They say you: "Hello, ......."
Then you listen to what they say about you, and you think that you are really like this, and you start to get anxious, you start to get confused, and you start to wonder: I am so bad?Then why do I still exist in this world!
What you heard was a few words that were passed down to you, and the veracity of them needs to be investigated, so don't wonder if you can't do it, and you have to examine why you haven't heard others say bad things about you.
In this way, you can refute it on the spot or improve it on the spot!
So, if someone tells you who is saying how you are, you can ignore the three-seven-twenty-one, go to this person, and ask her with a sincere face: "The next time you want to say bad things about me, can you ask me to listen to it?"”
If he really says your shortcomings and you find that they are, then sincerely thank them, if not, then dismiss them on the spot.
If you do it a few times, no one will dare to speak ill of you behind your back, because they can't afford the consequences.
One of my friends is a special dog, and the reason why he is called a dog is because he can stick out his tongue and wag his tail at anyone, just like a dog, and he seems to know everyone well, but he doesn't seem to know anyone.
Everyone thinks he has a lot of friends, but no one seems to really get into his heart.
He is in business, and has the ability to become friends with people when he comes and goes, and the most amazing thing is that I once met her in the canteen of a company, and I was able to go to that canteen because I was invited to eat as Party A, and he was able to come in and eat He told me that it was because he was familiar with the canteen master.
We don't know how he is familiar with the canteen master, because he hasn't been to this company a few times, and the most suspicious thing is that he is also very familiar with the security guard who watches the gate of the company, just like a relative.
But in fact, they are really not relatives, he is completely going to set these friends who are almost trapped, you want to say that these people are not his friends, and they do give him a lot of convenience, but you have to say that they are friends, the age difference, the circle is different, all kinds of differences, anyway, it is hard to imagine that they will get acquainted.
Ask a friend how to be like him, at least like him, it becomes easy to behave in the world, my friend told me about when he was a child, he said that he was a child one year he played alone in the class for a whole year and no friend played with him.
I was stunned, how could someone like him, who knew everyone well, be so lonely?
Friends said that he used to have a cold personality and didn't like to take the initiative to contact others, but after a year of thinking, he found that this way was not the way, plus a cartoon he watched during that time affected him, and since then he has been in contact with people, communication is not heart-to-heart, through continuous trial and error and slow exercise, he has mastered the method of communicating with people.
Maybe in the eyes of outsiders, he belongs to a very sleek and sophisticated person, and there are people who are not used to it, so my friend used this trick to deal with it with sincerity, as long as I am thicker than others, others will definitely be embarrassed than me first.
Friends often say that people live in this world for so many decades, who will really accompany whom for a lifetime, every good friend you meet is a passerby in a certain period of life, you go through a period of time happily with him, leave a good memory, this is enough.
Most of the time, people are lonely, so it's important to learn to be alone with yourself.
As long as your core is strong enough, no darkness in this world can affect you, just follow your own pace, to achieve your own goals, don't care about other people's comments and ridicule, don't care about other people's evaluations, and even, you can listen to other people's evaluations of you, which is actually a good thing.
Maybe many people don't have the open-mindedness of friends, because he has also been slowly trained from childhood to adulthood, so if you want to be strong, you have to train yourself.
It may be painful, but no matter how painful it is, it will be a thing of the past.
Time does not stop passing because you are suffering, so no matter how much pain you have, it will eventually be smoothed by time, and the fruits that have been watered by suffering will usually bloom into brilliant flowers.
No matter how you live, you might as well be bold.
You have to get along with people anyway, you might as well be "sincere".