Looking in the sea of people, I finally waited for you to appear.
originally promised to be together for the rest of their lives, but after being together for a long time, they changed from lovers to enemies, and finally broke up unhappily.
What is the reason?
In fact, it is often these three things that can ruin an intimate relationship.
Always high expectations.
I've read a sentence:
"I know more about my bad mood, expecting too much from others, and when the expectations are not met, they turn into anger. ”Expecting too much from your partner will put invisible pressure on the other person and cause a rift in your relationship.
I once saw such a story:
Mei and her husband were college classmates.
The two get to know each other at a college event and have a crush on each other, and the two quickly confirm their relationship.
After graduation, the two got married and started a new family.
Due to the financial pressure, the two often quarrel over money.
Xiaomei will say something like this every time: "Look at your classmates, how well they mix now, why can others but you can?".”
In fact, the husband works late every day and tries his best to fulfill his wife's various small wishes.
He didn't understand that he was very accommodating to his wife, and he couldn't get the other party's understanding in return.
After the heart was cold, the boy filed for divorce from the girl.
Many times, our first impression of our partner is a filter bonus, and we think that the other person is flawless in our hearts.
But after getting along for a long time, you will find that the other party is just an ordinary person.
Instead of always having high expectations, lower your expectations, and you'll find that life isn't as bad as you think.
Insincerity.
What is the greatest sincerity to like someone?
Sincere. If you don't be honest with your partner, you won't be able to build a long-lasting relationship.
A few days ago, I brushed ** and saw such an event.
The reason was that the girl found that the lipstick given by the boy did not seem to be genuine, so she found an agency to check the authenticity.
It turned out to be a fake.
The girl immediately called **, hoping that the boy could explain the matter.
Unexpectedly, the boy actually swore that he didn't buy a fake.
After the girl told the boy about her identification, the other party was silent for a few seconds.
Then he said: "You find another one to test, if it's fake, I'll apologize to you in public, if it's true, let's stop here." ”
Hang up when you're done**.
The girl went back and complained to her roommate: "After three years of getting along, I worked part-time to buy him a genuine watch, and he actually deceived me in this way, I really fed the dog for three years." ”
Sincerity is the premise of love, and no one can accept being deceived by the person they love the most.
There is a crisis of trust, like a flood bursting its banks, and it is difficult to recover.
Mistakenly thinking that apology = reconciliation.
The most disgusting phrase I've ever heard:
"It's all over, why do you keep holding on to it?”Most of the people who can say such things are not genuinely repentant. A fluttering apology is just a good conscience.
Apologizing means acting, and letting action prove your true remorse.
A few days ago, Xiao Min downstairs asked the subject to go to the movies together.
Xiao Min waited at the door of the movie theater for a long time, but there was no sign of the boy. It wasn't until the first ten minutes of the movie that the boy appeared.
The boy kept apologizing to the girl, admitting that he didn't plan the time.
Xiao Min replied: "Forgive me this time, I don't want to have a next time." ”
But in those days, the boy found that Xiao Min was still sullen, and it seemed that the other party was still angry.
The boy didn't dare to complain about anything, after all, he had done something wrong.
So, he hoped that he would do something to make the other person happy.
One night walk, the boy bought the other party's favorite ice cream, saw Xiao Min smiled, and took the opportunity to say: "It was my fault to be late last time, for the sake of my efforts to make up for it in the past few days, we will be okay." ”
Xiao Min replied, "Okay, let's reconcile." ”
With that, the two of them went home hand in hand.
Mo Yan once said:
"Apologize, people do whatever they want, thinking that a sorry word cancels everything out. ”In a girl's world, the act of apologizing without seeing a change is not forgivable.
A thousand-word explanation is not as good as an action to prove that you have reformed yourself.
Write to the end. Maintaining a good intimate relationship requires continuity, but ruining a relationship often takes only a split second.
No one wants to be around someone who is uncomfortable.
No matter who you get along with, treat people sincerely, so that you can be sincere and have the possibility of going on with each other for a long time. For more chasing girl skills and emotional love issues, it is very interesting to pay attention to Brother Yue