In this fast-paced society, we often encounter some people with serious problems in their original families. They may have experienced ups and downs on the road to growth, or they may have suffered domestic violence, emotional abuse, etc. However, these experiences did not make them stronger, but instead made them further and further averted on the path of life.
When we spend time with these people, we tend to feel miserable and helpless. They often behave in a way that makes us feel unacceptable and even questions our own values and outlook on life. We try to understand their suffering, but we find it extremely difficult.
These people may constantly confide in us about their plight, hoping to gain our sympathy and support. However, when we tried to help them, we found that they were not willing to change their lifestyle. They may have become Xi to a negative attitude towards life and are resistant to any suggestion to try to change their lives.
In this case, we may feel helpless and frustrated. We tried to change their thinking and behavior, but they rejected and resented it. This frustration can cause us to feel guilty and make us feel powerless to change the fate of others.
However, we need to understand that our preferences and values do not change the fate of others. We cannot force others to accept our ideas and values, nor can we expect them to live our lives. Everyone has their own life trajectory and values, and we need to respect their choices and not try to change them.
When we can't like those whose original families are "rotten", we need to learn to accept their choices and fate. We can try to connect with them, understand their inner world, and give them support and love. But we can't try to change the course of their lives and let them live the way we want them to live.
In this complex society, we need to learn to be tolerant and understanding. We need to learn to accept different life trajectories and values, rather than trying to change them. At the same time, we also need to learn to cherish our own lives and not let other people's problems affect our lives and moods.
When we face those who have serious problems in their family of origin, we need to remain calm and rational. We need to try to understand their pain and difficulties, and give them support and love. However, we also need to be clear about our own bottom line and principles, and not let other people's problems affect our own lives and moods.
In this rapidly changing society, we need to learn to cherish the present and embrace the future. We need to learn to accept different life trajectories and values, while also learning to maintain our ability to think and make choices independently. Only in this way can we gain a foothold and grow in this complex society.