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In our experience, girls tend to mature earlier than boys.
This is because in a child's brain, there is a membrane called the "myelin sheath", which makes the information transmitted by neurons in the brain faster and more efficient.
The myelin sheath is in the girl's brain, and when it grows to about 20 years old, it is already mature. In boys' brains, however, they are not fully developed until they are almost 30 years old.
This is why many boys need to be about 30 years old when they start a family and start a business, so that they can really mature and stabilize and no longer look "naïve".
What are the significant differences between boys and girls in their brains when they grow up?
Raising a daughter, maybe with your eyes and raised tone, she can immediately sense that you are angry, and then immediately calm and behave.
Or when she sees your frowning brow, she will ask intimately, "Mom, are you uncomfortable?"”
But raising a boy, you may be so angry that he still giggles and makes a noise"Mom, what's wrong with you?".Are you angry?”
At this point, you want to give him a broom and tell him if you're angry. But even after the fight, you ask him, do you know why his mother is angry?
He still looks at you blankly: "I don't know, maybe you have a bad temper." ”
It's really not like the boy was deliberately naughtyRather, it is because boys' prefrontal and occipital lobes develop more slowly than girls.
The prefrontal lobe is primarily responsible for regulating emotions, while the occipital lobe is responsible for receiving sensory information.
While the girl's prefrontal and occipital lobes are already able to observe your subtle facial expressions and resonate with them, the boy can't receive your emotional signals as if the signal connection is turned off.
Parenting Skills:
Don't blame and compare"You see how obedient my sister is, you are not sensible at all as an adult. ”
It is possible to tell the boy directly,What he does, how you feel, what you want him to do。This allows him to understand the impact of his actions more intuitively and develop empathy skills.
When the girl can tell you the cause and effect of the matter, and the ins and outs, the boy may only nod his head next to him: "She's right." ”
If you ask the boy a few more questions, he can't answer a few words for a long time, and finally impatiently throws down the sentence: "I don't know, don't ask!".”
Boys master the ability to "speak" about a year later than girls.
A child's brain develops slowly from the right side of the brain to the left side. The left brain of boys develops later than that of girls.
The left side of the brain is in charge of words and language, and because of this, girls can read words much faster than boys.
Therefore, in the lower grades, girls generally perform better than boys, and their vocabulary and ability to form words and sentences are far ahead of boys.
Moreover, when we get along with children, we generally communicate with words. Tell him what he can do and what he can't, teach him what this is and what it is.
When the girl can quickly understand our instructions and communicate with us "without barriers".Boys, on the other hand, rely mainly on nonverbal (e.g., body movements).
As a result, we find it difficult to talk to a boy, and if you say it a hundred times, he won't listen.
Parenting Skills:
Encourage your child to express his feelings and thoughts. Don't discourage him, listen patiently and make him feel that talking is a very relaxing thing.
When girls have conflicts, they usually "convince others" by reasoning, arguing, or starting a fight.
And when the boys have a conflict,They are usually faster than their fists and brains, and they can use their hands and never shout.
In girls' brains, estrogen and progesterone dominate, so girls pay more attention to emotional connection. They usually form groups and get along with each other.
And in boys' brains, testosterone is dominant, which makes them aggressive.
The friendship of the boys, usually the one with the dominant strength, acts as the "leader", and the weaker children, acts as the follower.
Because of the different hormones in the brain, boys and girls behave very differently on a daily basis.
Girls are relatively quiet and also like games related to emotionsFor example, playing at home and playing with rag dolls. This allows them to experience emotional interaction.
Boys, on the other hand, can't sit still, preferring to hold a stick or play a game of running and chasing, which allows them to release their body's active hormones.
Parenting Skills:
Raising an active boy will consume more parents' energy. But we should not force the boy to "sit quietly" or watch his phone TV in order to calm him down.
You can take your child outdoors more often, so that he can release excess energy through making friends or exercising.
Research from the University of Pennsylvania has found that women's brains, if not thinking, are just as busy as men's brains are when they are thinking.
When it comes to things, girls think more and think more carefully than boys.
Boys' brains are more "task-oriented". They go straight to their destination and get the task done, and what they do is not in their consideration.
But girls pay attention to more information, both to complete tasks and to do things well and satisfactorily.
In the face of emotions, girls will take care of more. For example, will it hurt others?Will it cause trouble?What will others think of me?
Whereas boys use "amygdala" more. If you have a temper, you either fight, vent your emotions directly, and be reckless;Either run away and simply bother to pay attention to you.
In addition, boys use the right brain, and girls use the left brain.
The use of the right brain makes the boy not good at wordsBut the good thing is that it has a strong sense of space. They are good at machinery, drawings, design schemes, terrain, etc.
Although in the beginning, boys did not achieve as well as girls. But as the subjects increased and the difficulty of science increased, the boy slowly showed an advantage.
In the upper grades, many boys will catch up with girls and even become the best.
Parenting Skills:
In fact, whether it is a boy or a girl, we need to see the difference that the brain structure brings to them.
Boys are not good at expressing themselves, and we canTeach him more emotional vocabulary and guide them to express their feelings in a gentle way.
Girls think too much, and we need itGive her a sense of security and feel the love and acceptance of her parents and family.
In terms of learning, we should not be too anxious about boys, and we can cultivate more language skills. For girls, we need to pay more attention to her understanding of space and abstraction.
Only in this way can boys and girls move forward steadily and grow up healthily
Do you have any of the above differences between boys and girls?
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About author:Cuckoo mother, psychological counselor, family education instructor, marriage emotional counselor, focusing on children's psychology, understanding children's easy parenting, if you like it, pay attention to it
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