qi gratefully: "Thank you, I believe we will get better and better." ”
Conclusion:
The human mind is like a garden, if you sow poisonous seeds, the weeds will grow and the whole garden will become barren.
On the contrary, if beneficial seeds are sown, they will take root and sprout, filling the garden with beautiful flowers and even bearing fruit.
All life is the result of personal choice, and what kind of garden we have depends on what kind of seeds we choose to plant.
Remember, the soul is precious and must be filled with goodness;Emotions are precious, and you are in the company of people who make you happy;Time is precious, so invest in something valuable!