Many parents believe that school education is a key factor in determining their child's academic Xi performance. Therefore, it is necessary to send the child to a good school to study
In fact, children's Xi performance is not only related to school and teachers, but also related to the education of parents.
Family atmosphere and Xi habits also have a huge impact on a child's academic Xi performance.
A good family is a good school, and a family that pays attention to the way of education often does not have too bad Xi children's academic performance.
If your child is getting worse and worse at school, you may want to see if you have the following wrong ways of parenting.
Reprimand, beating and scolding educationMany parents will feel that establishing rules and authority for their children is the most effective magic weapon for family education.
They will treat children in a persistent and resolute way, using punishment, reprimand, and scolding, in an attempt to establish rules and establish authority.
As a result, the child is either forced to obey or rebel and refuse to cooperate.
Maybe when the child is young, treating him in the form of reprimanding and scolding can also make him obedient.
But when they grow up, the child learns to resist. The more a parent forces a child to do something, the more disgusted the child becomes.
For example, if parents want their children to learn Xi well, the more they will hate learning Xi.
Therefore, the education of reprimanding and scolding is likely to make children rebellious.
Not only will it not improve the child's grades, but it will also make the child more bored with school, or even skip school.
As the older generation said, "filial piety comes out from under the stick", in fact, it is not so practical in today's society.
Parents need to abandon the kind of education method of reprimand and scolding, and really go into the hearts of children to solve problems.
Fatigue educationWhen it comes to the final exam or the summer vacation, parents have to enroll their children in various training courses, for fear that their children will fall behind others.
In fact, in the face of various academic Xi pressure, as well as various training courses, many children are reluctant.
This kind of fatigue education is simply a kind of mental torture, and the school engages in tactics and is asked to learn more content when you return home.
This will only make the child physically and mentally exhausted, and eventually even lead to a mental breakdown.
You know, every child's energy is limited.
Overload of Xi will bring harm to children's physical and mental health, resulting in children becoming more and more poor in learning.
Arranged and accompanying educationChinese parents will always have an inexhaustible heart for their children, and Chinese-style accompaniment has become a high-profile educational issue.
A survey of 7,925 people conducted by the Social Survey Center of China Youth Daily collected data through online surveys showed that:
62.5% feel that the current "Chinese-style accompaniment" is more common;"There is a scholar at home, and the whole family is busy. "It's a relatively common phenomenon.84.9% said they had parents around them;
57.4% felt that high school was the most common.
Many parents always like to worry about their children, always ask long and short questions, and accompany their children to learn Xi all day long.
In such an environment, children's initiative to learn Xi will become weaker and weaker.
This kind of education method is also easy for children to misunderstand that learning Xi is not just his business, and slowly children will develop a lot of dependence.
Nagging educationMany children feel this way – they get annoyed when they hear their parents nagging.
In fact, nagging education will only bring children "I don't listen, I don't listen." ”
Children are more inclined to learn Xi through their parents' actions than their parents' nagging.
Parents' nagging is just because they don't trust their children enough and don't feel at ease enough about what they do and say.
That's why they repeat it over and over again, and they become more and more nagging!
In fact, children can do a lot more than you think, and parents don't need to nag their children about this and that.
Children will always have a certain rebellious mentality, and sometimes they can't tolerate excessive nagging from their parents.
Parents nag about everything, but it is easy for them to take detours. Therefore, nagging is one of the stupid ways to tutor.
Drop-in education
"Why did you fail this exam again, why are you so stupid".How do you feel when you hear these words, and you must not feel too good in your heart, right?Do you have a long brain, you can do such a simple question wrong".
How did I give birth to such a stupid child as you? ”
In fact, the number of education is more terrible than the nagging!
Because counting is not a simple repetition, but with obvious condemnation and blame.
People make mistakes, and children will always make mistakes. But some parents will keep counting when they see their children making mistakes.
As a parent, if you have such behavior, you must pay attention.
This kind of digital education will not only destroy the child's Xi state of learning, suppress the enthusiasm of the child's Xi, but also hit the child's self-esteem.
As a parent, you may wish to replace the number with encouragement, so that your child can feel your care and love.
Expediting education
"Hurry up and do your homework, or you won't be allowed to eat. ”Chinese parents like to urge their children to do things, so why should parents keep urging their children?Get up! Get up! Wash your face, brush your teeth...”
You're going to be late, and you're going to have to grind! ”
Because they feel that the child is too abrasive and disrupts their rhythm, they in turn disrupt the child's rhythm.
In fact, for children, the most comfortable, smoothest, and most beneficial thing is to follow the natural physiological rhythm.
If the pace of a child's life is too fast, it will affect the body's hormone secretion, which can cause physical and psychological damage.
Many parents like to repeatedly emphasize to their children, urging them to do something.
If your child gets bored of listening, he may say, "I wanted to learn, but I don't want to learn when you push me."
If the child has such a rebellious mentality, it will become more and more difficult to discipline.
Always urging the child is not the way, the best way is to let the child do something consciously and voluntarily.
Stop pushing your kids and say "take your time" to our kids!
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Parents are the first teachers of their children, and children are educated by their parents from birth.
Therefore, the parent's education method is especially important for the child, and don't use the above wrong education methods to educate the child.
Giving your child the right guidance can benefit your child for a lifetime