People over 50 years old should know that between brothers and sisters, no matter how good the relationship is, there are 2 places to "pretend to be dumb".
This 52-year-old aunt has worked hard all her life, and it is not easy to raise two children. Now that the children have graduated from college and family life is gradually improving, the family relationship has taken a new turn.
The aunt recalled that in the past, siblings were able to support each other when the family was in difficulty, but now the situation is different.
Her youngest sister, in particular, seems to have doubts about her aunt's current situation, and thinks that she is purely good luck and good luck. She also said that the children may not all earn something that goes to her aunt, and she is worried about whether her aunt will be unhappy in her later years because she does not have a son.
Some of the words may sound like they are caring, but the hints in the words don't feel right.
After the age of 50, I gradually understood some tacit understanding between brothers and sisters.
When you are in poverty, you need to learn to "keep your head low". In life, no matter when and where, self-confidence comes from one's own ability.
In fact, when you have deep pockets and abilities, you can hold your head high with confidence wherever you are. Others will also respect you more because of your abilities.
People have always admired the strong, some are good at disguise, and some directly show the pursuit of power.
It has been said that when you are poor, you should "keep your head down", talk less, care less about other people's affairs, and express less personal opinions. This kind of low-key may be due to your own lack of strength, which makes others unable to approve of anything you say.
If you don't believe it, you look at the wine in the cup, and the cup is to pay tribute to the rich first.
Second, avoid talking about financial hardship, especially financial struggles, in front of your loved ones. No matter how difficult you are in or how painful your heart is, it is best not to disclose it to others. Because even if you say it, most of the time it won't be resolved, and it will become a topic of conversation for others.
In addition, once the most embarrassing side of themselves is exposed, even if it is a sibling, their attitude may not be so concerned in the future.
Take my aunt as an example, when she was young, her family was in difficulty, and although she tried not to mention it in front of her siblings, everyone could still sense it through her family's consumption level and actual economic situation. As a result, she was given a lot of cold eyes in the relationship between relatives.
Although the aunt is the elder in the family, due to her poor family background, she is unable to establish the prestige of the elder among her siblings, and everyone does not listen to her because of her lack of strength.
On the contrary, the siblings are more willing to express their opinions on her family's affairs. Despite the verbal claim of concern, the aunt is not stupid and can feel that everyone's attitude towards her lacks due respect.
Therefore, when one is in poverty, it is not only necessary to avoid being conspicuous, but also to get used to not being taken seriously by others, especially in kinship.
Keep a low profile when you're wealthy. This is often the case in this world, and those who have complained about your poverty may also be jealous because they are afraid of your wealth. This contradiction of human nature is frequently revealed in reality, but this seems to be the reality we live in.
Regarding the point of "pretending to be dumb", it is actually very easy to understand. When you have a lot of money, no matter how big or small, no matter how happy your heart is, avoid showing off to familiar people. Because there are often very few people who are really good for you, your happiness may only be a glaring presence in the eyes of some people.
Although I usually get along with my siblings and communicate frequently, this relationship is often just a maintenance of human contact, and no one can fully understand the real thoughts of the other party.
If you see family affection as pure, you may be disappointed later on. Because even if you are rich, your siblings may be jealous of you and even talk about you behind your back.
For example, there is an aunt whose family is much better than before, mainly because her two daughters have graduated from college, have good jobs, and have high incomes. These changes made the aunt happy, and she said it in front of her family, but it caused displeasure.
Especially the youngest sister, the child is still in school, and her grades are not good, in contrast, seeing that the eldest sister is doing well, she is unwilling, and it is shown on her face.
The aunt was deeply surprised to find that there were only a few people who were happy for her besides her relatives, and decided to talk less about them in the future.
Many times, even though you are not showing off, but simply sharing, others may perceive it differently. People often interpret the words of others from their own perspective, which leads to huge misunderstandings.
Therefore, try to say as little as possible, control the desire to talk, especially some self-interested things, it is better to hide it in your heart.
Don't try to challenge human nature, the results are often disappointing.