China, or East Asia, has been an agricultural civilization since ancient times, and it is not the life of nomads who go on horses to fight, ride horses and herd sheep, but have always been in the mode of male farming and female weaving.
If a man wants to speak in an agrarian and civilized environment, he must go out of the house. Staying at home and not stepping out of the door is what the ladies do, not the work of the masters. Therefore, although China has now entered the commercial civilization, the set of moral norms and codes of conduct of the agricultural civilization has not been abandoned, as long as you are a man, as soon as you are an adult, your parents will drive you out to work. A person can only be considered a true adult if he can support himself.
Moreover, in ancient times, all work was done by men, both men and women. That's why when you get married and marry a wife, the man will pay a bride price, which is to tell your parents, they will raise you for a game your family will not lose, you see that your family has lost your labor force, and he will compensate your family for the bride price. Even a high bride price makes your family feel earned.
However, please note that the man gave so much dowry, was he willing?How is it possible, no one's money is blown by the wind. Money is not a leaf on a tree, you can pick it. So, in order to earn back his bride price, after marrying you, he will call you to weave cloth without sleep, and use the women as cattle and horses.
At this time, your parents know that there will be a possibility of this kind of encounter, and in order for you to live better in your in-law's house, the other party will not dare to underestimate you, bully you, and let you have the right to speak and stand under the other party's roof. Therefore, a dowry was given, a dowry equal to the bride price, and even a dowry that was more than double the bride price. Tell the other party, be careful, my girl is money, these dowries are her personal property, you dare to bully her little finger to try, his father I know not to take someone to break your dog's legs.
After all, men and women are not equal, you have to be rich, and naturally they will not be equal. Therefore, the bride price is to tell you, come with me, you are my property, at my disposal, at my disposal, at my arrangement. And what about the dowry?is to tell the other party, you are farting, look at the old lady's property, you dare to abuse it, Lao Tzu doesn't need money to smash your dog's head flat. Not to mention action, you'd better not even have the idea of pit me, otherwise, who tortures whom, it's not necessarily?
You see, if you want to be equal, you have to have something to support you. What is the best support?It's going out, it's working, it's making money. As long as you can make money and the economy can be independent, you don't depend on people, but people have to rely on you, naturally you have the final say, and naturally you will be equal to what you want.
The root of equality is to make money, the right to speak and count, and the right to decide the distribution of wealth.
So in this world, as long as you have the opportunity to make money, whether you are male or female, as long as you can have wealth, who is not the same as whom?What is the difference between men and women?
Therefore, people should go out of the house, exercise their abilities, improve their skills to make money, and look for opportunities to make a fortune. When the time comes, the man will stand up to the sky, and the daughter will be able to hold up half the sky.
Don't always think about something: you are responsible for making money to support your family, and I am responsible for being beautiful like a flower;In order to prevent you from looking for a junior, the salary card must be handed in in in full;I can go out and get my hair done, and you'll have to make money to spend on me day and nightWhether you want to have a baby or not, it depends on your mind, there is no gold bracelet, there is no silver necklace, the jade diamond is not in place, what baby you want, you can't go to bed.
You're so neat, oh huo, what fool will give you his life savings at your disposal, he won't find a young, ignorant and less demanding little girl again, flicker, give birth to a bunch of children, and don't make you half angry.
In this world, no one is a fool. You make the abacus clang, and other people's calculations can spare you a little?
Therefore, Sensei always thinks that he can't earn a penny, but asks others to give you all the bitterness to spend at will. You can spend it, or be a big heroine in everything, order him to ask for instructions early and report late, and even buy a steamed bun with your consent. However, you have discussed with him about buying so-called solid wood furniture such as jadeite, agate, and yew?
This person has to be his own bitter money, and he is tough when he speaks. You do this twice, you treat him as a tool man, an ATM, you want the horse to run and the horse is not full, who wants to be this kind of wrongdoer?It's no wonder that he doesn't transfer property and doesn't divorce you. After all, if you eat it with grass and milk when you squeeze it out, it's a cow, not a person, and it won't be a man.
Therefore, whether you are a man or a woman, study more, go out more, stay at home less, cultivate the ability to be independent, get a job, be able to have money to support yourself, slowly, equality will come, you have the final say, it will come, and more confidence.
Relying on others to support you is not a living. Being able to raise it by yourself is a real tool.
Note: This article is for my daughter, let her read it when she is older.
Return. Homecoming, to which hometown?
Kunming, Qujing, Jianshui, Dongchuan
This is a problem.
The cuckoo cries for spring.
But he did not hear the partridge, and cried back.
It is the best weather when there is rain during the Qingming season.
A faint mood, a quiet mood.
The mouth reads the return.
But the body stays where it is.
Let your thoughts fly thousands of miles.
A winged warbler.
Can you lend me your singing voice?
Over there in my hometown, is there rain in Qingming?