The ancestor said that there are three in front of the grave and no four in front of the bed, what does it mean?
There are many ancient sayings circulating in our country, some of which imply people's understanding and respect for life and the environment. In China's traditional culture, the cemetery is the resting place of the deceased, and it is also the place where the living express their filial piety and remembrance, so when planting plants around the cemetery, people pay special attention to selection and consideration;The bed is a place for people to rest and sleep, it is closely related to people's health and fortune, and the placement of items around the bed directly affects people's sleep.
There is a saying in our country that it is called"Three are not planted in front of the grave, and four are not left in front of the bed", so what do the three do not breed and the four do not stay?We'll find out soon.
First, let's take a look"Three taboos on the grave"。
i.Do not plant trees that grow too fast in front of the grave.
Many people plant trees in front of the grave, such as cypress and pine, typically"Tomb Tree", because they are evergreen all year round and have a long lifespan. However, trees such as bamboo, banyan, and poplar grow too fast to be planted next to graves.
When choosing a tree to plant before the grave, the characteristics of the tree, i.e., the growth rate and root system, need to be considered. Some tree species, such as bamboo, banyan, and poplar, grow rapidly and have root systems that dig deep into the ground and extend into the grave, which can cause damage to the structure of the tomb.
Secondly, due to its rapid growth, this tree can cover a grave almost in a summer. In the eyes of the ancients, the tomb was too depressed as a bad symbol, meaning that there was no successor, meaning that the family was in the middle of the road or that there was no one to pay tribute to. In addition, the dense vegetation attracts small animals such as rats and rabbits, which can burrow themselves and endanger the safety of the grave. Therefore, trees that grow too fast, are dense and easily shade the grave should be avoided near the grave.
Second, don't plant peach trees in front of the grave.
In our traditional culture, the peach wood is considered a symbol of warding off evil spirits, and the peach wood sword is believed to have the power to ward off evil spirits. Peaches are also revered as a symbol of longevity and are often used in longevity feasts and birthday celebrations.
However, the grave is considered to be the resting place of the souls of the deceased, and it is obviously inappropriate to plant peach trees in such an environment that symbolize evil spirits or longevity. What's more, the peach trees are colorful, and the tomb is a symbol of solemnity, and planting a peach tree next to the grave is also disrespectful to the ancestors.
In addition, the fruit of the peach tree is delicious, which inevitably attracts people who pick it. This behavior will not only disturb the tranquility of the grave, but will also lead to the grave being trampled on, and the grave environment may be polluted (littering, open defecation), which is also disrespectful and disrespectful to the deceased. Out of respect for the deceased and traditional cultural concepts, it is not advisable to plant peach trees around the grave.
Third, don't plant in front of the grave"Thorny"of plants.
It is well known that if there are thorny plants around the grave, it can cause damage and inconvenience to those who come to visit, pay respects or take care of the grave.
Some families may bring their children with them when they sweep the grave, in which case if thorny plants are planted in front of the grave, the children may come into contact with these plants out of curiosity or mischief, resulting in accidental stabbing injuries. Therefore, thorny plants should not be planted near graves.
Let's move on to the discussion"Four no"Issue.
i.There are no mirrors in front of the bed.
The main reason why it is not advisable to put a mirror in front of the bed is that the mirror is prone to anxiety and insomnia. In traditional culture, some people believe that having a mirror in front of the bed can easily trigger some supernatural phenomena, and if you see your own reflection in the mirror at night, it will trigger a panic reaction, leading to insomnia and anxiety.
People tend to be dazed when they sleep, and sleeping in front of a mirror can make you feel fearful or anxious about waking up at night or seeing yourself in the mirror shortly after waking up. Therefore, from a health point of view, it is best not to place a mirror in front of the bed, or not in a position that is directly facing the bed.
For some people who are particularly sensitive or easily startled, additional measures may be required, such as the use of eye patches and earplugs, to minimize the effects of external stimuli. Maintaining a peaceful, comfortable, and relaxing sleeping environment is important for improving sleep quality and physical and mental health.
ii.Do not place sharp objects in front of the bed.
A bed is where a person sleeps, and in poor light or at night, if someone touches these items without their knowledge, it can cause scratches or other accidental injuries. Therefore, avoiding sharp and injurious objects in front of the bed is one way to keep family members safe and avoid possible injuries.
In addition, our ancestors were superstitious: sharp man-made objects were prone to evil spirits and adversely affected the fortunes of their occupants, which was of course superstition.
Third, don't put the clock in front of your bed.
The reason why I don't keep a clock in front of the bed is because"Bells"with"Eventually"Homonym, meaning:"Say goodbye to life", which is considered unlucky in traditional culture.
In addition, from a practical point of view, having a clock in front of the bed can also be a bit inconvenient. For example, the sound of ticking can affect the quality of sleep, especially for some people who are sensitive to sound. In addition, if the clock in front of the bed is accidentally knocked over or broken, it may cause personal injury or property damage.
In my opinion, having a clock in front of your bed can be stressful, especially for those who are sensitive to time or prone to anxiety. Seeing the clock ticking can increase anxiety and affect your mental state.
Fourth, don't leave the relics of your deceased loved ones at your bedside.
There are two reasons why you shouldn't leave your deceased loved one's relics at your bedside
First of all, these relics can trigger feelings of sadness and longing, affecting mood and sleep quality. For some people, seeing the relics of a loved one can make them constantly reminisce about their deceased loved one, especially at night or while sleeping, and this emotional touch is likely to lead to problems such as anxiety and insomnia.
Secondly, memorabilia often have a special commemorative significance, but for most people, there is no need to remind themselves of their deceased loved ones at the bedside all the time. Placing relics in a specific place, such as a memory box or photo album, can better preserve and cherish these memories and avoid unnecessary mood swings.
In short,"Three are not planted in front of the grave, and four are not left in front of the bed"The ancient admonition warns us that when planting and arranging the environment, we should respect both traditional culture and aesthetics and practicality. Only in this way can we create a harmonious and beautiful environment for ourselves and our families.