I like a quote very much:
"Marriage lasts by two hearts, not by the flesh of both parties. ”The best relationship is to try to be close to the other person's heart, and be willing to understand and understand the other person.
So, love has another name called compromise.
If someone is willing to apologize to you, it may not be really the fault of the other party, but because of reluctance.
Between men and women, if you want to maintain a long-term relationship, one sentence can be summed up: willing to compromise and tolerate you.
Apologizing first doesn't mean more wrongdoing.
Goodbye Lover" Tong Chenjie said:
"The person who apologizes to you doesn't have to be the one who is 100 percent wrong. It's just that that person is willing to apologize to you first, which doesn't mean that you are not wrong at all. ”Many times, each takes a step back and decides whether it is a lover or a stranger.
Seen a**:
A couple had made an appointment to go boating.
But the boy's late arrival and the heavy rain on the horizon made the girl feel very uncomfortable.
The boy did not apologize but asked the other party: Do you still go boating?
The girl was angry and insisted on rowing.
During the game, the two people seemed to be competing, rowing faster and faster.
Now the girl is completely outburst: stop playing, I want to go home.
The boy said angrily: "I just said I wanted to play, keep playing!."”
As a result, the two of them completely broke up. Soon after, the two broke up.
No one is willing to give in, and they all want to make the other party compromise first by making emotions.
Many times, we express our positive claims in the most negative way. This hurts not only yourself, but also the people who love you.
Apologizing first is not to show that you are wrong, but to send a message of love to the other person, to show that you don't want to hurt each other's feelings because of such a small thing.
To be willing to compromise is to give an attitude to solve problems.
Debater Zhan Qingyun once said when talking about her relationship with her object:
"Either way, he would pull me to the same side and solve the problems in our relationship as a whole of 'we'. ”If you want to be in a long-term relationship, emotions will only push you further and further. The best thing to do to solve a problem is to make a compromise.
I've seen a story:
Xiaoli has been working a lot lately and gets off work late every day.
But when he opened the door, he found that the TV was loud, and his husband was sitting on the sofa playing games, and he didn't notice his presence.
Xiaoli's emotions completely exploded: "I'm tired to death every day at work, you have to play games all day long." ”
The husband had a premonition that his wife was not in the right mood, so he immediately turned off the game and asked the other party what had happened.
His wife sat on the sidelines, ignoring him.
The husband felt that he was very innocent, after all, he was usually like this, why was he scolded today.
After thinking about it carefully, the husband began to say, "I'm sorry, how old is playing the game today, so can you set a time for me?" ”
Xiaoli glanced at the other party before telling her about the bad luck she encountered at work, and then apologized to the other party that she couldn't help yelling at the other party.
The husband thinks it's nothing, and the problem is solved.
Ma Weiwei once said:
"People with strong hearts are prone to apologies, a small right or wrong is not enough to change the direction of my life, and a short bow is not enough to change our so-called family status. ”Apologizing is not the point, the point is to use this gesture to tell the other party that you want to solve the problem, hoping to eliminate the estrangement between each other.
Knowing how to tolerate is to hope that you don't get angry.
I like a quote very much:
"The person who really loves you is the one who bows his head first, waits for you to be emotionally stable, and then teaches you the sophistication of the world. Because he cares more about your emotions than about winning or losing. ”It doesn't matter if it's right or wrong, it's important not to hurt each other's feelings.
On a trip, a friend and a partner got into a fight over a trivial matter.
Originally, I planned to take a cruise to see the scenery, but my friend stopped on the bank of the river because he was sulking.
The boy asks his friend what's wrong, but he doesn't want to talk to him.
The boy looked at the time and said, "If you don't go, you won't be able to get on the boat." ”
The friend replied angrily: "If you want to take a boat, then you can go by yourself, I won't stop you." ”
The other party was stunned for a moment, and whispered, "I'm sorry, don't be angry." ”
A friend asked him, "What's wrong?".
I was too stubborn just now and should have listened to you. ”
The atmosphere eased a little, and the two of them chatted for a while by the river before they got things out.
The friend realizes that he misunderstood the other person and apologizes to the other party.
But the boy said: "It's okay, it doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong, the important thing is that you don't get angry, I don't want you to be unhappy when you come out." ”
There is no right or wrong in love, it depends on whether you are willing to be the one who bows your head first.
Because I care about the other party, I naturally don't want the other party to be unhappy.
Write to the end. As the saying goes:
"Bending down is not to admit defeat, but to pick up the happiness that has been lost. ”Whether it is life or love, we must learn to endure.
Always raising your proud head will bring a lot of troubles to yourself, and you will constantly miss your happiness.
Love needs to take turns bowing their heads and accommodating each other.
In a relationship, you can tolerate each other, which is loving the right person. For more chasing girl skills and emotional love issues, it is very interesting to pay attention to Brother Yue