Feelings are mutual, and only by giving each other can there be long-term possibilities.
Wishful thinking will only tire you out;If you love too much, you will only be despised.
In fact, in a relationship, there are often these 2 people, who will not be cherished!
01. It's easy to get
There are some things that you have at your fingertips and almost no effort, but in fact, you have already labeled this thing as "cheap" in your heart.
In fact, the same is true of feelings, but if there are some people who have been chasing you, you don't think they are valuable, because they are at your fingertips.
Your value does not depend on what others think of you, but on where you put yourself.
Smart people know how to "collect", even if they care about a person in their hearts, they pretend not to care very much.
And we often treat relationships like this, when a person does not show that they particularly care about you, we will make some actions to please the other person.
But if the other party behaves like you, you are very important, then we will not rack our brains to make him happy.
Therefore, the more difficult it is to get, the more we value it, and the more rare it is, the more cherished!
02, can hurt
Some people hurt you, if you say it's okay easily, then the other party will subconsciously feel that you don't have to pay any price for hurting you.
Once hurt you, you forgive;The second time it hurts you, you give in. The number of times you hurt you, you didn't make any moves to show that you were hurt.
Then, the other party will only feel that it hurts you, and there is no cost.
In fact, sometimes, the other party looks down on our position, and we give him such a hint, implying that he can hurt me casually.
If the other party hurts you, if you forgive you easily, it will also make people think that you are easy to talk, and people who are too good to talk are easy to be used and bullied.
There is such a sentence in "The Loss of the World":
My misfortune lies precisely in the lack of the ability to refuse, and I am afraid that if I reject someone, I will leave a rift in each other's hearts that will never heal.
When a person values a relationship in particular, he can give in occasionally, but he can't compromise all the time.
If it hurts you, you have emotions, you have anger, but if you don't show it, others will think that you still have room!
And then they will test you and hurt you again and again.
Some injuries are the responsibility of others, and our good speech is also a responsibility!