The Four Disciplines of Lifan is a family motto made by Mr. Lifan in the Ming Dynasty at the age of 69, although the length is short, but the connotation is profound. It is favored by many politicians, entrepreneurs and other celebrities at home and abroad.
Every time I read "The Four Disciplines of Fan", I will have a lot of feelings, and I may not feel that as I grow older and more experienced, I will experience Mr. Fan's wisdom more and more.
Among them, there is such a story that explains "bias", that is, a person is bullied and abused by others for no reason, but because this person is too honest and kind, he kills people instead.
Lu Wenyi, the prime minister of the Ming Dynasty, resigned from his official position and returned to his hometown, because he was an honest and fair official, and his reputation was very good, and the common people praised him.
There was only one countryman, who was very vulgar and scolded Lu Gong after getting drunk.
Lu Gong did not get angry, but said to his servant: "This person is drunk, don't worry about him." So Duke Lu closed the door, ignored him, and let him scold.
This person is even more arrogant.
A year later, this man committed a terrible disaster and committed a capital crime.
Lu Gong regretted it at this time, he said: "If he was sent to the government for punishment back then, he could be restrained in his conduct and work with a small punishment, and he would not have committed capital crimes in the future." At that time, I only wanted to be kind-hearted, so I didn't bother with him, but I didn't know that he had developed the viciousness of an outlaw who was not afraid of heaven and earth, which led to such a result. ”
If a person is too kind-hearted and always chooses to settle things, it is easy to boost the prestige of others, so that he is arrogant and domineering, and he does not know the height of the sky.
Generally, the daughter-in-law of the family is particularly domineering, and the husband is usually very cowardly.
Being arrogant and bullying people too much is actually not a person's character, but a Xi. Among them, there must be people who always choose to retreat and tolerate and slowly cultivate.
The same is true for the upbringing of small children.
Some children are very young, their personalities are very poor, they can't play with anyone, they always make trouble with others and bully others.
Such children are generally over-pampered.
One day, when there is a catastrophe and no one can save it, it will be too late.
Many sons of celebrities have disappeared from the eyes of the public, which contains the result of connivance.
All the **, at the beginning, started with small greed, and slowly the amount became amazing, alarming the above, and finally imprisoned.
There is also "small gambling pleasure, big gambling hurting the body", and in the end it is difficult to stop and go bankrupt.
A lot of things are not big, but they just lack such a person to teach him a hard lesson.
When a person is unreasonable, don't get used to him, you should give a strong rebuttal, so that he will never dare to provoke others in the future.
This is not a small mind, this is the real help of the other party, a kind of kindness.