Introduction:
I, born in the 70s, am 53 years old this year, retired for 3 years, and now I am my wife's personal "caregiver".
When I was young, I thought it was a woman's duty to be a good wife and mother
After retiring, I found out that it is a woman's happiness to be a virtuous helper.
In the past, I always thought that my dedication was let down by my wife, but now, I understand that I am being cared for too well by my wife.
The happiness of a good wife and mother and the happiness of a good helper, but what is needed is these two things, and this life is enough!
1. The mentality of contentment and happiness, and the ability to make yourself happy.
It has been said that complaining is an instinct that can be endured and digestedContentment is a competence that takes time to develop.
Three years after retirement, I feel more and moreContentment is an ability
When others complain about the low retirement salary, I think it's good to have enough to spend, and there are many people who don't have a retirement salary;
When others say that their housing is too small and the location is not good, I feel that I am very content in my life, I have not experienced any big storms, and when I encounter the buyout seniority, I insist on following the enterprise restructuring
When others say that whose children are very promising, I think my daughter is very good, although she can't make a lot of money, but she has always done what she likes, has filial piety to me and my wife, and often buys me delicious food, so she is very content.
When I'm unhappy, complaining, or feeling like life isn't going well, I remind myself to be content, to see what I have, and not to always look at what I don't have.
So, three years after retirement,I looked at my wife next to me again, and I felt that he was getting more and more cute, and I once wrote all his benefits to my wife, saying that my wife was a perfect man, which made him laugh for a long time.
In life, living is just a state of mind, and contentment is the best state of mind, which not only calms down your heart, but also improves your happiness index.
In the smoky years, contentment and happiness, let yourself be tempered by life, still love life;Even if I encountered wind and rain, I believed that I could carry it with my wife.
Yang Jiang once said,A woman's decency is that after the smoke and fire, she can still maintain her kindness and beauty-loving temperament, a place of chicken feathers, no one needs to know, the years are quiet, and she is calm.
Life is half complicated, half pure, cultivate at ease, and deal with trivial things.
Learn to be content and happy, learn to let yourself have the ability to be happy, and let yourself live well and live in the moment on the long road for the rest of your life. Stand at your own height, enjoy your own happiness, and cultivate your own state of mind.
Even if you live in a place of chicken feathers, you must learn to pick up the chicken feathers on the ground, make a feather duster, sweep the dust of the years, and enjoy your own happiness easily and happily.
2. The ability to save money at home is the ability to make yourself happy.
In the past, I rarely talked to others about saving money and earning money, but after retirement, I was often asked by my friends how much pension money my family has.
After being asked a lot, I took a serious inventory of my family's savings and found that my stupid way of saving money was still very useful.
When I was young, I suffered from not having money. When my wife and I were in the most difficult time, my daughter couldn't afford a pipa of 3,000 yuan, but my father bought it for my daughter.
At that time, I began to learn to save money, which was called "small savings and lump sum withdrawal" at that time, and my daughter's "education savings", and I would save two-thirds of my monthly salary.
For this thing,My wife quarreled with me, saying that she had no pocket money and was embarrassed to go out drinking with her buddies.
Later, I learned financial management with a sister, and slowly I also understood bank financial management and financial management.
Every time I tell my wife, we are rich old people!My wife will touch my head and say, "You feel content, this is nothing in the eyes of others, there are many rich people."
Happiness is to nurture one's own heart, not to raise the eyes of others, and oneself feels that happiness is the best.
At the age of 53, I have my own house, a stable retirement salary, my wife is retired in 5 years, and although my only daughter has not yet started a family, I believe that she is a self-supporting girl.
After retiring, I participated in self-writing, and after three years of hard work, I can now have a stable income every month, although it is not much, but it is enough for me to buy groceries.
Being content is my strength, laughing is my instinct, and making myself happy is my ability.
Life is a lifetime, but a few decades of time, to be a contented woman, with the ability to make yourself happy, let yourself and your wife hold hands for the rest of your life, and open our beautiful sunset.
In this life, people can get joy and happiness, but they only need itWith a good attitude, learn to be content, make more money when you have nothing to do, save money, and have these two things, you can make yourself happy and live a good life.
Do you think so?
Author: Huagui Zen Heart.
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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