In today's society, the importance of human relationships is becoming more and more prominent. Whether it's in the workplace or in everyday life, building relationships with others is a crucial thing. And Mr. Yang Jiang's point of "don't share any joy of success with them" really caused people to think deeply.
First of all, from a psychological point of view, there is indeed a bad psychology in human nature that cannot see others better than oneself. When we flaunt our successes and superiority to others, it is easy to provoke jealousy and hostility from others, which can damage relationships. Maugham also emphasized that "overcoming vanity and controlling the desire to show off" is also a kind of self-cultivation and control of interpersonal relationships, and it is a clever communication skill.
Second, the presence of vanity can cause us harm to others. This hurt is not necessarily verbal, but mental. When someone becomes dissatisfied and jealous of our show-offs, they may talk about us behind our backs or even take some confrontational behavior. The harm caused by this vanity is actually destroying the relationship between oneself and others, and it is also a very unwise behavior.
Furthermore, showing off is actually a sign of lack of confidence in yourself. Only people who are truly strong, confident and calm will not care too much about the evaluation and attitude of the outside world, and do not need to show off to gain the recognition and appreciation of others. On the contrary, people who are truly weak in heart will constantly seek self-affirmation and satisfy the emptiness of their hearts by showing off.
Finally, as a member of society, we should be humble and cautious. We should learn to attract others with our actions, not to attract the attention of others by showing off. As the old saying goes, "If the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it." Walk above men, and all will not". Therefore, we should put more energy into improving our inner cultivation and ability, and win the recognition and respect of others with practical actions.
In short, avoiding show-off and vanity is a realm and attitude that we should pursue in interpersonal communication. People who are truly strong in their hearts will know how to cultivate quietly, treat others truthfully, and win the respect and love of others with practical actions. This is also a kind of wisdom and cultivation of interpersonal relationships, and it is also a kind of baptism and growth of one's own heart.